Ok to make a long story short, my man of 10 1/2 yrs cheated on me with a known homewrecker(she purposely goes after only taken men), anyways we decided to stay together and work it out, and he has told this girl, but she wont quit calling and texting him and me. She leaves some pretty scandalous messages, and they are mostly lies.(I know cuz she will say he is right there next to her or whatever, but he is really with me) and I tell him to tell her, and he says he has, yet I never have heard him do it. And he will say he doesnt have to prove anything to me. (HELLO YES YOU DO YOU BURNED ME IDIOT) LOL but 4 reals, how can I get her to stop?
2007-11-21 22:10:51 · 22 answers · asked by desire69666 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he certainly does have to prove it to u, and not act so arrogant about it when u confront him. make him tell her right in front of u, or tell him its over with. she continues to call because he obviously hasn't made it clear to her. change your number, get a protective order on her and make him tell her right in front of u. he is the one who cheated and he does owe u complete honesty, he does have to show u until u are satisfied with the situation. she is trying to get u upset, so u will get angry at him so he will come to her.
2007-11-21 22:57:16 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you; your husband must, in front of you, call her and tell her she can waste her time trying to contact him all she wants, but he will never, ever respond to her messages or calls again. She is doing this to make you angry, and it is working, so that she can have him back. But, he owes it to you and to your marriage to call and make a clean break. If he is not willing to do so, there is a reason why. He has to understand that when he and you decided to stay together, it meant he had to get this woman and her influence out of both of your lives. This is part of the earning back trust. Tell him to be a man and step up to the plate. If he truly loves you, he will do so.
2007-11-22 04:47:07 · answer #2 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to spend $60 or so and go to your local court and take out an order on her, he sounds like my ex! so get an order that she can't come near your place . The police try to help but you have to go to the court house and do it! He will say you are paranoid etc. (we know better!) Keep a diary and call the police every time she is a pest. Good Luck. Stand your ground! S :)
2007-11-21 22:31:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key here is his attitude: "I don't have to Prove anything to you!" That's not love. Women don't continue to call unless they are encouraged to do so, period! Somebody is not telling the truth. If he's not willing to tell her to stop in front of you then that speaks volumes! OH, and by the way, SHE is NOT a homewrecker. Your husband freely and willingly chose to be with her. Don't forget that! He chose to caress her, kiss her, have sex with her, lie to you. It's always easier the second time.
2007-11-22 04:14:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report her for harassment. Hopefully she will at least get a caution and will realize how serious her behavior is. Or contact a lawyer about getting out a restraining order.
(If it was me I'd go down a more vigilante path, but I can't advise anyone to do that.)
2007-11-21 22:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by My Dose Makes Angels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly. i admire you for getting past it. i couldn't. he wouldn't have a penis if i found out he did that.
this girl sounds hilarious. how pathetic of her. i find it a bit suspsicious that he is beign defensive about telling her to stop calling... anyway. before you change your number. mess with her head a bit. answer the phone and ask for a threesome. or for the two of you to hook up. just confuse her in any way you can think of. text her and ask what undies she's wearing. once you get bored of it, just buy a new sim card
2007-11-21 22:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by maraesa1000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he does have to prove to you that it is definatley over. You should ask him to show you any messages he recieves from her, and if he has responded to her, you should ask him why, if it is legit then you should ask to see the messages he replied to her. If you two are trying to work things out, he owes you open and total honesty, 100%, no questions asked. If he can't provide that to you, then he is not 100% about working things out with you and you should consider your options. Good luck and I hope he starts being "totally" honest with you.
2007-11-21 22:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by violet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't that's up to him. Change your phone to an unlisted number, and report her to the police for harassing phone calls (record some of them as proof).
By the way if she still calls after you change the number, then he gave her the number and don't want her to stop calling.
2007-11-21 22:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your home phone and your cell phone numbers and Make sure he doesnt give it to her..although by the sounds of it there could be something going on between the two of them still...sorry to say that...and i honestly wouldnt put with someone who cheated on me....
2007-11-21 22:18:19 · answer #9 · answered by eyesicyblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is calling you you can file charges against her for harassment communication and have her arrested.
Change phone number
Block her number
These are just a few but hope it helps!!
2007-11-21 22:33:45 · answer #10 · answered by rene1695 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋