I found Son's SUICIDE letter!!!! Help???????

Question

I accidentally found my son's suicide letter when i was cleaning his room and he is planning to end his life this christmas....

i dont know how it would end up like this where my son his having counselling now but its like i finally realised my son is a completely a different person from the person i know since his birth after i read his letter..... my son's name is Alex and he is always a happy and optimistic boy as our family knows it and everyday back home he would tell all about his happy things about school and all about his friends except i found out he made up it all up after revealing it in his letter in his letter he thinks of this world as cruel and cold but we never knew he would even think about that... maybe i did not put enough care for my son but i just dont know why Boys tend to keep all their feelings inside them....

now I am worried my younger son which is only 13 this year im afraid he would turn into his brother later...Please Help us???

Answer 1

If you seriously believe your son intends to commit suicide, immediately call your local hospital that has a psychology unit and have your son admitted. Many will send someone to your home to talk with the suicidal person and will bring him to the unit. Your son does not have to agree to be admitted, suicide patients often are admitted against their will.
Also call you local or state suicide hotline for instruction on how to handle the suicidal son and how to address your concerns about the younger one.
Good luck, there is so much pain when ones child is this sad.

Answer 2

Poor kid... Im no pro at this, but you should send him to councelling. He really needs to realise that happiness is a great thing to have and it wants to get to him, he just has to open the door. Does he have any interests or talents? Like football, writing, painting, cooking... anything at all? Get him onvolved in a class of that, or if a class isn't possible, just give him some sort of access to people with similar interests.
Plan things. Plan vacations, trips to places he's always wanted to go. Just give him all these opportunities in life that he knows he'll only get if he chooses to live. But councelling is the most important thing right now. You should ask the councellor if this advice is Ok, as they have done the degree, I'm just typing off the top off my head.

Answer 3

1st and foremost you need to get him into a doctor ASAP... BEFORE you get him to a counsellor. A doctor will put him on medication straight away.... whereas therapy could take months and months to achieve what anti depressants could do in a matter of days. Once he is on the correct meds THEN seek counselling to assist him and you all even more.

Quit being afraid and just step up, be a mother and pull out all stops to get your son help, just as a good mother should.

Wishing your son a speedy recovery.

Answer 4

He most likely lied about friends and school being great, happy people just don't kill themselves.

Your son needs help urgently, go to the school ask how is your son fitting in there does he get picked does he have many friends, this will help you gather some information about who your son is when he is not around family.

Maybe you should go to a phyciatrist as well.
do family counselling anything that will get your son back on track

Answer 5

If you were able to find this, your son didn't go to great enough lengths to hide it. And that could mean he wanted it found, so someone could step in. I think you should get your son to a counselor right away and talk to him about this. He needs you, even if he resists it. Let him know how much you love him, and that life does get better.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Get family counseling. Be sure everyone goes and talk out all your fears and troubles. Show your love and concern for both your sons. Give them room to express their feelings in return. Good luck.

Answer 7

This is the MOST important time right now for him. He needs to talk to a professional and get his feelings out. To be on his side, you have absolutely no idea what is in his head. If he can talk to someone on the outside then he might be able to open up better and eventually more to you.

Answer 8

you only have one thing that you have in your first aid box that works on this sort of thing you are his mom you are his whole world i really think mothers under estimate how much influence they have on there children you need to talk to him tell him you love him no mater what he does he is your son talk and listen to what he says but remember you are his whole world boy's always have a very special place in there hearts for mom good luck mom

Answer 9

thank God you found the letter. now you have to pull all of your inner strength together and get him help. it will not be pleasant. as hard as it will be to get him to a facility for help, it will be harder to bury him. it's a nightmare anyway you look at it. he will probably hate you and curse you but he is important and can get through this with help. show your 13 yr old that you will do everything possible to help either of them and that you are there for them. I had to do it..once it was heart-wrenchingly painful. and it has taken years (almost 8) for him to deal. and he is doing fine now. just get help for him, do not worry about how he feels about it at the time...it's the long term you need to think about. good luck to you and your family.

Answer 10

All I can do right now is to play for you and I strongly encourage to play for your son. please note that people who end their life are far more different than others it is a disease, and continue to support your son in anyway you can. please spend as much time as you can with him.

note that your other son is a different boy it will be unfair to Shadow him your old, s son, behavior.

this is a time that you need play and turn all this to God, remember that there is no burden God will place upon you that you can not handle

Good bless you