I just recently start talking back to my ex who lives long distance. I was in school where he stays and we were together for 7 months until I discovered he was cheating for the last 2 months of our relationship. Upon finding that out he broke up with me. I was heart broken and he had a I don't care attitude towards the situation. We had words and upon those words I lied about being pregnant by him and told him I better not have a STD. Anyway to get over my heart break I ran into one of my ex's and we had sex and the condom broke and I really got pregnant. Anyway now it is almost 2 years later and he has been married and "suppostly" divorced from the girl he cheated on me with She recently had a miscarriage at 4 months pregnant. For the past few months we have been talking as friends on the phone and he ask me to marry him and have his baby. He says how he miss me and he wants to settle down. Should I stop talking to him? I don't want to fall in love with him and he do the same thing
2007-11-21 08:46:31 · 32 answers · asked by zah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well all I can say is follow your heart. Sometimes people make mistakes, it's part of life. It's not until later that they realize they lost something good that they had. If they repeat it, then it's obviously something they like to do and that's not good....
You can't be afraid to fall in love with him or anyone else because this happened. It can happen with someone else first. If you love him, then give it a chance. Let him know exactly what you want. Let him know that you need a relationship based on honesty, trust, that you can believe and rely on, and if he's ready for that. Then go for it. Let him know that if he ever is interested in someone else, just to be honest and let you know, before hand. This way you can respect him more as a man for being honest with you.....
2007-11-21 08:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by Torres 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You found out he was cheating and he dumped you!!!!!! HELLOOOOO!!!! Stop talking to this man, he is a cheater and a user. He is cheating on the girl he cheated you with, this guy has the morals of an alley cat. If you love him go be with him, but he will never be faithfull or respect a woman who took him back after he behaved like this. Why do you think the other girl got rid? You are not "friends" he has been keeping his options open, you are his standby when all else fails because he knows he has you right where he wants you. You deserve much better than this, cut your losses and move on. It may just teach him that women are not there for him to use and abuse. Stand up for yourself woman! You have had a lucky escape believe me.
2007-11-21 09:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by Willow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET A GRIP!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Keep your focus on that baby of yours and do the next right thing...live your own life in a way that shows your child that you love and respect YOURSELF. This is the ONLY way your child will be able to internalize his or her own self worth. Be self supporting, do not use drugs and alcohol, get and keep a job, get some healthy hobbies that you can enjoy with your child. If you have any doubt as to what is HEALTHY for you and your baby, GET PROFESSIONAL HELP. Not all families are capable of teaching children about right and wrong....WHY DONT YOU take the initiative and be the first in your family. I know this may sound harsh, but you know what?? You already have a child with no father....at least you have not mentioned one....DO NOT bring another child into this world, who, through no fault of his or her own, is unwanted and unloved by both parents.
Finally, use BIRTH CONTROL that works....yes..get a tubal ligation..
2007-11-21 09:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! It sounds like you are still in love with him or still have feelings for him... Are you still with the guy that you were pregnant by? Well I think regardless of if you are still with him or not, I think you should not get into a relationship right now... You should definitely focus on your baby... This man had an opportunity to be with you but he chose to be with someone else and now that things are not working out he wants to come back... I would feed him with a very long spoon so you don't get bitten... Be care full and cautious with him..sometimes men can get vicious when you have a baby with another man..Focus on you and your child.
2007-11-21 08:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by Diva 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a saying that "the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior". I would be very cautious in this relationship. Seems to me there are many, many untruths that have been told. I would not return to him again. You do not want him to cheat on you again. You have a child to care for and you need a loving honest partner not someone that will most likely betray you in the future. Good Luck.
2007-11-21 09:29:07 · answer #5 · answered by justclicktherubyslippers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no. Leave those years in the past. U have a baby now and u know his history. if he was a new man-- ok. If u dindt have a child-- ok . but u already know how he is AND u have a kid in the middle of it. U will be pregnant b4 u know it and with 2 'baby daddys' and then he will leav u again. dont set ursefl up for that. u dont deserve to go thru that agin. there are sooooo many other men who will not do that to u and will love ua nd ur baby. and u will be sooo ahppy when u meet one of them instead!
2007-11-21 09:05:02 · answer #6 · answered by twotimesalady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you should be getting child support from the real father of the child. If your X thinks he is the father and you live a lie, you will regret it and it will destroy your marriage. The only reason that he may have for wanting you now is that he thinks you have his baby. Go really slow in this situation and make sure all the facts are known.
2007-11-21 09:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by sweetpicker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he's your ex for a reason. You can get back together with him but he'll be your ex again one day and then you might have another baby and have to deal with him forever. He cheated on you, he left his wife/mother of his child and he is not the right man to be a father to any of your children.
2007-11-21 09:25:10 · answer #8 · answered by Jen70 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will do the same that he did to her. What is wrong with you that you are so obsessed with a guy that you were only with for 7 months. My god, move on, and NEVER lie and say you are pregnant, thats desperate and very UGLY. Maybe you 2 deserve eachother cause neither of you have any respect for others. god, poor kids!!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-21 08:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result each time...nothing has chnaged, he will cheat again and you will be miserable again. Life is too short to make the same mistake twice.
2007-11-21 09:13:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋