2007-11-21 14:25:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be honest with yourself about why you're unhappy in your marriage, and your true feelings about your friend.
There's really not enough information about your situation to give a thoughtful answer, so I'm just going to wing it.
Do you love your wife or are you just distracted by your friend? Have you done everything you can to work things out with your wife? Do you think your friend is ready for you to drop this bomb on her, or that she feels the same about you? Do you have children?
Your first responsibility, to yourself and your wife, is to be honest with yourself about why your marriage isn't working. If you're going to bail because it's easier than working it out and your friend is now free, you're in for a rude awakening. Understand, and deal with, one issue at a time. You're in a position where a bad move could have lasting consequences.
2007-11-21 14:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that you have tried everything in your power to make your own marriage work then it is time to throw in the towel and get a divorce. If you have not exhausted everything at your disposal in order to try to save your marriage then you need to concentrate on that and not your friend that just got a divorce. If you do end up getting a divorce then you need a period of cooling off before you try to get with your divorced friend as you do not want to be in a rebound situation when you get into a relationship. This causes it's own set of circumstances which could ruin an otherwise budding relationship.
2007-11-21 22:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you REALLY unhappy or is that an excuse because you have feelings for someone who is now available? Be careful what you wish for- if you want a future with the newly divorcee do it right get a divorce yourself and have a fresh issue free start.
2007-11-21 22:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by jet75 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's just not as easy as leaving. Trust me. I'm totally in love with my best friend. And semi-luke warm with my boyfriend. Best friend just got divorced ( sound familiar ) He just recently told me he never stopped loving me ( we dated in highschool for a year .. long story in and of itsself. ) I wish I could offer you advice on this one. I really do. I'm in the same boat. I would say depending on if there are kids involved or not... how much do you stand to lose if you get a divorce... I mean there are a lot of factors... Good luck hon. And PLEASE... let me know what you decide.
2007-11-21 22:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by cresentrosetat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get out of your unhappy situation and be alone, two recent divorces wont make a great marriage or a great relationship for that matter!!!and dont think about cheating cause if youre unhappy now, youll end up being MISERABLE!!
2007-11-21 23:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by suehellen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your married. You took a vow. You need to either honor that vow and try to figure out WHY you are unhappy in your relationship and try to work it out and be happy with the woman you married.
Or.......file for a divorce. I DO NOT feel that divorce is the only solution. I suggest working on your marriage. You married your wife for a reason and you need to get back and figure out why and try to make yourself happy again.
2007-11-21 22:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by karasmommy07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a divorce and make sure you take time to heal yourself before getting into marriage or relationship, because you could up bringing those same issue into your new relationship or marriage. Cheating will not help you, you will feel alot guilt, it is not worth it.
2007-11-21 23:21:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Focus on what is making you unhappy in your marriage. Your "friend" is just rebound. Don't feed into lust. Try and work things out in your marriage whether it be with a counselor or amongst yourselves. Go out to eat and discusss your problems that way you all will be forced to listen to one another.
2007-11-21 22:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want out of the marriage, then get out of the marriage first before doing anything else.
2007-11-22 00:19:03 · answer #9 · answered by Sondra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a cheater!! if your going to divorce your hubby do it and then start fresh with your friend... at least you can keep your self respect.
2007-11-21 22:47:22 · answer #10 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋