Interracial Dating: Preferring vs. Choosing?

Question

I was listening to the Michael Baisden show a few days ago one afternoon, and his daughter is dating someone not of her race. He doesn't have an issue with the interracial relationship, but UNLESS she had preferred to date someone not of her race.

He was saying it is one thing to choose, but if you prefer to date someone not of your race then something is not right.

So...

Do you agree? Disagree? Do you even understand what the heck he meant?

To be honest I'm not sure if either is necessarily a good thing, choosing vs. preferring. If you fall in love, then you fall in love...is there any room for choosing?

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Ps. Please do not respond saying:

- There is no such thing as race
- I'm part of the human race
- Troll (LoL)
- This question has been asked numerous times. (LIES!)
- Who cares...

I mean I really want some answers here.

Scorpio: I see...

Oh, and no one received a thumbs down from me so...just to let you know.

Bonny: LoL Yeah, I don't think he realizes it but he sometimes causes tension between races by constantly comparing. Yes, that was f*d up.

Answer 1

I prefer white men and married one. Nothing's wrong. I don't hate myself and I have many black males in my life who I love dearly. I started dated men of other races after several bad relationships with black men, TRUE, but after dating several different races of men, I came to the conclusion that all men, regardless of race had the potential to be losers. I was more compatible with white men, though. I used to front a rock band. I've got an eccentric personality. I've got a half sleeve (tattoo) on my arm and I'm just a "rocker" type of chick. I just have more in common with white men. I've rarely met a black man who could relate to my wide range of atypical interests. Sure, I can relate to black men on the level of our culture because I am still very in tuned with that, but there's a whole lot more to me than what a lot of black men can understand. To a lot of white men, it's pretty standard. But, not all white guys, of course. I wouldn't relate or be interested in a preppie type white man or a "redneck" type. I like a specific type - the rocker types.

Nothing's wrong with that. Everybody has some type of preference. Some women won't date a blue-collar man. Some men won't date a women who wears weave.

We all have our individual preferences.

Answer 2

Well I choose and prefer my bf who is white. I have always dated white & asian guys, I have been on a couple of dates w/ black guys but they never went anywhere (they were arranged by my friends & family). I just don't feel and attraction to black guys. By the way Michael Baisden has issues. On one note he calls women "loose" (to put it nicely) if a woman sleeps around but if a woman "chooses" to be celibate he thinks something is wrong w/ her. I mean you notice he is talking about his daughter and not a son. I mean I wonder if he would feel the same way or even bring up the topic if his son were dating outside his race as oppose to his daughter.

If he or anyone else has issue w/ what I do w/ my life, then that's thier problem and that's that!

Answer 3

Personally, I can't stand same race dating, I prefer interracial dating instead. I dare to be different in life.

Answer 4

I don't see anything wrong with preferring to date outside of your race. If you are attracted to a certain type of guy or girl and that happens to mean you are attracted to a certain race, to me that is not different than preferring thin, fat, tall, etc. people. I prefer short men with tan skin, dark hair, and dark eyes, usually Hispanic or Italian men fit that description. That doesn't mean I don't like black men, I have dated black men (usually those with accents, ie. African or Jamaican). But I am also attracted to husky men, so I will rarely date a thin man, its just a preference, no different than any other preference, everyone has a preference.

Answer 5

i don't see the difference myself, most of my high school years i watched as a slew of girls that would date black guys only and i couldn't care less, the reason i started was because i had no idea what my dream girl looked like so why not black or asian, hey they couldn't be anymore medicated the the white ones so what do i have to lose? in the end it shouldn't matter as long as folks are happy with what they get, who am i to point fingers? i'm no more or less innocent then the next guy

Answer 6

I think you do choose in the beginning, but in the long run, what is meant to be will happen. It might take years to figure it out, but it will happen!

I always prefered to date black men, as I am more attracted to the darker skin, and features. I have lots of male friends that are white though. I did end up marrying a black man, and LOVE him to death! He used to be married to a black woman and never thought he would ever be with a white girl, and now he is. He has told people he wouldn't change being with me!

Answer 7

Michael Baisden believes there are two camps: white and black. He does not want his daughter to "defect' from the black race while marrying a white person. This makes him at least predjudiced and maybe even racist.

It also shows he recognizes that many blacks getting tired and disenchanted with their own race's behavior and are jumping ship.

Answer 8

I totally agree. If your mind is so warped that you can't even FATHOM dating someone of your own race, there is a problem with that. However, if you just happen to fall in love with someone of another race, there is nothing wrong with that. There is a difference between being conditioned and being in love.

Answer 9

I don't think there's anything wrong with not preferring people of a certain race when it comes to dating. It's just that: a preference. It doesn't necessarily mean that the person hates certain people because they are a particular race.

Answer 10

I don't care whom they prefer, as long as they're not trying to put down the group they don't "prefer". I knew a girl who only "preferred" black men. Turns out she didn't like white men bc she was treated bad by a couple, so she only has neg. things to say about them. I wonder how many of these special "race" preferences ppl are like this. My cousin doesn't like black women bc he was abused by his mother. But at least he doesn't put down all black women. Well at least not when I'm around.