2007-11-21 08:43:45 · 18 answers · asked by C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I married a man, and for 14 years he carried a torch for another woman (secretly). After we divorced, he remarried her. It was a horrible thing for me to live with during and after, I never measured up, could do nothing right, and finally it just came down to I realized that I wasn't the person he wanted!
Again, people don't understand--when people make vows and it gets to the part that says "Forsaking all others, as long as you both shall live" that means ALL others, past or present or future!!! Married men/women should not harbor a secret love in their heart, its almost as destructive as outright adultery.
If a person isn't married to their "one and only" true love, they shouldn't be marrying!!! And if a person is wishful thinking about that "one love" while married to another-they are not true to their vows. A person does not have to commit a physical act to commit adultery.
2007-11-21 08:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by Daisy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we left the courthouse where we were married we went to a small restaurant to have some food which my normally frugal father was delighted to pay for. As we sat there eating, I knew that I had made a terrible mistake and that we never should have been married. I knew that she was going to make my life miserable and, in fact, she did. We ended up staying married for a few years but we could have walked away from each other after the meal and we would have been much happier for having done so. So in my case I did not meet a better person but I came to immediately know that the one I had chosen had been the wrong one! We are friends now though.
2016-05-24 22:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't wish I had married any of my x-s. I am glad I did not marry my first love, because I know it would not have worked. Instead, I still can have "unspoilt by a marriage" memories, which mean a lot to me now that I look back at that time.
2007-11-21 09:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by Alyssa Macey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. You have to ask yourself a question. What would the "one love" be like in reality? If I had to wake up, pay bills with, eat with, sleep with the "one love" every day what would it be like? In other words fantasy always seems better than reality. Maybe the first time that "one love" forgot to pay a bill or left the seat up or stole all the covers you'd feel different. Maybe?
2007-11-21 09:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually....no. I married the man of my dreams. Never thought I would be in a position where NO other man seems to measure up. I'm very happy and in love :)
2007-11-21 08:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by Qui 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not wished, but wondered, a love that I had but we were broken apart by the Navy. I still somedays think of him, but just with fondness....
2007-11-21 09:19:16 · answer #6 · answered by YankeeSouthernMama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heck no. i has a first love that i will always remember...but i would never want to be with anyone other than my husband. the first love was a jerk...and if i had stayed with him..i would have been in store for a life of misery.
2007-11-21 08:54:18 · answer #7 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, never look back at what could have been, because it is always better in fantasy then real life. Put that energy into your current marriage.
2007-11-21 12:13:37 · answer #8 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I would of met my current husband before my last two
2007-11-21 08:51:21 · answer #9 · answered by deedee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No - I married him
2007-11-21 09:06:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋