Ok, my best friend of 16 years told told me that he was gay. Hes been trying to tell me for 2 years now, but havent had the courage to.
OK, WHAT should i do!? i don't know what to do! OMG we usually have SLEEP OVERS!!! i'm so scared now! We were like best buds! he's like a family to me. Should i stop letting him crash at my place? I used to sleep with him!!! I remember when he wanted to sleep in bed with me, i KNEW it, i started having a feeling...Well then he goes "We're men, don't worry about it"
2007-11-21 16:13:42 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
You just said he was your best friend. I hope not to hurt your feelings, but: He is uhm...your BEST FRIEND?! that has not changed. His sexual preference has nothing at all to do with you. I hope, if you meant it, when you said he is your BEST FRIEND...that you would see how hard it was to admit this to you . and really try not to make it worse by treating him any differently. I mean...can you imagine..if being heterosexual was the "weird" thing..and you had to tell your best friend that you liked women? and he acted by not letting you sleep over at his Mom's house, cuz you liked women? For all he knows all heteros will hit on any female..c'mon... gay does not mean weird ..does not mean they will want EVERY male or female..it is just a preference...don't freak..be a friend..sounds like your friend needs you to prove you are real..be real...don't be one of those people...
be the best...not just the best friend..but a real human being... someone needs you.
be there.
2007-11-21 16:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki Tesla 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If your friend confesed to you that means he's counting on you to be there for him and trusts you with this secret specially since being gay is really hard to live with and so many people are against it.If you're truly his friend you will stick with him and if you feel wierd around him just tell him straight up,"I'm here for you and I understand that you're this way but I'm not and I don't want to give you the wrong impression. I'm you're friend not anything beyond that ok?" Hopefully he'll understand and I hope I helped you!
2007-11-21 16:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by ............. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What are you worried about that he'll want to sleep with you?? I'm gay and most of my friends aren't and I respect that they aren't and I wouldn't put moves on them even if I was attracted to them.
If he knows that you're not gay he should also respect your privacy and not ask you for something that you can't give him. But that does not mean that you can't continue to be friends with him. My best friend and I knew each other since we were eight year old and were still friends over 40 years later when she died. She knew that I was gay and I knew that she wasn't it was never a problem because she knew that I wouldn't make a play for her and it never bothered her that I was a lesbian.
His being gay shouldn't make a difference to your friendship if you're truly friends with him. His sexuality is just one part of who he is and that hasn't changed just because you now know that he's gay. He was gay two years ago and it didn't make a difference to you. He's the same person now as than you just know more about him than you did than.
2007-11-21 16:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by Kathryn R 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He was your best friend before he told you right? Ok. Well, have a heart to heart with him and let him know your not gay and you have boundaries. There is no reason you should stop being his best friend. If you are now uncomfortable with having sleep overs let him know however, if he didn't try anything before its doubtful he will after you have this talk with him. Sleep overs are fine but draw the line at sleeping with him. Tell him he has to sleep in another bed or on the floor.
2007-11-21 16:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_sensation775 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You should accept him for the way he is. If you are his best friend, then you should accept him no matter what. Just think about what you would want him to do if you were in his situation. Just because he is gay doesn't mean that he has a crush on you. Treat him the same as you always have.
2007-11-21 16:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by indigo.death 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Aww. Be a good person to him. As his friend you should give him what he needs most right now, support. As almost family he's probably not going to hit on you like that. Straight boys and girls can be friends, so a gay guy and a straight guy can be friends just fine, especially if theyve known each other for years. Give him advice and be there for him. Try not to act differently around him because if you ditch him now in his time of need, you might scar him for life. He really needs your help right now.
2007-11-21 16:19:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because he's gay doesn't mean he thinks about you like that. If you trust your friend to be mature, you can trust him to keep his mind out of the gutter. I mean, nothing happened at those past sleepovers, right? He was gay then, too. Did he want to sleep on the bed so he didn't have to sleep on the floor? Another way to put yourself at ease would be to discuss this openly with him. Ask him to explain himself.
On the other hand, aren't you a little old to be having sleepovers?
2007-11-21 16:20:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
one of my best friends is bi, and i don't really care. Having a homo friend sleep at you house shouldn't matter if you know you're not gay and won't do anything. A lot more people are gay than admit it, chances are you have a couple more friends or friends of friends that are gay. at least your best friend had the guts to admit something like that.
2007-11-21 16:21:06 · answer #8 · answered by Ben 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Here's an idea - grow up and step up to the plate and be a friend. Say, "Thanks for trusting me. I'm there for you, man." Why do straight men always assume that every gay man wants to hit on them? I am a lesbian, and I have never once in thirty years hit on a straight woman. Why would I? I'm a lesbian! I like lesbians! I think that if your friend hasn't grabbed your weenie once in sixteen years then your weenie is safe. It's hard being gay - don't make it worse for him by being a jerk.
2007-11-21 16:22:09 · answer #9 · answered by jane7 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh, calm down. What do you think you're supposed to "do"? Just keep being his friend, for god's sake. Being best friends with someone who's gay doesn't mean anything different from having a best friend who isn't.
2007-11-21 16:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by Marie 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋