my friend and her husband have 2 kids. He works 2 jobs and she stays home with the kids. She told me that by the time there done paying bills they have 20 dollars to there name. They also have a car that needs to be fixed. She said shes not gonna have any money to give her kids christmas presents. I feel really bad for her. She asked me for advice on this issue and she said she would feel like a bad parent. She asked me for advice on what she should do or how should she feel..so i wanted opinions to see if my advice was on the right track cuz i dont wanna upset her. I offered her 1,000 dollars to get them gifts and she didnt want it. Do you think me offering her that money made her feel even worse?
2007-11-21 11:04:24 · 11 answers · asked by chickalips11 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
how old r the kids? what advice did you give her? I see you offered her money, but that's not really advice.. If I were her, I wouldn't have taken the money either, and it would have made me feel kinda bad.
she should try to make some money to help with the financial situation.. she could have a daycare at her house, or pay for a babysitter and go work somewhere.. there are many ways for a mom to make additional income for the family.
2007-11-21 11:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by ~mama2danica~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I am sure it did not make her feel worse. But it was smart of her not to except. It is never a good idea to give or borrow money from a friend. What you can do is put the family on the list around town that help family's at Christmas time. You can also take up a collection from your family and friends and give her gift cards to stores so she can do her own shopping. The long term goal would be to cut down on her expenses, like phone bill, turn off cable, use coupons, buy cheaper food, turn down the heat, get help with her heat bills from the state, sell stuff, get a part-time job. Stay a good friend to her and keep her spirit up!
2007-11-21 11:38:29 · answer #2 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money is not advice, in my opinion.
It was a nice gesture, offering the money, but she probably feels quite awkward to take any from you..especially in that amount.
You should tell her that Christmas is not about the presents but about the love and togetherness, but then, kids don't seem to get that sometimes.
Maybe she could go to a thrift store and get something for them that is in great condition, or buy small things at a time between now and Christmas.
Also, instead of giving her the money, why not purchase the gifts yourself and bring them by, already wrapped up.
If you can, give her some advice on how to save money. There are sites on the internet that offer tips on living frugally.
2007-11-21 11:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exercise everyday, this will physically wear your body out as well as alleviate stress and you wont be able to stay awake at night! To overcome the anxiety of not being able to sleep - don't panic. If you have a bad night's sleep, than you will just sleep better the next night, it's no big deal. Clean your bedroom so that it is not cluttered. Don't watch tv in your room or play video games etc in your room - keep it (if possible) just for sleeping. This way your mind will associate your room with sleep. Don't watch tv or be on the computer before going to bed. The bright monitor tricks your mind into thinking its daylight so triggers your body to be alert and awake. If you are in bed and can't sleep. Get up and read a book or do a puzzle until you feel you can't keep your eyes open, then go back to bed. All the best.
2016-05-24 22:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by liliana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call some churches and put in her name for presents .Write a letter for her to toys for tot program include the names and ages of her children. I've been there .it is an awful feeling knowing you have nothing left for Christmas for your kids.
2007-11-21 11:11:34 · answer #5 · answered by ytteb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she is under a lot of stress right now and she doesn't even know herself what exactly it is she wants. Stay close to her and comfort her for a while and just ask her, how SHE would like to be helped ! Good luck !
2007-11-21 11:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think offering her the money made her feel worse. because that means that you care.
althought it coulda bcuz it coulda made her feel like you were flauting your money in her face because you had it and she doesnt.
to FIX this situation
suggest her getting a job. or something of that sort.
aw this is sad =(
and i hope everything works.
2007-11-21 11:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get a job!
By the way, could I "borrow" $1000?
2007-11-21 11:08:40 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HAVE HER GET IN TOUCH WITH TOYS FOR TOTS...
YOUR A GREAT FRIEND!!!
SHE SHOULD HAVE TAKEN THE MONEY..IF IT WAS FOR MY KID I WOULD DO ANYTHING...
2007-11-21 11:13:25 · answer #9 · answered by harleygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you thought about being a secret santa
2007-11-21 11:12:49 · answer #10 · answered by neesa o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋