I just read a question here from somewhere else. Something about an Open Marriage, in that the couples can have sex out of their marriage with whom ever they please to have it with. DOES THIS MEAN that these guys have an extremely super high sex drive and are always horny for sex all the time, that they cannot get satisfied with the husband or wife, so they both look for sexaul satsifaction from someone else????????? I am just merely curious about this!!! Thanks guys for your honest answers.
2007-11-21 11:38:47 · 19 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-11-21 11:55:54 · update #1
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2007-11-23 10:28:08 · update #2
I think it is a combo of extreme horniness and the need for a variety. They don't want to get bored with just each other and enjoy having that "newness" feeling, thus seeking sex from others while remaining with each other.
Thats just my take on it. I personally would cut my husband's nuts off if he ever thought about it.
2007-11-21 12:11:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever wonder what people meant when they said marriage was "work"? In your mind you figure you found the man for you, so what's so hard about that? THIS is what's so hard about that. Just because you promised your mind, heart, body, and soul to your husband, there are still other men on the planet, and you didn't go blind when you said I DO. Part of being in a successful marriages is 100% commitment. Not just when he is around and not to be broken because you feel the need to get your rocks off. There are toys for that, and also hands. No it won't be the same as sex with your husband, but it's not supposed to be. You can say all you want to do is to sleep around, no strings attached all you want, but the world simply doesn't work that way. Eventually you will need emotional comfort as well as physical if you are with the right man. (not to mention the possibility of an unplanned pregnancy or contracting a disease) I am pretty open sexually myself, but I would be completely crushed if my husband asked if it was OK to sleep with other women.
2016-04-05 02:35:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex and love are NOT the same thing.
People confuse sex and lust with love--- and that is what causes so much trouble and heartache.
A marriage is when two people love each other and want to spend their lives together, because they share a lot of ideas or dreams. This means they are willing to be loyal and patient, and that sometimes they will disagree but they will have to talk and communicate so they can overcome problems.
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An "open marriage" is not a marriage AT ALL.
It is a twisted and stupid excuse to cheat, created by confused people who have serious problems. They have not experienced the joy of true love and they think that having sex with other people will make them happy; which is a very sad thing.
This is my opinion, although some people will disagree.
2007-11-21 11:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No it simply means that the mixed up affection and love. If they loved each other they would not even think about sleeping with someone else i don't care how much you love that person. Now they may be affectionate towards each other and have some incentive for being married or together but that's where it stops. Those couples will never have the special bound love couples have.
2007-11-21 11:57:29 · answer #4 · answered by caliguy_30 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are some who identify as swingers, polyamorous, or both who have a hight sex-drive, but it is not true of all. There are some cases where one partner or the other has a higher sex drive than the other. This may be due not to a higher than average drive in one partner, but a lower than average drive or physical challenges (such as erectile dysfunction or other other health condition). Open marriage, and the honesty it requires is one way for such a couple to remain together.
Some of them find a certain satisfaction seeing their partner experiencing pleasure and being able to appreciate it in the third-person. There are also some people who go to swingers events and are sexual with no one other than their spouse--they do this in order to be part of the sexually-charged atmosphere in order to enhance their own connection.
I identify as polyamorous. I have the love of my primary partner and also the love of another woman who lives in another city. My primary partner and I live with her other boyfriend and have formed a household where we combine our resources and share the tasks. We both love her and she loves both of us. It's not a nightly sex-fest, most nights its mainly about her ability to cuddle her two loving men.
In conclusion, people who have multiple relationships may end up having more sex than a person who has only one partner. One reason is that the variety of partners may inspire more activity. Another reason is that when we are around a single partner day after day, it is easy to let mundane concerns get in the way of lovemaking. When we split our time between partners, we are more likely to make time for lovemaking when we are with them, including the primary partner. Sometimes it is having multiple partners that fuels the sex drive, not the other way around.
My parents actually experience some of this monogamously. They take a special effort to set aside all of their daily concerns and leave town for a weekend or more. It creates as special space for them. When they do, they are much more active (yes, my parents share some aspects of their love-life with their adult children).
2007-11-23 04:07:41 · answer #5 · answered by Donald J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably does mean that they are extremely sexually horny but it does not mean that they don't satisfy each other. Anyone that says they are not sexually attracted anyone other than their spouse is a liar. I believe couples that have an open marriage are far more stable that those who do not. Why would you cheat on someone who lets you have sex with others?
2007-11-21 11:45:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
An open marriage is when a couple is married .. and they can sleep around with other people .. then come back home to each other.
Sometimes .. it is the desire of one person in the marriage to do this, and the other follows suit, just to please their mate. No matter .. it is still awful.
There are wife-swapping clubs where married couple join .. and swap mates for awhile .. then again, come back home to each other.
Some open marriages just have all the affairs they want .. and remain together as usual .. no prob to them.
As in everything else .. it's a choice .
2007-11-21 11:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by Tara 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It does not mean that they are extremely horny. They married for love but like a little more variety in that department. There is a whole society out there that does this. They have their own magazines, their own parties, it is bigger than you think. I have a number of co workers that do this and one of my close friends. I have never understood it but they are happy with it.
2007-11-21 13:12:37 · answer #8 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No an open marriage does mean that they are able to do this.. But most open marriages that I have seen the couples are usually very business oriented and they do that when they are out on business trips...
2007-11-21 12:12:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily, it just means they've decided that monogamy isn't the approach they choose to take with their relationship, basing it instead on less traditional concepts of trust and sexual acceptibility. I don't think that type of union is for me, but in their defense they see to have fewer trust issues and worries than other more conventional couples.
2007-11-21 12:01:49 · answer #10 · answered by Captain S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋