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i ve been married 5 years and we are together 10 years and we have 2 small children Last nigh when he was sleeping i saw in his mobile fhotos of making love in hotel,ourcar,my mother in law house and in our home with a woman which is happen to know her and talk not mutc iam so scared that my family fall apart idont want my mother and my father to know this it wil kill them and the husbant love the childern very much To me he says he loves me and never want to divorce he is saying that he is going to die if a leave him and does not see the children i dont know what to do

Answer 1

If he tells you he'll never do it again.

My question to you is, can you believe him or ever trust him?
Really trust him? One night when he doesn't come home on time, will you start thinking he's doing it again?.

If you stay, stay cause you love him and you will be able trust him.

Don't stay because you don't want to hurt the children . Marriage is between two adults husband and wife, not husband. wife and children.

People don't want to hurt their children by divoring, but what do you think happens to the children by staying in a marriage that that no longer has love and or trust? A marriage that the stress is so thick you can cut it with a knife?

Kids will sense that somethings up even if you and your spouse try to keep it a secret from them.

Your the adult and you need to do what's best 1) For yourself 2) Children 3) Family.(yourself, kids and spouse)

If you become a basket case over this then will be unable to do what 's good over all for the kids.

Divorces are very hard for all that will be affected by one.
A positive that can come from a divorce, especially if it's civil. Is that even through the children are hurt, that they can heal over a divorce.

If you stay and there's always stress, that's like having a open wound that will not heal.

If people stay together and not say anything to the kids. When they find out it could be worse, then if you just separeted. You may teach you child to have trust isuses.

When you stay and the love and trust are gone in the marriage and are unable to live as a real couple (no matter how much you think you can).

The kids will not learn the real meaning and values of a family.

If the kids are raised in stressful and feeling less environment. As they grow and start their relationship, they will not know what it's really like to be in a healthly relationship.

They are likely in their lifes to have the type of relationship they have experience through out life.

I'm not saying that you should divorce your husband, only you can answer that!

What I'm saying or asking, is do you still love him?
Can you trust him?
Can you live with that?

And if you stay for the kids and act like it never happened, think how that could effect the kids in the long run?

Your husband is adult and new what he was doing was wrong and could destroy the family.

If he didn't know what would happen if he got caught then why was he running around behind your back.

Know matter what you end up doing, I tell everybody in this type of matter to seek professional heip.

All people I've know that didn't get help and conviced themself or their spouse conviced that they could do it alone failed.

The one that had the affair ended up involed in another affair or the other spouse was unable to really trust the one that had the affair.

If a divorce is your choice make sure that you and the children seek help.

I know it hurts but be civi in the divorce with your spouse, better for the kids and makes you the better person.

It's your choice, I'm sorry.

The very best!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Be there for her and try and get her to talk to her parents... By her talking to them gives her more options on wether or not she wants to keep it or even adoption she has more options now than she will later. Her parents will find out eventually just make sure it's not to late. And be a good friend and try and help/guide her to make the choices she wants and not what anyone "wants" her to do because she am has to deal with it later on in life no matter what she decides... And like the girl before said her parents will grow to the idea and yes there's a chance they'll loose it but the won't hurt her or the baby. So encourage her to make her decisions that will benefit her in the end.

Answer 4

So you don't want to leave, and you want to stay with him? Then do so, but don't expect him to stop cheating. If you can't live with the fact that he is a player and a cheat, then leave.

And he is so stupid as to take pictures of the events. Man, he wants to get caught.

Make up your mind. Either leave and find someone else, or stay and let him continue to make you feel worse about yourself.

And Him.

Have some ovum and figure out if you deserve better. If you do , then leave.

Your children deserve better too. He doesn't want to lose his family but he takes time away from you and his children to be out diddling other women, obviously everywhere.

Doesn't sound like a loving husband and father to me.

Good luck,

N

Answer 5

If you have seen the photos of him making love with another woman then that should be enough to tell you something! He's having an affair,being with someone else,if that was my husband doing this i don't think i'd want to work things out & be with him,that's a pretty big betrayal!! I guess all's you can do is live with the fact that you aer'nt the only woman in his life,sad for you.

Answer 6

How could you see those pictures and not whip him upside the head with the mobile?

I wouldn't care what he said. he clearly doesn't respect or care about you or his family or he wouldn't have done what he did. I would not put up with that and that phone would have been shoved so far up a place he would be walking funny for a longggggggggg time!

Just because you guys are not together doesn't mean he can't see his children. If you let this go he is going to do it again!

Answer 7

Actions speak far louder than words. Unfortunately, he feels he can get away with the best of both worlds; stability and family with you, intimacy with the other one.
I wouldn't say anything right now, but plan on getting away with your kids. He no longer loves you, otherwise he wouldn't be doing this to you and the kids. Put money aside, and plan for your getaway and meet someone who loves and is devoted to you alone. Dont believe a word he says. You have proof otherwise.

Answer 8

I would not stay with him. Not only is he dumb enough to risk his marriage but he took pictures. The rest of your life will be like this if you let him get away with it. What else has he done that you just did not catch him doing? If he didn't want a divorce he wouldn't have cheated.

Answer 9

you need to confront him about this privately and see if you can work it out. you cannot be married with someone who cheats on you or you cannot trust. thats not healthy. itll tear YOU apart and then get to the family.

Answer 10

Kick cheater to the curb drag his @ss to court for all hes got make him hell to pay