For me Thanksgiving was always celebrated at my house with extended family until i was 11, then my dad left and we -my mom and sis, spent thanksgiving with a cousins wifes family who we had nothing in common with and verbally abused us.
After going to his house for 10 yrs we decided to stop, he was so mad he has not spoken to us in 4 years..
To me Thanksgiving reminds me of bad memories, anyone else feel similar?
2007-11-21 19:22:11 · 11 answers · asked by lux s 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
No, I love my family even though my cousins and uncles all have issues with us. Its usually just my mom, dad, me. my brother and uncle. This year my mom went to Poland while my other uncle came from Poland to get his green card. It should eb fun tomorrow.
But again our whole family [outside our small family] talks **** about each other but when we come together every things okay...
2007-11-21 19:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has been in Iraq for two years. He's the only family I have because my parents are divorced and both are completely dysfunctional.
I spent last Thanksgiving and this Thanksgiving without him. I also spent last Christmas without him and will do the same this year.
Yes, I'm very depressed, sad and lonely. I could have cried all day.
People with "normal" families don't understand how we feel. But if their families were full of uncomfortable memories, life would be sad for them too.
I would never allow myself to become this way, but some people turn their sadness into anger - thus I understand how some people can get "Scrooge" syndrome. It's probably easier for them to push the world away, rather than feel the pain and hurt of aloneness during the holidays.
2007-11-22 20:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by Snuggly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the last best thanksgiving memory i have is when i was 13
where my mom n dad and sisters n brother were eating thanksgiving all together
we were still little kids so there we didnt argue at the table then..lol
i dont know its weird i had a feeling then that i would remmber that day for a long time
i guess because i knew my mom n dad were going to break up
every other year it never felt the same and thats the same for christmas that year seemed to have more meaning to it then ever before.. ( they got divorced that summer)
2007-11-24 02:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by cinnamon apple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same here. All holidays when I was at home were miserable and really, really abusive to me and my brother both verbally and at times physically.
Some people think that people like us just need to snap out of it as far as the holiday blues but it's not a switch you can turn on and off. Those events were very real and we associate the holiday "joy" with depression, anger and even rage.
Take Care and Good Luck
2007-11-22 03:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by thefinalresult 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My Family if you cant even call it that isn't much of a family anymore, I have 3 brothers 2 o of those brothers don't give a crap about me, When I went to one's house with the 3rd brother the brothers house i went to didn't even say Hello to me.
My Parents are divorced, And everybody else couldn't give 2 shits bout anyone else. that is the way it is. Some people are more fortunate then others and that is that. just as one of my brothers no longer really gives a crap about his family instead his wifes family is his family now, not his. its the way it is. My family is My Mom basically and one of my brothers nobody else no longer matters to me. and My dad has so many issues he might not live much longer i believe, its life for ya. and holidays make you think bout all that.
2007-11-22 03:33:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes. I also have negative memories to holidays, a lot of the times, my mom would be in a very bad mood and sometimes pick a fight. You look so forward to the holidays and usually they do not live up to the hype, at least not for me. It can be very dissapointing. I am depressed today, like usual and as a matter of fact , stayed home from the dinner at my husband's family, pretending to be sick.
2007-11-22 18:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some Holidays have unpleasant memories.
**Thanksgiving is very depressing when you have alcholic or mentally unstable realatives, and you are walking on egg shells.*** i have learned, i can choose who i spend time with and it's okay if they are mad. The angry people are always that way, nothing to do with you or me! live and let go!
I prefer to spend Thanksgiving with my spouse away from abusive people.
I don't have the happiest of Thanksgiving meals, and frankly, i'm really pushing this to have a meal for my family, just us.
I decided, forget the turkey, bbq ribs, and pie, and bisciuts and honey and jam, and yams, and pumpkin pie, hubby likes cool whip............and perhaps fried chicken!!
NO reason to be abused for any holiday or anyday ever.
WE choose who we grace with our time!
2007-11-22 03:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by Lilly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a sad story, but I can relate.
Thanksgiving always used to be a hustle-and-bustle exciting time for me growing up. As the years passed, people moved far away, others passed away, and some relationships turned sour.
Now it is a very quiet holiday. Thinking back on fun it used to be, yes, it is depressing =(
2007-11-22 03:31:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanksgiving isn't depressing, but the 10 pounds gained as a result are.
2007-11-22 03:30:06 · answer #9 · answered by Val 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i feel like any occassion popularly observed where i live makes me feel left out, regardless of whether i celebrate the day myself. christmas, thanksgiving, fourth of july, & my birthday make me feel like some sort of dorky loser for being such a loner. however, holidays occur every day of the year somewhere in the world.
2007-11-22 03:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by marfan's syndrome 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋