I have been with this guy for 6 months I'm pregnant with our child and when he got with me he accepted my other 4 girls. He didn't want to work while we were together but yet he acted happy when I found out we were going to have a baby. See this is his first child.Recently he got jealous and broke up with me because I was hanging out with my brother-in-laws. In the past 2 months we have broken up 3 times this make number 3 but he has always gotten over being mad and has come home.I love him more then anything and I want him back I just feel he needs to grom up a little bit and needs to get over his high horse. He won't talk to me right now and it's tearing me apart. What can I do to make him realize that I love him and want us to be together? PLease help me I'm so depressed sometimes I feel as if I shouldn't be on the earth anymore.I can't handle anymore pain.
2007-11-21 13:51:20 · 7 answers · asked by amber74578 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like you need to grow up and take responsibilities.
Number 1 Rule: You can't change a man or a woman. They are who they are and it is dumb to think you can change him/her.
Number 2 Rule: If you have 4 kids, then don't get pregnant again until you KNOW the guy you are banging and are married to him. Duh.
Number 3 Rule: Don't date a man unless he is "marriage" material.
Sounds like you have a lot of growing up to do - so don't expect others to grow up if you are acting like an immature idiot yourself.
2007-11-21 14:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by Dina K 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can not make someone change behaviors. You've been together for 6mos-How well do you know him?
He's probably freaking out at the looming birth of his first child and the responsibility of adding 4 more to the mix. It doesn't excuse his behavior but you need to focus on you and your children-build a stable system for all of your children.
They need to feel secure, they need to see you strong.
If he is unable to get with the program and be a part of the family unit, then you need to move on. I mean run your household, don't put everything on hold while he tries to figure out if this is what he wants.
Your 4 girls shouldn't have to wait for a grown up to decide if he is ready for a family.
2007-11-21 22:11:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come right out and tell him how you feel,you already new what he was all about before you decided to have a child with him. All you can do is ask him if he's willing to "MAN UP" to his responsibilities? If he's not then you need to decide if your still willing to be with someone that's just gonna sit around on his a** while you do all the taking care of the kids, working and keeping house.
2007-11-21 22:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say just talk to him about everything. Or even write him a letter. Tell him how much you love him and how it hurts when he gets on his "high horse". Basically just tell him everything you just wrote in your question.
2007-11-21 21:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by luv devil child 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa ! I really feel for you....I hope he will change...but it sure don't look like it/////////Good luck and pls stop having more kids...kids will not keep a man....bad ideea that if you have a child with him he will love you....not true....
2007-11-21 22:21:39 · answer #5 · answered by Juliet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him do right. He has to get tired of what he is doing and be willing to change.
2007-11-21 21:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Wisdom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe when you act like an adult he will.
2007-11-21 22:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by shipwreck 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋