Im 16 and for as long as i can remember, my parents have been off n on off n on and then back off again! growing up, i felt my home life was unstable and extremely unpredictable. Finally, my parents have been able to keep there seperation. Its been 2 years now, off. However, i have found them kissing, also foundout my mum had slept with my dad even tho he had been seein other women, plus it was only a couple of months ago, and they text constantly etc; etc; it seems to me that if it wasnt for me n my brother, they would be bak together. we all know its truthfully, the wrong thing to do. Hes hurt my mum too much, she knows that too. Shes signed the divorce papers yet hasnt submitted them. Lately, mum and i have been fighting alot. not over her n dad, just in general. I feel that i am just completely numb to her now and i know its bad, but i dont feel any sympathy or anything nemore. I am beginning to speak nasty to her, i know that, but it feels like i cant help it. iv lost all respect
2007-11-21 11:06:04 · 3 answers · asked by *Rissoles* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im not too sure what to do from here. I hate coming home to it everyday. I wish i could tell them how i feel but my mum never understands, instead she turns it into a fight and tells me im being stupid. Does anybody have any advice? iv tried writing a letter but i cant think of nething to say there either. im reli confused. i just want it one way or the other. for good this time!!! my auty also offered for me to live with her for a while. id love to but @ the same time i dont reli want to offend my mum.??????
2007-11-21 11:07:50 · update #1
I am so sorry you have to be going through this no child wants the family to break up, but sometimes some grown ups and parents need to grow up. It sounds like your parents need to grow up. I am going through a separation in marriage and I have 12 year old daughter, I worry about her alot, how this will affect her. My focus is on my daughter and make sure she is okay. We both have gotten involved in chruch together, it is helping, the last thing on my is getting involved with someone else. I would rather have close relationship with my daughter and God. I think your parents need to come to a decision and stick with it. Try to get your self involved in a youth chruch group, you will find other who have gone through this issue. Good luck to you. Remember, this is not your fault.
2007-11-21 14:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they need to get counseling and try to solve the problems between he two of them, and the either get back together or get the divorce. You should leave them a note saying that you love them both but hat their indecision is causing you problems and that they need that counseling to decide whether to work out their problems or get a divorce and to contact you at your aunts when they decide. That may be the best way to solve the matter. One other thing is that she may be taking him back because of a lack of self esteem so I will give you a website that may help you but if you get your mother to look at it, this may help her as well. I will give you the home page but you will see articles there for self esteem, divorce, dieting, and more. Good Luck to you and I hope it all works out.
2007-11-21 19:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try talking to her but take her side to start, don't seem contravercial or anything like that
2007-11-21 19:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by geekytrumpet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋