how do you think that would effect a person?
mentally, socially, emotionaly?
and how do you think it wuld affect relationships?
2007-11-21 14:53:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
no it has not happened to me.
it happened to my boyfriend.
just trying to figure out whats going on in his head and how it effects him.
2007-11-21 15:04:13 · update #1
to the ninja person...I highly doubt a 5 year old did anything worth that happening...idiot
2007-11-21 15:08:25 · update #2
Any violent act that is forced upon a child or an adult against their will is certainly going to have a long term affect on how they view themselves and any future relationships that they have.
Studies have shown that some people suffer from depression and feelings of unworthiness.....and some never learn to trust anyone.
Rape, molestation or any violent act is a terrible thing to do to anyone.
These people carry inner scars for the rest of their lives.
2007-11-21 15:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by sugarbee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Priests are very much respected. Since they are God's representative to us. Just imagine the impact of a priest molesting a child.
First, betrayal. The person's trust is broken. The child/person could no longer trust other people and would often doubt ones intentions. He would be suspicious of the motives of those who try to get close to him, also those with authority.
Two, there can be two results from this situation. Either guilt (because he enjoyed the abuse which is possible, and is guilty because he knows he shouldn't) and great anger that an cause either withdrawal from close ties (people group) or superiority complex.
In relationships:
He could be more controlling in a relationship a he tries not to let the situation happen again (where he is much controlled by the priest)
Also he can be trust a person less and would often doubt his partner's loyalty to him.
Hope to have helped!
2007-11-22 00:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by coolblueacid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it depends on the person. Some people can take the hurt and anger and let it go and go on to lead productive lives, others let it get them so down and love to play the role of the victim all their lives, using the abuse as a crutch to justify their own behavior. You see this a lot in prisoners, they'll say, well I was abused as a child, that's why I grew up and committed crime. It's up to each person to decide how they want to live, whether they've been abused in the past or not. That being said though, I would think being abused by someone in a religious authority over you would make you very suspicious of religion and make you turn away from church.
2007-11-21 22:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fail to see how (mostly by priests) has anything to do with it at all. Any authority figure who breaks the trust of a child and abuses them, be it a parent, a coach, a teacher, a pastor, a government official, etc, etc. has caused trauma to the person they violate.
Now, everyone is affected differently by trauma. Dont expect anyone here to be able to explain how it will affect your boyfriend. Only he can determine that. I know many who have been traumitized by someone, and they all are affected differently, from withdrawing to being extremely well adjusted.
If you care about your boyfriend, then take him at face value. Do NOT assume anything. In fact, unless he wants to talk about it, I would not give it (the violation) any consideration at all.
2007-11-21 23:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by TNguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think it would affect you pretty bad in all three ways. A priest is a person you should be able to trust, so if you're talking along the lines of a child then a figure of power thats supposed to look after them is abusing them, maybe they wont be able to trust anymore. They may become secluded and pent up their emotions. With no trust, you can only have the most basic relationships based on power gain and taking advantage of eachother.
2007-11-21 22:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual abuse can have devastating results on a person, in every way, that can last throughout their lives if they never deal with it!
It is also because of the violation of their trust and position, (whether a family friend, relative, priest, or anyone known to the child beforehand, that they had felt safe with), that affects people, as much as the violation of their body!
The only way past it, is to face it, deal with it and put it behind you, so it can't have any more power over you or your life!
I hope this helps!
2007-11-21 23:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by Watsit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh! I am very sorry for your boyfriend. I can imagine how He has had suffering. I think this kind of abuse it affects a lot to the victim in all means even sexually. Some victims when they grow up; hate sex, or feel really bad about it, and of course a relationship can get affect a lot just because of this victim's trauma. Sorry
2007-11-22 02:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by Princesita 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about relationships, but generally victims of that tend to think it's their own fault. It causes them to think they are a horrible person. A lot of them have trouble telling their parents, I even know of some victims who told their parents years later or didn't even tell them at all. It can also make them very afraid of men.
2007-11-21 22:59:11 · answer #8 · answered by Ivy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a metaphysical question. On one level it is devastating but on another level it is their karma. It means that they did something to bring upon themselves. Specifically doing it to someone else and then when they died, they think that they got away with it. Whatever goes around, comes around.
2007-11-21 22:59:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a silly question because we all know what it means. Tragic with long term effects. Has it happened to you?
2007-11-21 22:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋