Ive gotten into some organizations to help the physically handicapped. And now ive found that my friends... well so called friends ive grown up with... are betraying me just because im hanging out with the physically and mentally handicapped. Its not right... I dont see why people dont understand things the way I do...What can i do?
d.michael.reed@gmail.com
2007-11-21 21:52:12 · 16 answers · asked by hobiesailor07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well, i guess your so called friends are not really your friends... if you can try to explain to them then well and good if not then don't mind them, as long as you know that you're doing the right thing then there's no problem.. you can find other friends who will understand things the way you do..
2007-11-21 21:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by c bit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change friends. If the people you have grown up with can not support you for helping those who are in need of help, you really should not worry about what they think. They are ignorant and selfish. On the other hand, some people act that way when they are in a group. Try and talk to one of them without the others being present. You may find out that, taken individually, they are not as bad as they want you to think. If that is not so, definitely look for more sensible friends.
2007-11-22 05:58:36 · answer #2 · answered by Maria Rosa V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends must be very young if you are having this problem. I think that as you all get older this won't be as much a problem. In the meantime; you may want to make some new friends. How about in that organization you've joined. It would be a great place to link up with other kids who also like working with the handicapped.
2007-11-22 06:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by Kaye 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is TERRIBLE! I worked with challenged kids for a year and i know it can be very rewarding. You should ask your friends if they realize how awful they are acting. And ask them why they would tease you about it. You should tell them to come with you sometime. I would think that if they actually got to know someone with a handicap they would understand it better. Honestly, the guilt trip is the best policy. You should make them feel embarrassed for how they are acting. And if you should lose a friend in all this, its not really a loss is it? If one of my friends had been that way to me I'd have told them that its pretty sad that they couldn't respect my handicapped friends with their physical or mental shortcomings, because they would undoubtedly accept them for their obvious immaturity, emotional shortcomings, and social awkwardness. I hope your friends realize how negative they are. What goes around comes around.
2007-11-22 06:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by friendtoall 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To be honest if they are making fun of you then I wouldn't fully call them friends. Are you sure they are making fun in a nasty way? Have you spoken to them about how you feel about this?
I think that what you are doing in helping these organisations is a really good thing.
It might be best to talk to one of your friends that you trust the most, and find out what is happening.
Sometimes I've found that some guys make fun, but try and not do it in a nasty way. I know it may involve some confrontation to your own feelings, but stick to what you believe in.
Be true to yourself, you can always make new friends. I know its hard to let some friends go who have been with you for a long time, but if they are doing this in malice, perhaps a judgement rehtink is needed.
2007-11-22 05:57:49 · answer #5 · answered by Chrysanthemum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you chose to be friends with the handicapped then you are a hero to them and i bow to you it takes courage and commitment to do what you are doing if your friends are acting this way than what kind of friends are they in the first place i say if they don't like it or tease you about it let them find new friends once they realize that what your doing is a rewarding challenge then they will come back to you with a completely different attitude again thanks for helping most people are scared of the very issues you are facing and they would rather sit around doing nothing about it
2007-11-23 02:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by nealtugboattwo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work with your friends just as you would with the handicapped. Be patient and loving knowing that each of us is only capable of understanding what we are able to in the moment.
2007-11-22 06:00:38 · answer #7 · answered by Itsme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that they are jerks. Tell them that they need to learn how to understand people that are less fortunate than they are. It is ashamed that they can be so cruel and rude because you are a wonderful person for trying to be there and help the handicapped. You will be blessd for it.
2007-11-22 05:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to them that you have a passion for helping people who are not as fortunate as your spoiled-taking-everything-for- granted friends are, and if they can't understand that, then they aren't the amazing people you thought they were.
You can find other friends, probably working with you that you'll have much more in common with.
Keep doin what you're doin and keep being you!
2007-11-22 05:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by xXEdgeXx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOUR FRIENDS ARE IGNORANT!!!!!!!!! Does it make your heart feel good to work with handicapped people? My hats off to you. I did and still do special olympics for the past 15 yrs.
2007-11-22 06:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by naturegirlhd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋