I love my husband very much. But he is gone alot and I have needs as well. I am very lonely I talk to him on the phone alot but it's not the same as having someone there to kiss, hold and feel. I have lots of toys but once again I want the real thing. I have thought about walking up to a stranger on the street and kissing them and walking away. I miss having passionate kisses the most, even when he is home he doesn't kiss me in a passionate way. We have an alright sex life when he is home. We have been married for 5yrs and I'm bored. I have tried to tell him these things many times and nothing ever changes. Help!
2007-11-21 08:34:36 · 36 answers · asked by annie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I also work 40+ hours a week and we have two kids that I have to take care of while he is gone so no chance of me traveling with him. And I am not bored just need some love. Note: I am 28 and my husband is 40.
2007-11-21 10:00:11 · update #1
I will not leave my husband ever I am married till one of us dies! Forever!!!!
2007-11-21 10:02:25 · update #2
Get a die hard battery and jumper cables
2007-11-21 09:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say whether he's away for days working, or just gone from 8 to 5. You also didn't say whether you work, and if so how much. Could it be boredom in general? Have you considered getting a job?
Assuming it isn't, sit him down and tell him: "We need to talk"
Tell him exactly what's bothering you, and what you want him to do about it. Tell him you will file for divorce if he doesn't help you improve the situation within x months. Follow through.
2007-11-21 09:37:38 · answer #2 · answered by Arsan Lupin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could travel with him on occasion. Is it possible to create a career that would have you traveling with him? There has to be a way to work this out. Contrary to other advice, sex is very important. It will become less so as you grow older, but right now it is vitally important to a young married couple. You two need to get this thing situated. Some way, somehow.
2007-11-21 08:46:16 · answer #3 · answered by kirk m 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well if you love your husband very much then you wont cheat on him plain and simple if you feel that lonely explain that to him tell him exactly how you feel just like what you told us
he may get another job that only requires him to be away 40 hours a week if he is workin all these hours to make a better life for the both of you then dont be selfish and stand by your man ......get another toy
2007-11-21 08:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by Dan M 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You should have thought about his work schedule before you got married, then you would not be having this problem.
But anyways, you sound like a dog (no offense), who is left home for so long and lots of toys to play with, then they get bored with the toys, and start shredding!!!!!
You have got to tell him!!!! I am not going to say counseling, I am not going to say divorce, and I am not going to say, find a stranger who can be carrying many diseases and do what you want with them, you have urges, that is normal, but you are married, remember your vows, you took in front of God and your family and his???
You so much want to be involved in something that is called temptation and you will end up regretting it!!!!!
Talk, communicate with your husband, take a cold shower, but do not let temptation lead you into something you are so going to regret!!!!!!!
Right now, play with your toys, or talk to friends, or talk to his mother, or your mother, that will calm down your hormones, real fast!!!!!!
But do not, I repeat do not do anything that you are going to regret, it is normal to have thoughts, but to act on them while married with another man, NO!!!!!!!
2007-11-21 08:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Try a 15 month deployment. I haven't had sex since 9/22/07 and 1/2/07 before that and won't be able to again until 04/08...I'm lonely and miss sex, but he's worth waiting for.
2007-11-21 09:10:00 · answer #6 · answered by ME 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
if u cheat then it's not a marriage cos break your vows - vows which define what the marriage is. end of.
look for a solution with your husband and if u really believe there isn't one then you may as well get a divorce. harsh but true.
have u tried much to fix this? can u surprise him and turn up at his hotel (in nice underwear and all that...). phone sex? suggest he changes job?
2007-11-21 08:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by Julia 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Telephone sex, toys and your imagination should do the trick.
Surprise him and pitch up whether ever he is staying wearing a smile and little else.
2007-11-21 09:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not willing to improve tell him it should be over. You sound like you have been very understanding to you're husband but it seems like he doesnt care about you're needs. Or maybe you should just keep with you're toys and enjoy you're life as it is
2007-11-21 08:39:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
maybe your husband feels the same way and misses a warm female body next to him as well. maybe he is kissing a passionate stranger..and enjoying it. how does it make you feel?
2007-11-21 08:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by Heather 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you talk to him about your feelings.I am sure he will understand what you want but don't cheat on a poor guy because he is working hard for you to get all the comforts of life to you.......
2007-11-21 09:32:23 · answer #11 · answered by anamika s 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋