I really dont understand why, I try to ask for only reasonable things or things that i need, and i say thank you. I also express my thanks and gratefullness by obeying her, being respectful and doing chores or things im asked to do when i do it. of course im not perfect but she always says how ungrateful we( my sis, bro and me) are. i make dinner for her, and give her pedicures sometimes. and help out with laundry and vaccuuming alot. i make the bus to school to everyday bcuz i know she doesnt like to drive me, i try to be as good as i can but i dont know why she thinks im a "ungrateful lilttle bit**" it really upsets me. do you have ne idea y?
2007-11-21 08:18:53 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
1000yd_Wadcuter: you didnt read the details!
2007-11-21 09:04:05 · update #1
thank you for your answer, you guys are making me feel a lot better
- this is the second time shes told me it, and they were bothrecent
2007-11-21 09:15:38 · update #2
Ask her for specific examples. Then, do your best to rectify the situation. If you know what it is you're doing to cause those feelings in her, you've a better chance to fix the situation. Also, try encouraging your siblings to help out, and do the things you're doing. That way, as a whole family, you can try to show your appreciation to her.
Best of luck!
2007-11-21 08:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by Joshua B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very reasonable person, so your mother probably has a "problem". You can't change her, so the best you can do it live with her as she is. Eventually, you will be making your own living, and she will not have the control over you that she now has. Accept that she treats your siblings the same way, so it is not personal, just the way she is. Of course, there may be more about her that I do not know, and no doubt she had some problems as a child that are still affecting how she lives her life.
2007-11-21 16:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by JiveMan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It probably has to do with the way she was raised. most parents weren't raised in a home with over 300 channels or with fast internet connenction.
That is still no excuse to call her daughter an "ungrateful lilttle bit**"
Maybe you should try to go to a counciler for help.
2007-11-21 16:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first clue of your mother having some kind of issues is calling you a ungrateful bit*** that is very wrong. I'm sorry that you are upset. I have 4 grown married children and I would never talk that way. There is a way to talk to your children whether they are ungrateful or not. Sorry.
2007-11-21 16:31:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother didn't quite go to that extreme, but she tho't I was ungrateful too, and now, as an adult, everyone loves me. Everyone thinks I'm sweet, polite and diplomatic. My mother was found out to be bipolar after I moved out. If you are helping out around the house, saying thank you and not talking back to your mother and doing what she asks, I would not think you are an "ungrateful ***"... I am a mother now, and I would not call my daughter that word.
2007-11-21 16:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by JerZey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to see yourself through her eyes. Maybe ther is something that you are doing and not realizing. My sister and I have a lot of problems and a lot of it are things she doesnt realize she is doing. There are always two sides of the story, find out the other side before you start feeling sorry for yourself.
2007-11-21 16:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by ericsmaria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be under stress. Try doing everything you are, but try not to talk to her. If possible, stay away from her. She may just need to cool down from something. Talking to her may make it worse. If you succeed in 'avoiding' her for a few days, go up to her and ask what's wrong. She may realize you've been avoiding her because you thought she was under stress, and she will probably talk to you.
2007-11-21 16:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is probably is a 1st generation parent
and she probably went through a lot and to her
your chores and cooking and pedicures is a must
thing for a daughter to give to her mom.
2007-11-21 16:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by fatty nhu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like ou do a lot to help your mum - but there are always 2 sides to ever story - try asking your mum in a quiet way - why do you think i'm ungrateful ? try to get her about it with you! good luck!
2007-11-21 16:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by tkf57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she feels like she had to do more things then you are doing right now when she was your age. that doesnt justify the way she speaks to you but thats my best guess she feels she worked harder then you are when he was your age.
i am guessing she has said this more then once. she must be stressed and needs money or just didn't know what to say (if it was once or maybe twice)
if she has said it more than that then she must just be used to just letting her frustration out on you.
2007-11-21 16:29:17 · answer #10 · answered by Me! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋