I really like this guy that thinks i'm too immature......what to do?

Question

I'm 15 and he's 18.He's all about responsibility and I am too just in different ways. And well I really really love this guy but, he told me he doesn't like me like that because of my "immaturity". But, how can I show him that I am mature and that we actually have a lot in common? I've known him for a while and would like to get closer to him,even just as a friend. He said were like friends I guess but, we never hang out or anything....and i just want to prove to him that I'm a down chick. but how? what should i do?

THIS QUESTION IS FOR FRIENDS!!!!! HOW DO I BE A BETTER FRIEND PEOPLE!!!! I LOVE HIM AS A FRIEND!!!! THAT'S WHY IT'S IN THE CATEGORY OF FRIENDS THAT'S WHY I PUT HOW DO I BE A BETTER FRIEND! GAWSH PAY ATTENTION TO THE CATEGORY AND QUESTION AND THEN COME BACK TO ME

Answer 1

Don't make any moves, and pause and think about it for a sec. Him telling you this is him being truthful to you which is good. But since you like this guy, then you should try to show him hoe mature you can be. If you seen Legally Blonde, then you must know what I mean! But never stop being yourself, because at some point, you must be yourself! Here are some tips to becoming more mature:
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clean-up after yourself
chew with mouth closed
don't talk loud
make wise choices
don't be so cheerful all the time (If you don't know what I mean, then ignore this one!)
laugh, but not so much that is overboard!

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Answer 2

My friend had a case like this. However, they were the same age. And she was 15 at the time too. He thought she was too immature; but she didn't do anything about it. So.. it's good that you want to prove to him that you're a down chick. So.. as you just mentioned - you guys never hung out before? That's an idea. Hang out with him and so he gets to know you . MORE . And he should realize you are mature.

Answer 3

You know what. There will be someone out there who finds your immature ways cute and will want to be with you. You dont want to start a relationship with someone already finding faults with you. Now, you shouldnt have to prove your maturity level to anyone but your parents. If you want to be a better friend, all you have to do is be yourself. If people dont want to hang out, when you are yourself, they are not for you. Being a better friend is also being there when the person needs you, spending time with them, not telling people things when they tell you something in confidence. I would spend time being the good person you are and not trying to change for anyone. Now, if your post had ana ctual example of you not being a good friend, I would tell you how to change it, but you have done nothing wrong.

Answer 4

immaturity could mean sextually or mentally.
sextually;; dont waste your time on him.
mentally;; why you chasin a guy that doesnt care enough about you to give it a go??

if he cared about you.. he would ask YOU to do stuff. you already fell hard and you guys arent even going out. if he isnt willing to catch you;; whats the point?

on the upside.. dont bother with him. if your pretty enough or whatever to his liking;; he will run back to you;. just ask him to come over and chill out. watch a funny OR scary movie. funny first then scary. dont jump to the romance. try euro trip or something like that. he will love it. maybe change your appearance just a little;; spend more time on your hair and makeup;; but dont be scared to show him the real you. and when your together have a good time.. dont try impressing him. act like you guys are just friends and thats all you will ever be. maybe he would just be embarresed 2 go out w/ sum1 with a 3 yrs difference;; aftr about a mnth of being friends [[ NOOTTT EVER.. NEVER be friends with benefits. it screws the relationship bigtime. if he can get stuff outta you w/ no commitment TRUST ME thats what hes going to do! ]]

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kay as friends.. watch a funny movie.
hang out at the mall.
i dont think friends say that though;;
maybe its a nice way of saying chill out. :\
tough lovee.

sorryyyy. im being pretty brutally honestt.

Answer 5

Go after someone your own age. He'll be done with school soon if he's not already, and prolly move to got to college, or get a job.

In those 3 years a person really does matures alot, and you are most likely not as mature as him.

Plus in ohio that's borderline statutory .





In those 3 years a person really does matures alot, and you are most likely not as mature as him.

It goes for friendship too.


And you said this "And well I really really love this guy but, he told me he doesn't like me like that because of my "immaturity""



Like me like that???? That doesn't sound like friendship to me.


Your maturity really shines in this answer

"yes he does. there's proof in the Bible of that. in Genesis it says he created all things.....and throughout the Bible it shows miracles. like for instance,God would tell one of his disciples to tell someone something that's going to happen. a lot of the time those people didn't believe it but, since God cannot lie that miracle came true"


Soooooo Like totally God is 4 RealZ . I mean God said so in the BiblE!!

Answer 6

The fact that you're asking this question shows that he is right... as for your addition to the question, it again shows that he's right. 18 year olds are more mature than 15 year olds, that's just the way it is. Be yourself, and be friends with those people who like you for who you are. Trying to be something you're not just to impress a guy (yah yah, you're just friends, I get it) is never a good idea. Trust me, that's a road you never want to go down.

Answer 7

just try to be more mature. don't call him too much or anything.... ask him later if he wants to go out with some friends. or have a party and invite him not like a friggin costume party or something but, like a cool party. show him how mature you are. make mature decisions,and looking more mature is always a big part of it. you don't want to wear bubble gum pink all the time or something like that you know? idk.....just don't be to clingy. treat him like you would like say ur bgf or something. or like ur guy cousin or something like that.....just be cool with him!!!!!

Answer 8

Just be yourself. He may say it's because "you're immature." But that might be a nice way of him saying that he's just not interested.

I'm sure you're a great girl and have a lot to offer. Just be good and make good choices.

Answer 9

i mean dont be like all over him, it seems like you are somewhat immature by askin this question by the way,anyways play hard to get and if he doesnt want any then move on, sorry but i am giving u hard love

Answer 10

Find someone your own age. It's normal at your age to crush on older guys, I did it...but honestly..just stick with the guys your age.