is there any way i can stop postnatal depression?

Question

i had a baby 11 days ago and ever since ive not been feeling myself i cry all te time even over the tinyest things i dont answer the phone or really talk to anyone this is my 4th child i had a few teas each time i had my other children but never to this point. is there anything i can do to make myself feel better?

Answer 1

Just realize that this happens to half of all new mothers and that it will pass after a few weeks. If this has been going on for you for nearly 2 weeks then try to think positive because there IS a light at the end of the tunnel.

If after a month you're still feeling pretty low, that would be the time to talk to a doctor. Don't rush out and get anti-depressant meds at this point (which can help but also have unpleasant side effects). It's too soon for an aggressive treatment like that!

Do you have a close friend or family member you can call and talk to and unburden your heart? Just talking to one person can make a huge difference.

Also, see if someone can watch your children for just an hour or two so you can go out somewhere and relax, even if it's just to sit at a bookstore and drink coffee or hot tea.

And of course, pray to God and talk to the saints in Heaven. Mary was a mother, too, and you can talk with her about this. :-)

God be with you.....and congratulations on your 4th miracle!

Answer 2

I think we all get some level of "baby blues" after we have a child, its just more intense in some mothers. The first thing you have to realize is that its totally normal....and that you are a good mother and are doing everything possible for your baby. Its very important that you have a solid and positive support system...make sure that the father is aware of your feelings and that he fully understands what postnatal depression is...men can tend to be very detached and think its just a woman being emotional and that we can control it. He needs to check out some books or websites so that he can be supportive and helpful, a man that doesnt understand can actually contribute to the depression. Also call your mom, another family member or a friend you are close with who has had a child and can relate. It always helps to have someone to talk to who can understand what you are going through...I know it made me feel so much better when I was really sad to know that it wasnt just me! If it becomes more of a problem where you feel you cant properly take care of your baby or yourself then its time to call your dr. Dont feel like a failure if you need to do this, they are so used to it that its totally NORMAL to them, and they all encourage us to call if we need help. If you are anything like me I was against pills and fought very hard to get myself past this phase without involving a dr......I just stayed focused, let myself cry it out sometimes if i needed, and then took a deep breath and realized that I just gave birth to another life...of course my hormones are out of whack..I supported another little person for 9 months inside of me!!!!!! Its amazing that our bodies can create and support a miracle! You are awsome, and the worst part is over.....just know that you made it this far, you are strong and a great mom and its OK to need a little space to breathe and get yourself back! :)

Answer 3

I am 3 months pregnant with my second, but i Do remember getting a little depressed like the first 2 or 3 weeks after I had my son. I spent time with everyone, but i just felt like i had so much put on me, because my sons dad didn't live with me at the time. You say that you don't really talk to anyone, im that way now, i never answer my phone, i never go out, but I realize that when i do see friends and family, it makes me much happier, its just the part of making my self get ready and go see someone.

Answer 4

You might actually need to see a doctor. I had ppd after the birth of both my children. Sometimes this chemical imbalance will correct itself (like it did for me with my 2nd child). With my first son, it went undiagnosed for almost a year. Once I took the medication, I was only on it for 3 months, and I returned to normal. Sometimes just talking to someone will help...take a deep breath. You are not alone, we've all cried over little things.

Answer 5

make yourself go out and get some fresh air. when you feel you are ready start going to a post natal yoga class or a gentle yoga class and go easy. yoga has saved my life, it might help you too. give it a shot.

something else that helps me too is when i get up in the morning i tell myself that i love my self, and take a deep breath, and say i'm fantastic and take a deep breath, and say everything is great and take a deep breath, and day i am great and take a deep breath. continue with positive affirmations and deep breathing until you believe it. do this through out the day and best of luck, you can do it, you are amazing and wonderful.

avoid caffeine and sugar like the poisen it is.

Answer 6

It should go away on its own, but if it doesn't I would suggest medication. It can make a huge differance. You're lucky you're not pregnant anymore so you have a wide range of medication they can put you on. Don't worry this won't make you "crazy", alot of woman rely on medication to get through the "baby blues". I hope you feel better and good luck!!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Don't wait!!! Call your doctor or ob/gyn. Postpartum Depression is real and nothing to be ashamed of. Most times, you would only have to take the meds for a short period of time in order for your hormones to level back out.

There have been stories for years about women who suffered in silence only to have a complete breakdown.

Please don't wait.

Answer 9

Appreciate your blessing Relax and realize some women can't have children or are stuck with assholes and have to abort their child. Congrats Enjoy life and keep your self around people it'll make it better

Answer 10

HONEY! get some anti depression meds! at least for temporary....I had the same thing & swore I would never have another child. I have since been on anti depressants & had my tubes tied. I think that having my daughter increased it for me. I cried and felt so useless! Get some friends & family to help you through this difficult time, it will pass but you cant do it alone.