For example he forces her to nap and she's almost 6.
She cried for 1 hr wanting mommy.
He hangs up on me on the phone when I tell him things like
do not force Alexa to go potty before bed etc.
I think they need a parenting coach.
What can I do? I want to help my lil girl she has finally stopped bed-wetting. I have a psychologist.
2007-11-21 11:11:55 · 6 answers · asked by relaxrx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to go back to court and perhaps have the visitation altered so that he only has her during the day or even visits at your house. Get a statement from the psychologist as to how this is affecting her to do things like take a nap at her age and so on and go to court. You may not be able to get them to have a parenting coach - or maybe you can - but you can minimize the time she spends with him to minimize the emotional damage to her. Good Luck!!
2007-11-21 11:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The issues you present are common in most divorced or never married parents. You have no legal rights to tell him how to parent during his parenting time. Just like he has no right to tell you how to parent during your parenting time. Remember that children do not come with instructions. Therefore, most people rely on what they learned from their parents as they tried to figure out how to parent from their parents.
What you have listed do not seem to rise to the leve of an actionable issue for a family law court. You can offer suggestions but if you and he cannot talk about things like when to make the child use the restroom, then you are just going to make it worse for they girl. People will use the child as a tool against the other parent, sometimes as a reaction, most times on purpose. Therefore I recommend that you not push the issue with him. The only time you need to force the issue is if he is placing the child in danger.
I have accepted many cases and earned quite a lot of money from parents that cannot agree on the way to parent their children. So if you want, you can make money for your attorney and his, or you can talk to your child and let her know that she can talk to you about any of her concerns (don't give her any).
Children do learn that they have two sets of rules to live by. This will make trouble for you and your ex unless the two of you get together and decide how to handle things. Also, his new wife/girlfriend has her own ways of doing things that will vary from yours and your ex's. Not much you can do about that either. Only if she is placing the child in danger could you have a court get involved.
Good luck.
2007-11-22 11:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by hensleyclaw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to work for a family law firm and when people would try to have those types of issues resolved, it was a never ending argument. People would spend so much money on their attorneys arguing over these type of issues. While most people in your situation want full custody, I have never seen anyone get it over issues like these. I'm sure it is painful, hang in there!
2007-11-21 19:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anna N 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay with the psychologist, sweetie. "You cannot teach those who do not wish to learn."...and that sorta sounds like her dad.... Too bad about people like that.... just because they can sire a child is no reason to assume they can parent. Sounds like the two of you need a referee, but it as well sounds as if he knows all the answers.............I'm sorry
2007-11-21 19:17:49 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take him to court let the judge decide what is best for the child you or him good luck
2007-11-21 19:35:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it seems that you need to speak to a custody lawyer. and find out why and how you can get full custody.
2007-11-21 19:24:21 · answer #6 · answered by Nadia S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋