Before we got married, we did it every nite--now all of a sudden, it stopped. I take pride in my hygiene and I know that's not it. I don't get it. I once asked him and he told me it was too much work! I'm always there to satisfy him--it's not fair!
2007-11-21 09:17:33 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
BTW--we have kids--2 of them, 2 and 18 mos
2007-11-21 09:33:25 · update #1
I'm all for it. If he doesn't go down on you, don't go down on him!
2007-11-21 09:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by charlieshepp 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everybody is different. Some people like it and some don't. (This is true for both men and women!)
I guess that if he did it before and you liked it; and now he doesn't ...You need to talk to him about this.
Maybe you think you are OK with your personal hygiene, but maybe he thinks otherwise...and feel uncomfortable telling you about it! (The same thing happens with people who have a strong body odor, or bad breath.)
So... Visit your doctor and see if everything is OK. (Sometimes women can have small infections that cause bad odor, and that is a major turn-off!) Even if you don't have any symptoms, it is best if you have your gynecologist run some tests, just in case.
IF after this you know you're OK physically, then it's time to sit down and have him explain why he has changed. (Unless you get a crystal ball or can learn to read his mind, he needs to talk to you so you can try to understand what is going on!)
Good luck.....
2007-11-21 09:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sharing your sexual encounters is what works best. How about a 69 for the two of you? Your most important sexual organ is your brain so talk with your significant other and see if he will do oral sex on you because you like it, and it pleases you. I am sure you can work out a trade for something that he enjoys. Maybe he just needs some candle light and some soft music playing or a bubble bath with you prior to sex?
2007-11-21 09:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by justclicktherubyslippers 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm separated now but for the first 4 years i loved eating my wife's peach
2007-11-21 10:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by biglou 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yep, people change after marriage .Yep, it SOMETIMES is a bunch of work, but typically its fun work. If you think the wedding ceremony changed things, wait till you have kids.
2007-11-21 09:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure. In fact, as we've gotten older we've gotten MORE oral. I think going oral or not is an education thing often. I've known lots of blue-collar guys who don't do it.
2007-11-21 14:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop doing it for him and when he notices then you can tell him that it is 'too much work' and see how he likes it.
2007-11-21 09:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by colgirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i love to go down on her but my wife has a hang up about it and won't tell me. married 34 yrs
2007-11-21 09:46:16 · answer #8 · answered by teeman824 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My man does. We also have kids, and I have never heard my husband saying anything like it being work, he gets his rewards afterwards.
2007-11-21 09:36:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea that is the best part of foreplay it is a grate way of geting out of 2nd gear and into top what is best of all is a69 cant beat it
2007-11-21 09:37:47 · answer #10 · answered by dermot b 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband LOVES to do that!! I mean he does it everytime we make love! I thought all guys liked to do that.......even if theres a small amount of work in it.
2007-11-21 09:26:23 · answer #11 · answered by I got answers! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋