I am seen to my wife as just a provider sometimes(she works also, but i am the breadwinner)
The only person that ever told me she was happy for me was an ex-co worker who had a crush on me over a year ago before I left my former employer to go to my current company where I have had all this success.
She called me last year when i got the offer and she told me how happy she was for me and that i deserved it and that she was rooting for my sucess. This disturbed me that my own wife was not happy for me but another woman who i found attractive as well was happy for me. She also is in the same profession I am(Automotive Fiance Business for OEM japanese Manufactruers.). And professionally I may have more in common than my wife.
Anyways, why can't my own wife be more happy for me?(We have been married for 8 years and she rode the tought imes though before the recent success)
And I found out this female(single) former co-worker was trying to contact me recently.What do I make of this?
2007-11-21 14:48:15 · 13 answers · asked by polar bear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We both work for Japanese automotive manufacturers
2007-11-21 14:49:26 · update #1
your wife is jealous because she's worried you will become very successful and cheat maybe leave her. maybe she has a feeling you are building female friendships at work and you may secretly think you are out of your spouse's league. when someone has a crush on you they will always try to make themselves seem sweet as suger but you and your wife know eachother inside and out. their is nothing better than real love and nothing worse than losing it.
2007-11-21 15:04:55 · answer #1 · answered by The Misses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people unintentionally take advantage of one another when they're married for a few years. That doesn't mean your wife doesn't care about you or doesn't love you or is not happy or proud of you for your success. Also, it's not unusual for coworkers to praise one another on their successes, so I wouldn't read into it any more than that. But, if this female does start to actively pursue you, you need to keep your morals in place. And, talk to your wife about how you feel. She has a right to know and you have a right to make your feelings known.
2007-11-21 15:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by Sondra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot achieve happiness through other people. Your happiness is your responsibility.
If it is a pat on the back that you need so bad, go ahead and give it to yourself.
Besides, are you sure you are not simply ignoring the real issue at hand?
Good luck.
By the way... what does any of this have to do with Japanese auto manufacturing? Your statements regarding this aspect of the matter only make me suspect you are missing the crux of your marital problems.
2007-11-21 14:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you have kids? Has your wife taken care if things while you have gotten to the top, if that is the case maybe she is feeling a little jealous. Maybe you have changed since your success. As far as this other woman I would seriously queston her motives. And I would talk to your wife about it.
2007-11-21 15:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by specialsuber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems kinda funny you talked about this other woman more than you did your wife. Sounds like she isn't the only one not going to bat for her partner. Maybe you should be more concerned about the marriage and your wife and go from there.
2007-11-21 15:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by William B music lover 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
are u just trying to find a reason to cheat on ur wife with this other lady???? what does her looks have to do with her being happy for u??? u know what u want to do u just want to put it in a question so u can get some encouragement....but im sure ur wife IS haopy for u she just doesnt know some woman is all up in ur face so she doesnt have to compete with whos haopperi or not...
2007-11-21 15:08:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me express you congratulations for your recent success !! Wow !.
I understand your resentment, it must be tough. The only way for you to know why your wife seems to be blind and deaf to your success, is asking her directly why she has said nothing.
I understand your feelings, thoughts about your former co-worker, it was very nice of her to congratulate you, however, take it easy. search you soul, listen at what your wife has to say, be honest to her, try to rekindle romance, see what happens. Who knows what's in your wife's mind, let her talk.
Good luck, and best wishes for more success in your job, and in your life !!
2007-11-21 15:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by Idon'tlivehere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, you have such a fragile ego. Man up!
I'm personally glad my wife takes little interest in my life. My life is busy enough without her having to be involved in every little thing.
2007-11-21 14:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do, you know that this is how my wife was a while back.....until i got pissed at her.. and said whats the problem.........
well, we had along talk.. come to find out, she wasnt raised with praising people.. because her mom and dad werent like that..talk to her.... and remember the grass is NEVER green on the other side.. good luck
2007-11-21 14:58:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET RID OF THE WIFE NOW! I am went through the same thing. when i was poor we got along fine. started my own business, began backstroking in cash and wah lah instant *****. your wife is jealous that you are doing so well, angered at herself because she feels stuck because she is addicted to the $$. my wife turned into rotten, nasty, lying *****. you'll never be able to make her feel otherwise. trust me and run. i am going through nasty divorce and wish i got out when this first started.
2007-11-21 15:09:23 · answer #10 · answered by ken f 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋