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I'm 13 years old and my boyfriend has been feeling my butt and everything else and has even been hinting toward having sex, but I'm a shy person who gets nervous when it comes to getting close or even hugging at that matter. Although I really want to have sex, but I' extremely nervouse about it. I was wondering if there's any advice out there from any of the guys who has had a shy girl like me and was able to turn them on and work pass their shyness?

2007-11-21 16:25:42 · 61 answers · asked by shy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Adolescent

61 answers

ohkay.
please read this.
im 14,
and im soo in love wtih my boyfriend.
everybody thinks that bs cause *you cant be in love at 14*
my bf and i are so so close too.
he wants to have sex too,
but were both pretty nervous.
but you knoww hat?
reading this, im lik ewoah, shes 13 and hse wants to have SEX?
like, im 14, only one year older then u.
now i realize its ridiculous.
u shouldnt be having sex at this age, trust me sweetie.
i know how u feel, and i know its anoying when ppl r like
OMG WAIT TILL UR MARRIED
like that will happen.
but please, hold off a bit
i also know its annoying when people say
"if he really loves u he will wait"
which thats obviously true
i know ifur like me, then ull be afraid he will leave cause u love him or something like that maybe?
but trust me, please wait.!!
i understand what ur going through
im not gonna lie
i want to too, but im also nervous,
and im like oy,u shy, but i want to be able to work passed it so that he gets turned on and stuff

but please wait :)
haha message me if u want.
xoxoxo

2007-11-23 11:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by autumn x 3 · 0 0

13 is too young to have sex! Think of all of the responsibilities that come from having sex!
(1) You can become pregnant.
(2) You can get an STD.
(3) How will your parents feel when they find out?
(4) You can NEVER go back.
(5) So much more.
You are so young with a lot of time to think about what you
want in life. I waited until marriage at 18 years of age and had a son at 20. No regrets at all! Do you want to risk regretting it for the rest of your life? Think about it. Seriously. Take care and I hope you make the right decision.

2007-11-21 16:53:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Since you're nervous it's a clear sign you're not ready. You'll regret it. I had friends that were nervous and they had sex and they regret. I was in a committed relationship with my fiancee when we both lost our virginities to each other. We were so sure and neither one of us has ever regretted waiting for each other or having sex. You're so young. . . Do you really want to give your virginity away right now? It really is a gift. Sex can bring about a lot of physical and emotional pain. Not to mention that your running the risk of getting pregnant and getting an STD. Are you ready for either of those things? Good luck I hope you make the right decision.

2007-11-21 17:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Why is it that most of the people that have pre-marital (or at least pre-21 yr old) sex end up regretting it while those that wait until they are at least 21 or more are glad they waited?
Hhmmm...correlation? I think so!

13 is WAY too young. If you are half as mature and smart as you think you will wait until you are at least 21. As for him, if he cares for you at all he will wait, not push you, and/or be around as a friend. Also, when in doubt pray about it. And if you don't want to pray about it then...ask yourself why you don't want to pray about it? The answer will be b/c you are not smart nor mature enough to face the fact that you are not ready. Hard to hear but very likely true if you are asking an internet world full of strangers whether you should have sex or not.
Best of Luck! GB & HT!

2007-11-21 16:39:05 · answer #4 · answered by Maxbps 2 · 0 0

I'm sorry, I'm not a guy, but honey, you're too young to be having sex. Do you know how much this means? Sex is something that should be done when you can say that you are ready to have children with your boyfriend. You have your whole life ahead of you. Do not have sex. You are totally right to be nervous. That is your body telling you that you are not ready. If your boyfriend does not respect you for not wanting to have sex, then you need to stop being his girlfriend. What might end up happening is he'll use you for what he wants, then he will give you up. You will be emotionally hurt because girls get emotionally attached to guys they have sex with, and guys do not have this same emotional attachment. Do not give up this early. Wait, and if your boyfriend loves you, he will wait for you.

2007-11-21 16:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by Lala Head 3 · 2 0

Can it sister. Do something useful with your time. If you do take the plunge very soon yoou will be asking what to do as your boyfriend has left you and you are pregnent, or you are not but since you have given him everything you don't know what is left to give to another, or you'll be worried as to whether your future husband will find out that you had sex with someone else. Save yourself the stress, mastrubate if you must, but lay off you will be doing yourself a favour. If your boyfriend still loves you sincerly then he will be willing to wait for you till you both are married. Think seriously about it, If he leaves you he was not worth it, as he will be trying to get into bed with someone else before he has got over you.

2007-11-21 18:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by rita 1 · 0 0

In all honesty, if he can't keep it in his pants and continues to pressure you into sex, you need to loose him. Sex isn't something anyone should take lightly and there is no reason why you should be having sex at your age. You won't have a lasting relationship with this guy, eventually you guys will break up for whatever reason, and when that happens you first was with a douche bag who couldn't even respect you enough to wait until you wanted to have sex. Being shy about sex is a good thing, it shows you have a good conscience.

You shouldn't even have to worry about those pressures until you are at least 18. Maybe not marriage, but you will save yourself a lot of heart break if you just wait till you are older and more mature. Sex has a completely different psychological impact on females than it does on males. We can have sex and any place and time and would like it, but a girl needs more than that, she needs secuirty. So you should wait until you feel safe and comfortable, and if he can't wait, then loose him cause he isn't worth it.

Your dad should really kick his *** for pressuring you into something like that.

2007-11-21 16:48:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

Your gonna get pregnant!! ...Don't do it...why hurry? Your only 13, just turned a teenager. Life is gonna go on every day weather you have sex or not. Only 1 will lead to a possible child being there with you for the next 18 YEARS for you to care for and feed and cloth and all the other responsibilties that come with a child. Think about it..

2007-11-21 16:33:18 · answer #8 · answered by lonebear76 3 · 3 0

Depends on the culture of your country. 13 is too early to have sex. Your B/F cannot force you to have sex. You did the right thing by punching him. do not do any thing which yiou do not like. Having unprotected sex before marriage will be risky. You may become pregnant. Then you will have to go for abortion. This will spoil your health. If at all you have sex, make sure that he uses a condom.

2007-11-21 21:06:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I figure its probably a good idea to wait. If you wait then later on you can use the pill and you'll be more developed and able to do more. If you try to do something right now you could get pregnant even with a condom. Its something that you'll want to wait on, and its better a bit later down the road.

2007-11-21 16:38:17 · answer #10 · answered by RandomMan 4 · 0 0

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