t month and her app. is next week. i dont have the strength any more and im not sure that i love her anymore,but i have been faithful to her the whole time... we only talk by e-mail, and she doesnt always answer me.. i guess the question is why did she wait so long to make an app. with the doc.??
2007-11-21 10:31:31 · 12 answers · asked by biglou 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes a woman - or man - doesn't really want to know an answer to questions she has, because of being scared, and simply not knowing.
I went through 'strangeness' and changes in my behaviour in my early 40s (can happy earlier, too, for some women), and hadn't linked up all my varied symptoms to it being a hormonal imbalance - until I had extensive testing done by a gynecologist. My moods were wild and swung back and forth, I showed actual anger - when in fact I'm always laid back - and my son and husband were extraordinarily patient.
However, after having the testing done and getting results (I have polycystic ovarian syndrome and am pari-menopausal), I saw the light! Went on medication for a time which helped regulate my hormones, and honestly, I went back to becoming my regular, happy self - loving wife and mom.
Any other man may have left me during my time of hell, but my husband is loyal and very kind and loving - and he just put up with me - tried to talk with me lots, but since I didn't have the answers earlier, we didn't know what was up.
So your wife may just be worried to get an answer that something is seriously wrong with her -- how about you offer to go with her?
2007-11-21 10:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard for someone to admit they have a problem and blaming hormones is most of the time nothing but a way out. Maybe she realizes that there is something wrong with her and that maybe it is time for her to do something about it. I would support her, not force her on anything and help her understand things from a different perspective without arguments or disagreements. Good luck.
2007-11-21 10:40:41 · answer #2 · answered by caliguy_30 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we're in a state of denial and don't want to admit that we have a problem. I know that's how I am! I don't want to feel like I have a big problem that can't be solved, so it's easier to blame it on the fact that my husband is a jerk and not get myself checked out. maybe she's afraid of the results that will come out and doesn't have the strength to face it alone.
Why she doesn't answer you sometimes? I don't know--could be lots of different reasons. maybe she's in a depression with her denial and doesn't have the energy to do it.
2007-11-21 10:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably self conscious or worried about what the doctor will say. It probably took her a while to face it. Plenty of women have hormone imbalances due to things like PCOS and there are many treatments.
2007-11-21 10:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by Olivia J 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What you have to decide is whether the marriage can begin again or is it over.
If it is the latter then you should follow it through and be a single person once more and able to find a new person if you need to.
2007-11-21 10:43:28 · answer #5 · answered by Sally Anne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you men are so disgusting ,!!you always want tolerant and patient wives but you are never that ,,,,,,,just put your self in her shoes........not sure if you love her??you are such a b......,what does LOVE btn the two of you have to do with the app,,,,,or whatever ,give her a break, she is down and needs your support, good luck
2007-11-21 11:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by lets pray 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People often put off going to the Dr. especially if they are depressed. but she won't change don't blame her being mean on her hormones... just get well and move on.
2007-11-21 10:35:46 · answer #7 · answered by robtiger2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get the right response is by asking her.
2007-11-21 10:35:06 · answer #8 · answered by Chulis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I have trouble understanding my own wife. I have no idea about understanding yours.
2007-11-21 11:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was depressed and didn't care about herself.
2007-11-21 10:36:03 · answer #10 · answered by Rain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋