My Bff and I just graduated junior high and now go to different high schools. Things were okay. But then a week ago, she hadn't called me at all and when I saw her she totally had an attitude so i got really mad and waited for her to call me. But she didn't. So I wnated to knwo what was goign on so I called her and she said that she was mad cuz I didn't call her. We laughed it off. Just today, she got all mad at me for like no reason: because my mom "forced" me go hug her last weekend. We don't really hug each other much anwyays but she acted like I betrayed her or something because I didn't make the decision on my own. But she acts like its my responsibility to hold our friendship together. She thinks I'm going to always called her when we get in a fight, or I'm always going to make plans, or I'm always the one who's supposed to hug her first. But we've been BFF's since 3rd grade, so I really don't know what to do? Help?!?
P.S. She's kind of changed since she's went to high school.
2007-11-21 08:58:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well I have had problems like this too with my friends as we get older. ALot of mood swings and changes are happening to both you and your friend right now. It sounds to me, however that she wants you to be the one who does the apologies. Thats not right. What I think you need to do is talk to your friend --- thats the key to a good friendship. Tell her how you feel and that you think that you both need to call sometimes. Dont however tell her you think she has changed. I did this once and I totally killed the friendship right there. If you have anymore problems or just wanna talk you can email me anytime at
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Good Luck!
2007-11-21 09:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Things like this are always tough. I have a friend and she's a year older than me and I felt like she changed when she went to a different school. After a while I realized that when people are really close to you, you fight more because you're so close and act like sisters. It sounds like you two both kind of need to ease up a little and just take some time apart. A good thing to do after you give it a couple of days (not too long though!) is to just call her up and tell her how you feel. You said you feel like she wants you to keep your friendship together. Well that's what a friendship is. Sometime you never know but she might be the one to take the first step. Friends watch their friendship because it's so wonderful. If she ends up not being like the person you were friends with, then maybe she's just not the perfect friend. Good Luck!
2007-11-21 09:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know you want to remain best friends but honestly, my bff from high school etc. and I rarely speak anymore. High school is a time where a lot of kids find themselves and you two may go separate ways. That's not to say that the friendship that ya'll have wasn't or isn't valuable, it's just going to be different. Especially now that you are at different schools. I would schedule times to hang out with her etc. but really focus on finding friends at school that you can have a close bond with. If she's your real BFF it won't matter when you call her, she'll always be there as a friend! :) :)
2007-11-21 09:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by *~Cam's Mommy ~* 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well going to different schools and hanging around different people is going to change both of you
just apologize(even if you don't think you should) and tell her-gently!- that your sorry and your gonna try stay better friends from now on, but that you need she cant always be the one on the receiving end of your attempts at friendships. that she has got to call you too! ( .. because technically, if you didn't hug her first, why wasn't she hugging you?)
its always better to make the first move even if you don't want to.
unfortunately going to different schools means that there's a good chance you wont be the BFFs you were before.. althought you should still be good friends, your going to make new friends!
2007-11-21 09:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by Blonde-Thoughts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately we grow out of our friends. Or we let new friends influence us. Maybe you guys have grown apart. Ask her what's the problem. Getting mad because of something that happend last week, all of a sudden does not make sense. I think alot of young people get into their own little world of new friends and old ones feel left out or jelous. It's just growing up.
2007-11-21 09:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by cocobee799 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-24 21:17:48 · answer #6 · answered by ustico 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess she is one of those emotional people who cant let go of friends that easily. I guess she misses you and she feels that you don't feel the same way about her. Tell her you miss her too and just because you are in different school it doesnt mean your friendship willl die. Me and my best friend are in totally different countries but we stilll talk to each other even now. Nothing has changed a bit. And i'm sure it will be the same for you guys too.
Good Luck!!!
2007-11-21 09:04:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
People change a lot at that age. I had the exact same problem when I was your age, and I'm sorry to say I just had to go seperate ways with my friend. She got all snotty, and so I was like like "Welp, F it. I'm not going to be friends with someone that treats me like dirt" and I still miss good times we had, but she changed and it had to be done, I'm glad I did because I made a ton of new friends!!
2007-11-21 09:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Growing up is not an easy thing.
you may need to stop talking to her for a while, my bff and I stopped talking in Jr.High and reconnected after high school.
she died Dec 31 1999.
If she is really your friend she will get ahold of you after she has realized that she misses you.
And that her new friends are really not what she thought.
2007-11-21 09:04:06 · answer #9 · answered by nobodytotalkabout 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Reminisce on old good times always works, follow the quote "the bad times make the good times better, or is it the good times that makes the bad times better"
2007-11-21 09:02:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋