How can I make my house feel like my home?

Question

We moved into a victorian miner's cottage in an ex-mining village in 2005.

I had previously lived in Cardiff, so moving to a small village was a big change. For a long time I felt very isolated up here and missed the buzz of the city. We've only recently started to feel more at home in the community.

My son was born last November and he was a true blessing as I had battled fertility problems for many years. I think his arrival has blessed our home and vice versa. It certainly broke the ice and helped us get to know our neighbours better.

But sometimes I still don't feel I "belong" here. I don't think the house is haunted or anything. The energy here is kind and welcoming, but part of me still feels out of place. How can I make this feel like my permanent home? We are a young family and I feel that this must be a positive energy on the house surely?

Answer 1

You need to walk the countryside, know the fields, the hills and the woods, cultivate your garden, plant a tree, get to know the whole village, every little street and alley, once you get into the actual rythm of the countryside, you will begin to feel like you belong, city life is so different form country life, city folk dont get the same involvement in the changing of the seasons etc, thats what missing for you..

Answer 2

Have a housewarming and invite friends and family. If you are of a faith community that does this sort of thing, have a minister or priest come officially bless your house.

When the right time comes, try planting a garden....I find gardening really does help you feel close to the land and if that land is part of your home, all the better. Even just a few houseplants can make a difference.

You might also try to find a special windchime or windsock you can put up and so when you see it, it says "home" to you.

As a musician, I found that certain types of music evoke the idea of "home" for me... maybe you can play that type of music in your place each day. It varies according to one's personal taste.

Sometimes that "belonging" feeling takes a while. I moved to my community six years ago, and am only just starting to feel at home...but I found all those things helped immensely.

Answer 3

Two years is a long time for you to not feel comfortable. I'm going to make an unusual suggestion, but it has worked in the past.
Take a clean mayonnaise jar & bring it to the last place you lived where you were happy. Open the jar & walk around with it "gathering the atmosphere." Re-cover the jar. Bring it back to your new home, open it & release the happiness, the good memories & the energy.

It sounds weird, I know, but it helped to save a couple I know from moving, when the wife could not get comfortable in their new home. Within two weeks of doing this, she was extremely happy & plans to sell were cancelled.

Answer 4

A person who likes, and prefers peas, will never truly be happy eating carrots. No matter how tasty and wonderful the carrots are prepared, it's still carrots.

Think of your house as being made of 'carrots' and you being a 'pea' person. There are certainly things you can do to make the carroty-feeling more appetizing (I like broccoli but only when dipped in the dark chinese sauce, no other way) and adding more individual touches to your house will help you create that sense of individual space that you are craving, but if you truly aren't a person made for that kind of space, there's probably a reason for it.

We have 'feelings' for a reason, and that includes feelings about what we like and don't like, and even where we want to be and don't want to be. Making a pea-person eat carrots isn't going to change who they are; the bigger question is why are you eating this particular batch of carrots in the first place? When you understand that, you will be one step closer to making, and living in, the kind of space you truly want.

Answer 5

First, get a smudge stick and smudge the entire house, taking the stick in your hand and waving it back and forth over every window and door and all over each roon until there's alot of smoke everywhere. Then put sea salt around you entire house on the outside. Then sit quietly and close your eyes and picture a ball of your white energy in the very middle of your house and let it expand to every corner of your house. that should do it.

Answer 6

Involve yourself in the community and bring that energy home.

Answer 7

Put your own personal touches to the inside and outside of your home. something that is important to you in your idea of home. Make it feel like its YOURS

Answer 8

" you have to put a lot into a house before it becomes your home , but if you are happy there it is a good place to start"

Answer 9

Go away for a wee holiday and see what it is that you miss about your home.

Answer 10

Tell yourself Welcome Home ... both verbally and mentally every day until it sinks in.