Have u ever had this happen? I broke up with a guy 2 month ago
My brain is telling me he may not be best for me, he may be impulsive and not very stable emotionally (as in moody, clingy, says he doesn't want to be hurt again) ...I don't know ..this 6th sense is basically giving me some kind warning, but it may be off!
On the other hand, my heart is torn, broken -yes, I feel I like this guy so much that I don't know what to do...I mean, am I not acting just like him? I feel in disarray, completely miserable, walking around hoping it will get better but it doesn't. I am acting so completely out of character (usually cool), just becoming more and more miserable and hopeless.
So how do I listen to my brain? I am in serious pain. A few days ago I burst into tears just when I thought I was better, b/c I basically said out loud to someone that I thought this guy could have been the one. I was shaking.
And all these coming holidays make me feel worse:(
2007-11-21 13:37:27 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
and I keep wondering, what if he was the one..you know...or the opposite, what if I'm just lookin for a guy to be the one..
2007-11-21 13:39:13 · update #1
I broke up with him.
2007-11-21 14:10:35 · update #2
I thought you WERE listening to your brain...you mean "how do I listen to my heart", right?
is he still in the loop? Is he still stupid enough to come back?
try it...say that you had some personal crap going on and now you think you are more clear. And if it fails after that, you might eventually learn to trust your head.
most end up in trouble when they allow their hearts to rule over the nagging judgement...and it's okay to judge, that is how we take care of ourselves and I am all for that!
2007-11-21 13:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by justagorilla 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as hard as it is, a very smart person once told me that in situations such as yours you should listen to your brain because while your heart will tell you what you want, your brain will tell you what you need.
you should always follow your instincts because even when they make you feel crazy, they are almost always right so i would stay away from this guy and start moving on. good luck and things will get better even though it doesn't feel like they will right now:)
2007-11-21 13:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by Dusti-n-Jessie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You did'nt say what the break was over.If it's his insecurities then understanding not judgement is needed.Takes lots of strength and patience to build trust and faith in a relationship.If he quit because he's afraid of being hurt. then he's very self asorbed and not very likely to be there emotionally for you.The heart can lead us astray against our own better judgement.You need to listen very carefully to your head before your heart.
2007-11-21 14:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by oatesmokid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to someone. Talk to someone like a therapist. I'm not saying you are going crazy and you need big help, but I believe you should talk to someone professional who took courses in school on this. You'll know they won't tell anyone your problems and they won't yell at you.
I really hope you feel better <3
2007-11-21 13:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going into a period of grief and its a normal process after a breakup In a couple months from now you will feel better
2007-11-21 13:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by lala 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋