Dunno know, sometimes I feel with all the high divorce rates, it makes me concern about marriage and dating all those jerks out there. I know there's nothing wrong with me. Though, the dating pool gets a bit of challenge once you get older?
I'm only 28 years old and yeah, I haven't felt that spark with anyone. I've dated casually but none turned out serious.
2007-11-21 08:43:24 · 15 answers · asked by mitchchan 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have felt that way, actually I felt strongly for it but plans were interrupt ted when I met my fiancee. Although I am with somebody it doesn't mean that I will depend on my partner for happiness b/c they are just as human as I am, and are bound to make mistakes. If you build an altar for them thinking that they wont hurt you, you will get hurt. 50 % of marriages end in divorce, 60% of marriages, one of the partners will cheat. Relationships are a role of the dice. Those are scary numbers, yet if you find the way to true happines which is in yourself and if you fall in love with a person for who he/ she is and not for his/her appearance you will then find the right person, in time. You are still young, and love will come when you least think about it and when you least expect it, I guarrantee that. The dating pool does not get harder as you get older, when you are older you most likely know what you want and so you will get pickier( in a good way) rather than go for the first person that says you're pretty. Some people prefer being alone in life ( something that I wanted :P ) Yet other's prefer to have their partner. Yes having a partner brings more problems to your life, but then again there's something nice about having someone always at your side. Time can only tel hun, cuz we dont know what it holds for us.
2007-11-21 09:21:34 · answer #1 · answered by laura v 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 28 years old myself, and haven't really felt that spark with anyone either. There are times when I think to myself, I am tired of being alone, especially when I see my friends get married, but I realize, that this is the life for me right now. I am not overly happy with being single, but not sure if I want to be in a relationship right now.
There are so many jerks out there, and it is really hard to find one that really truly cares about you. It's fun to hear people say "eventually it will happen for you", but how do you know? You just have to take chances - and most of the time those chances are not going to turn out to the be one, but if you stop, then you never will find him. You are still young, so have fun...there is nothing wrong with casual dating, it makes you feel good about yourself - at least it does for me. :) Don't stress about it, as hard as it is sometimes. Best of luck to you!
2007-11-21 09:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by Kate 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been married and divorced 3 times. I finally decided that since I can't seem to make good choices with men, I am much better off alone. I have nobody to clean up after any more but myself and the cats, I can go anywhere I want whenever I want, and don't have to worry about someone else not paying their half of the bills. I've been asked out several times, but I can now evaluate them objectively instead of saying "yes" just because I need a man in my life. I don't need ANYONE to make me happy or entertain me or buy me dinner and a movie or whatever. And I am actually HAPPY not wondering where he is, what he's doing, does he love me, etc.
2007-11-21 08:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by kathi1vee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I been married three times and divorced three times, the last one lasted 30 years and damn near killed me. im still not over it. So its beginning to look like i should have stayed single. except for my 3 kids i have nothing to show for it.Yes the dating pool gets to be a lot more challenging as you get older. In fact I havent been asked out in over 30 years. I have a job where i meet all kinds of men every day, and im very friendly but no one seems interested. My 40 year old son takes me out to play pool or bingo.I dont feel any sparks either, if i did id persue them
2007-11-21 12:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by Fran M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You "know there's nothing wrong" with you? Really? It's uncommon for a twenty-eight-year-old women to post an I-wanna-be-alone-for-the-rest-of-my-life question on Y!A the day before Thanksgiving.
Besides your opinion, who's convinced you that there's nothing wrong with you and it's the fault of man-jerks you've met? Methinks the solution is in the mirror.
You better make up your mind because you're approaching your expiration date.
2007-11-21 09:22:12 · answer #5 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My wife said the same thing. She never met the right guy, and had thought she would be single the rest of her life. The only reason we crossed paths, was because we both took a risk to date outside our normal circle of friends.
Don't over-think it. It's better to find the right person and get married once, than to experience the agony of divorce.
2007-11-21 09:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by John R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with being single if that is what you want. however, if you do meet a guy who you feel that spark with then dont be afraid to take a chance. there are never any guarantees in life. you dont want to look back 50 years from now and wish you gave someone the chance to love you. and if you dont find that special person...there are still a million ways to find happiness in life. just do good to others and you will be happy no matter what.
2007-11-21 09:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by Heather 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we have to go through the entire barrel of apples just to get the ripe one. That is the same with partners. I always suggest pre-martial counseling before marriage. I think you are trying to hard. Just relax and it will come to you. You will see. Ask God to bring your soul mate to you. I know he will.
2007-11-21 11:23:17 · answer #8 · answered by ruscito_mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well yes and then one day I met "the one" I was 40 and I have been blissfully happy ever since-hope you dont have to wait as long as I did but guess what its soooo worth it,
2007-11-21 08:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married and sometimes I feel like that!! Just keep doing your thing and concentrate on you. Maybe you won't find anyone, but you also won't be unhappy.
2007-11-21 08:51:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋