My best friend, Kendall is like one of the greatest people I know. But sometimes she can be a REAL pain in the butt. She always is cool at school, but I mean when we get home she doesn't want to do what I wanna do and I don't wanna do what she wants to do and we get in a big fight. How do I tell her that she can be annoying sometimes? I really don't want to hurt her feelings, because if I do she will go all sobbish and not want me to be her friend!! HELP!
2007-11-21 14:46:06 · 12 answers · asked by Meghan L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You take the initiative.
If you have plans, you approach her first: "Hey I wanna do ___ after school; do you want to go with me?" Then you get a "yes or no" answer from her.
If you nave NO plans, you approach her: "What do you want to do this afternoon?"
In this way, each of you has the freedom to do what you wish without impinging on the freedom of the other. Getting into fights about this junk is a waste of time and energy.
At some point, you need to evaluate each relationship and ask, "What does this person bring to the table?" Is this person a mooch? A user? A manipulator? A drama-queen? A time-waster? Or is this person your cheering section? Provide insight? Make you laugh?
As you go down the list of traits and how each thing makes you feel, you will know who you should be spending more time with.
2007-11-21 15:00:33 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you both just need some space. Maybe for a day or two or even a week find other things to do, besides hanging out with each other.
If you two are good Friends then after the time out, I'm sure you'll both have lots to talk about and enjoy all the things you do together like you use to.
2007-11-21 22:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found out that NOT telling them straight up that they are being a pain in the a*s is just to not give them the cold shoulder, but just say,"I just need a little break to cool down, OK?" If she rejects then say "You know what, Kendall? I am getting tired of all these quarrels, can't I just have a minute without debating on such childish things?"
See how that works!
2007-11-21 22:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by Amelia:] 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to break it to you, but every one you like will sometimes get on your nerves. Even your BFF, even your boyfriend, or your parents.
That's because people are different from each other. I'm sure you sometimes annoy her too.
So don't say anything about it or you'll just upset her, and I'm sure she'll have lots to say to you about all the things you do to annoy her!
2007-11-21 23:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by Shana B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my friends are like that. we get into stupid fights and not talk for like a day or two and we start talking again. if she's a true friend, she won't be too sobbish about it.
2007-11-21 22:50:57 · answer #5 · answered by twelvetwix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys should be sacrificing for each other. Sometimes do what she wants to do and other times do what you want to do. Make an agreement like that and if she can't accept it then she's not a very good friend in my opinion.
2007-11-21 22:49:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just compromise on what y'all want to do. Y'all do one thing one hour and do the other the next. It sounds like you still want to be her friend, so tell her that how you feel and how y'all can fix it.
Hope This Helps.........
2007-11-21 22:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should compromise or tell her how you feel. Tell her that sometimes it bugs you that she doesn't want to do what you want to do. Sometimes you have to do what she wants to do. Otherwise you shouldn't be friends.
2007-11-21 22:50:43 · answer #8 · answered by romancexxmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her to chill out and that shes bothering you thats what i told my bff and shes gotten better and we're still bestest friends no matter what happens
2007-11-21 22:49:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bestfriends go through it all together
it makes the friendship that much stronger
we laugh we cry we fight
2007-11-21 22:50:51 · answer #10 · answered by cinnamon apple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋