I'm not sure I'm still in love with him. We married when I was 17 and I had my first kid 3 days after my 19th b-day. Now I've gined a few pounds and he treats me like ****. He thinks that i'm a housemaid, he won't even let me go to school to get an education... It really pisses me off!!!!
2007-11-21 15:03:24 · 11 answers · asked by c_mize85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has gotten the idea that just because you are married he can treat you like rubbish. Tell him that you will leave unless he changes, but make sure that you are prepared to follow through with the threat otherwise nothing will change.
2007-11-22 04:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by Very happily married. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you married too young... It can be difficult to have a successful long-term relationship based on a decision that you made when you were 17, but not impossible. You should talk to your husband and work on strengthening the communication between you two. You don't need his permission to what you want with your life, but you do need to discuss any big changes in life, and lifestyle with him, and him with you. Go back to school, definitely, but allow his input on where and when, because the timing with having children involved could be an issue. Ultimately the decision is up to you, and you husband should support you in what you want to do with your life. Communication is the key to a successful relationship and marriage, work on this, and ask him to work on it too. If things haven't improved after a few months of trying very hard on bettering your communication, then you can seriously question whether the marriage is worth pursuing any further. Good luck with it all.
2007-11-21 23:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by violet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is 2007, not 1957. If you want to go to school then go. If you want to work, then work. He can not forbid you from doing those things. Sounds like he's abusive in his attitude towards you (putting you down and keeping tabs on you). That's not love, it's control. Seek counseling and if he's unwilling (and probably is) then you have a valid reason for divorce in my opinion (strictly based on what you typed here that is).
2007-11-21 23:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should be with your husband. Till death do you part, remember?
That said, if you want to go back to school just do it! Take some classes at a community college, they're cheap.
Talk to your pastor, get some counseling. You have your whole life ahead of you and your family still has a chance to be very happy together!!
2007-11-21 23:17:52 · answer #4 · answered by Shana B 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a controlling person. Go to counseling. A divorce would really hurt your little one. Try to work the marriage out before you make the decision of divorcing him!!!
2007-11-21 23:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by chilly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who doesn't support your wanting to better yourself...is no good for you....they only want to control you...I've supported my wife with failed business adventures and I would still support her wanting to better herself....Education is a great thing and there are a lot of people who don't want to do it...the fact that you do, says a lot about the determination and desire you have.....Sounds like he will work hard to knock you down....it's like the old saying ... " crabs in a bucket"...When crabs try to crawl out, others will do everything they can to pull them back...Good luck.
2007-11-21 23:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well now you know why everyone told you not to marry so young. I guess you are stuck with him.
You should go on tour all around the country giving speeches at high schools and colleges about being too young to get married.
2007-11-21 23:11:55 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No one can answer this for you. Weigh your pros and cons. You do deserve someone who will treat ou better. Sounds like he is trying to keep you down so that he can control you.
2007-11-21 23:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by specialsuber 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should leave him alone. you can do it, by yourself. you should love yourself more than you love him. you are not his maid either. you have low- self esteem about yourself. take care of yourself, and return to school. he don't own you. you are the owner of your mind and body. do something to better yourself. everything he says to you is a lie.
2007-11-21 23:25:35 · answer #9 · answered by lizrobledo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The younger you are the better, get out of this relationship and start fresh a new career and life.
if you gained weight so be it, everybody does!!!
2007-11-21 23:08:25 · answer #10 · answered by suehellen 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋