I have a 19 month old son, who is very smart for his age. I know that i want him to have a sibling, someone for him to grow up with and share things with. I know me and my husband don't have the best job in the world, but we can take care of our family. And i always thought that the good Lord would take care of us anyway. Is it a good time or what? I need some advice, some help!!!
2007-11-21 09:23:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Well there is never really a good time but as long as you can take care of your family and love your family then by all means go for it.
2007-11-21 09:27:10 · answer #1 · answered by ziggy_brat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 19th month old son and a 4 month old daughter. I was really worried about whether I could handle it and how my son would react. For me, it has been a lot easier than I anticipated. However, there are so many variables. My second delivery and recovery were much easier than my first and my daughter started sleeping through the night during her second month. I am really grateful for that. If I had a difficult recovery and a colicky baby, I may have a very different answer for you! It took a while for my son to get a handle on his jealousy, but he's over it for the most part and it's only been 4 months. The hardest part for me is nursing. My daughter won't take a bottle. I find it difficult to nurse when my son is at the playground climbing on something and I'm afraid he'll fall or run away or something. Or when I take my son to an activity where I have to participate (like his toddler gymanstics) I have to lift him up and take him down off of things while wearing my baby in a Snugli carrier. But we have a good routine and for most of the time things actually run pretty smoothly, and I'm NOT one of those moms who has my sh@t together! I will say the second baby seems so easy compared to the first (and to the toddler). I can't stress that enough. Not because she's an easier baby, it's just because we've come so far as moms by the time toddlerhood comes around. You probably don't even realize it. I know I didn't. Anyway, my son is starting to warm up to her, and it's really cute. I can't imagine our family without her. I went from feeling like I had a kid to feeling like I have a family. That may sound odd, but it's how I feel. It's been such a great experience, we are going to try for a third! Good luck.
Nancy
2007-11-21 16:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have read studies that it is best to have your children 2 years apart for the mother and the siblings. I have heard it takes 2 years for a woman's body to recover after pregnancy. My husband and I are planning to get pregnant again when my daughter turns 20 months. So I would say go for it if you want.
2007-11-21 11:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by Jeannie C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two schools of thought on spacing your kids. If you keep them close together they are more likely to share clothes, toys, school books, etcetera. But then you also have them getting drivers licenses at the same time, going to college at the same time, etc.
If you space them out more, you never have two in diapers or on formula, you get to have a little more baby time with each one and you have a built-in helper with the new baby. However you will stretch out the years you have kids driving on your insurance, or going to college.
My kids were spaced 3 1/2 years apart. It worked great for us. My friend had 3 kids in 4 1/2 years and she loved it. Whatever works best for you.
2007-11-21 09:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by notmuchofacook 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have a son and daughter who are 22 months apart. And the double daycare bill isn't fun and neither are some of the fits they put us through but they are close enough to learn and play from each other.
2007-11-21 09:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by Pixie Stix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say go for it......children are great but if you dont know if you can support your family right now wait a year or so.....see how it goes. also as long as you have a steady job you should be ok......i know that baby's are really expensive just trust your instincts. they are normally right.
2007-11-21 09:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure your in good health. I dont see why not, especially being that its only #2.
2007-11-21 09:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by Jeanne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋