Should I be mad at my husband for this situation?

Question

A while back I was talking about about this exercise man on the FIT channel. His name is Gilad. My sister and I make sarcastic jokes about him. We mimmick the accent....well my husband overheard and said"There's a girl at work , she's fine and I'd like to f*ck her!!!" I couldn't believe my ears. I was totally disgusted by his comment, but I ignored him because I was not going to let him get to me.
Well...tonight we went out to dinner.....We were waiting for our food. There was a guy in front of us with crazy black and red hair. I said"Look honey you should get your hair like that." I was being sarcastic. He looked at me and said Well I wish you would get tight pants like that chick over there. " I feel he is not a very nice person. I really do not want to even speak to him. I am upset...should I be? I am not making any sexual jokes they are just sarcastic remarks and he comes back with sexual references.
NoTE: This is my husband's yahoo acct

Answer 1

You should be really mad, he has a complete lack of respect for you and your feelings.......why do you stay with him?

Answer 2

There's no earthly way to determine the nature of his remarks based on your written account only. If I took what you're saying at face value, then he's a tool. If I take into account that your telling of this situation is extremely biased, and that his version would be 100% different, then the only possible conclusion is that you AND your husband need to sit down and work this out. Go to him in a gentle fashion and ask him if he will talk openly and honestly about all this, and see if the two of you can't explain to each other how these comments are affecting your marriage. If he will not talk with you about this, then again, he's a tool. This is the only way to reach a resolution - there's no sound bite you'll glean from this website that will help you.

Answer 3

The most important part of a healthy relationship is communication and trust. I personally think you need to talk to him. Make sure that he understands that when you are making these silly comments, they are just that... silly comments. Remember men and women, we all think differently. Many times it is not what we say but what they think we said that can get us in trouble. If his comments about other women are bothering you, let him know that. He may think he is just being sarcastic as well. Make sure that you approach the topic gently though. You do not want him to think you are coming after him and make him go on the defensive. Good Luck, I know this is a difficult situation for you, however you never know, this could be one of those small things that will make your marriage even better!

Answer 4

It sounds like you have played your part in the current breakdown in your relationship... your comment 'I wasn't going to let him get to me' sounds like you're playing games and may have been manipulative. Why would you husband make such an outrageous comment if it were not to try and get your attention?? I'm sure he's probably said that and the other sexual references because he trying to get your attention or even just some reaction out of you, and it is probably purely out of frustration. I may be wrong, but I may be right, and if I am, it might be worth taking a look at your role in all this.

Answer 5

You and your husband need to talk these matters out and you need to communicate to your husband that his remarks really offend you. Don't argue with him, talk to him, and find out why he would make such comments. It sounds like to me that he mistook your mimicking of the man for you desiring to f*ck him. Now the 2nd time at the restaurant was your fault because you started that with "you should get your hair like his" which is the ultimate insult to a man because you're basically telling him, "you just aren't good enough as you are and I would rather be with that other guy because his hair is like that."

Answer 6

HA-HA-HA-LOL-LOL-HA-HA!!! Thats the funniest thing I've ever read! It's str8 out of a Family Guy or Simpsons episode. Is this really all there is to this story. No one overhears their wife and friend talking with a playful accent comes into a room and says "Theres a girl at work. she's fine. i want to hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. Run sweet lady RUN!

Answer 7

One thing that is very important in marriage-respect. Mine would never make comments like that-because he's not that kind of person...and also because I won't tolerate it. I demand respect and also give it.

I would be mad...but he needs to know how you feel---you have to make him aware of the problem and give him the opportunity to fix it.....after that, I guess it's up to you how you want to live out the rest of your life.

Me? I can be happy alone.....I won't be miserable and/or disrespected...I don't deserve that....neither do you.

My hubby and I joke around constantly and give eachother hell....in a playful way---never to be mean or hurt feelings.

Answer 8

You started this little competition you need to stop it and apologize. He is upset by the remarks you make. You both need to grow up. You can start by apologizing for the remarks you make that set him off.

Answer 9

My husband thinks if he's not normally sarcastic sexually, then he's being an as$. If that's how he normally is, get over it.

Answer 10

Yes on his F. comment, then my husband said "sounds like you like to stir up the poop with smelling the stink"

Answer 11

its okay to be mad at him and i think that his references have gone way too far. i don't quite think he knows that you are just having a little fun. he is just joining in the fun and he is probably jealous. you might want to tell him that you are just having some fun next time and that you don't like his remarks.