I called him and told him i needed to talk to him..
I told him not to get mad that it was about a guy that was asking me for my number...i didnt even finish telling him and he got mad..so i got mad and i didnt even finish telling him..for the first time i was trying to be honest and tell him that a guy ask me for my number and that he was flirting with me.Why couldnt he just reacted normal i didnt gave him my number, but i didnt finish telling him because he got mad...so then i told him to leave me alone,he pushed me really hard i felt bad and i didnt talk to him i was ignoring him because it hurt that he pushed me..Then later on he grab me by my shirt and pulled me towards him really ugly i thought he was going to hit me but he just threw me .. Then we started arguing and i told him to leave that i didnt want to see him and he told me i didnt know him yet that he will kill me if he had too..i dont know if he really mean it but i dont like what he said..
2007-11-21 13:30:06 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its not the first time he hits me..
he has hit me before but always
says he is sorry and promise me he is going to change and stupid me i believe him and i always end up taking him back
What do i do to be stronger than him?
I want to leave him forever...i just dont know how i dont want to regret it later on
When we are not fighting he is the greatest person!!THis is why iam so confused will he change someday?
2007-11-21 13:31:01 · update #1
I know exactly what you mean, I have been thru the samething with my husband he is so jealous. I am not even allowed to talk to another guy. And he did hit me before and promised that it will chaange but keeps doing it and I dont know how to leave him either I am scared that my life will be worse off without him..............but there are things that I know i have to do but just dont know how to do it. Just be strong and move on I dont think it is worth being hit by anyone.............goodluck to you.
2007-11-21 13:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by sleepless07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband or boyfriend is a loser. If I were I would leave his butt, there are shelters for battered women out there that can help and hide you, if you feel that unsafe. I would definetly leave, a man that hits a woman is a coward and not a man but a little boy with temper issue. Do yourself a favor a leave him for yourself? Also don't make the situation worse by seeing some other guy. If you have family they will protect you.
2007-11-21 13:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why you even told him about the guy is beyond me. Really, it sounds as if you were trying to provoke him by making him jealous. However! he has NO right to put his hands on you. If he's done it before and he's now threatening to kill you, then I think you know what you must do. My husband says that to me too, sometimes, and while he MAY be kidding, I'm not sure sometimes when his really ugly side comes out. If you think your life is in danger, then get out and get help.
2007-11-21 13:53:25 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are stupid
you are going on raw emotion
and it serves you wrong
women do not use logic
men do that ( for the most part )
don't even TRY to justify how great he is
he is a loser who has abuser written all over him
and you try to justify him
this shows you lack self respect
and are emotionally weak
and really should not be dating at all
much less married until you get a backbone
and behave like a women proper
not some teenager with a crush
2007-11-21 13:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know prefectly well what everyone is going to say, so why do you ask? But fine, since you want to hear it so bad, i'll tell you. You're a MORON for being with this guy and you're an even bigger moron is you stay with him.
Maybe it just hasn't gotten through your skull yet. HE. THREATENED. TO. KILL. YOU. Let's give that a few seconds to let that sink in. If you're still with him this very second then i've lost all hope.
2007-11-21 13:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you never seen the news. You see this stuff happen all the time and it never ends good! Look at OJ, we all know he did it and Nicole is dead. What makes this any different than any of those news stories. Look out for number 1 (that is you by the way)
2007-11-21 13:41:43 · answer #6 · answered by hungryeyes001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can't be fixed.
Of course he is sweet and nice and apologetic after he hits you, that's what wife-beaters do. It's a cycle.
If you stay with him he will end up killing you.
Call the battered woman's hotline for your state, I put the link to the site that has the numbers below. They'll help you!
2007-11-21 13:43:26 · answer #7 · answered by Shana B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
darlin' please stay away from him. he's not going to change, he's not going to change, he's not going to change
he picked you because and only because you are a good victim, because you let him push you around and if you leave him he'll find someone else to push around, he doesn't love you, he doesn't know what love is, he's sick, he's been terribly mistreated and he's damaged and you can't fix him, you didn't cause him to be like that and you can't control him, you can't cure him, take care of yourself, if you don't , you'll be sorry, but if you're dead honey, only your loved ones will be sorry that they didn't know, that they didn't do something to protect you
call your local domestic violence center and get counseling, get help and get the support you need,
please don't wind up a victim for the rest of your life, survive this, walk away while you still can.
2007-11-21 13:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by Liteson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is abuser if he did things things to you. And .. the abuse will probably get worse as time goes on .. and especially if you marry him.
You should RUN !! .. and get away.
Abusers usually say they are sorry .. and that they won't do it any more .. and/or blame it on the lady .. but they always do it again.
Do you want to be hurt more ? ... or badly? If not, then you better GO.
Consider this as a huge RED FLAG of warning to you.
2007-11-21 13:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one has the right to physically abuse you. This is not a healthy relationship and your boyfriend needs help.
This situation has gone on too long and by his own admission it will only get worse. If he will not get help immediately, you need to remove yourself from the relationship. Seek counseling to understand why you stayed in an abusive relationship and learn to identify healthy ones with boundries.
2007-11-21 13:47:45 · answer #10 · answered by experienced in life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋