i found out by accident. i want to disown her now cos im against it. my bf says its her life. how would u feel if it was your mum? both men have kids.
2007-11-21 09:28:45 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To all of you who are so quick to judge, what gives you the right? And to all of you you who called her mom a Whore, shame on you! This is still her mom and those remarks can hurt very badly! The best thing for you to do is to stay out of it dear. She is an adult who obviously knows better, because she taught you to have morals or you wouldn't be upset. She is going through a tough time in her life right now. She will figure this out one day. Don't do as she does, do as she taught you and you will be fine! Hard I know, but none-the-less she is your mom.
2007-11-21 10:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by Karen S 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its easy to be judgemental over your mother's actions if you are not mature enough to understand the reasons behind why she is doing this. Obviously you have the full picture, but children especially if they are young people, teens or in their 20's are much less accepting of their parents behaviour for fear of embarrassment. They assume that parents should know better but dont realise that they just want to live their lives. If your mother has a history of being a 'busy woman' socially then it may caste a different light but, if not and she's been alone for a long time then maybe not. You may not be accepting now but when you get to her age and have experienced life alot more you'll see things very differently, believe me. Try walking a mile in her shoes. She's a grown woman, she must know what the consequences are. Leave her to get on with it.
2007-11-21 19:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by chiccigyal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be first shocked, confused, and full of questions. Then I would try and understand her behavior. Many single women have married friends and go out with them just to have some get away time and there is nothing sexually going on. And many women flirt with men even if they are married.
I agree with the most of the more positive answers here.
Sounds like you have had a good relationship with your mom and she loves you very much. Just remember everyone makes major mistakes at times even adults.
Think about loving her and being there for her if she needs someone, because she will be for you.
2007-11-22 02:27:33 · answer #3 · answered by Bambi C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Angry, hurt, confused. I found out my mom and my dad were both having affairs, for over 20 years. The saddest part is my mom had my brother drive her and her boyfriend around while they were in the back seat, he was ages 11-14. Get some counseling. I have been in counseling for several years. It does help. Don't disown your mom. It will only make you more miserable. God Bless and Good luck.
2007-11-21 21:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I do agree to some extent with your bf. Its your mum's life and she is old enough to know what she is doing. On the other hand, don't judge her, you don't know the circumstances.
Morals are different for every individual person, so there are different points of view for this same situation.
Good luck!
2007-11-22 10:46:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sesoid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would loose all respect for my mother, but it is her life to live as she chooses ......
Too bad - sorry she is making a lifestyle choice that is an embarassment to you. I'd feel the same if my mom was on drugs, or a drunk, or a theif.
It speaks to character and unfortunately she has given up all of hers.
2007-11-21 17:36:19 · answer #6 · answered by aa889d 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends totally on how old you are. Because if this happened when I was in my teenage years, I would have been totally disillussioned and not sure how to handle it. But if I was in my 20s or 30s, I might be more apt to try to understand her reasoning for doing so.
2007-11-21 17:33:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't disown my mum , over something like that. Her sexual life and what she does with it, is strictly her business , in my opinion .
While i do not agree with what she is doing , and would never do anything like that myself ,i still feel that it would have nothing to do with me , and it wouldn't be my place to say anything .
2007-11-21 17:39:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is her life, She is old enough, to know what she is doing. It is none of your business what she does in her private life. If she wanted you to know she would have told you.
I would speak my mind to my mother and tell her how I feel. But, I know my mother well enough to know that she would not do that.
2007-11-21 17:35:08 · answer #9 · answered by sassy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would find out where the two of them stay and slip a note in the mail box or on the door to their wives and see what happens . Nope sorry your b/f is wrong what happens to your mom when one of them women find out your mom is dating their husbands ? I can tell you it aint going to be pretty . good luck and i wish you all the best dear .
2007-11-21 17:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋