I know I like girls but the thought of it alone makes me feel so wrong and like Im messing with nature, etc. Just wrong. However, I cant help it and Its driving me crazy. I like guys in general 5% of the time. I also have an ex that hurt me very much and I want to hurt him by being with a guy. I feel like a girl wouldnt affect him...I feel like deep down, Im a lesbian but Ill never ever let myself, be me so I continue to live in this straight world. Even if I let myself be me, I wouldnt have any luck because its too hard finding other pretty girls that like girls.
any advice?
2007-11-21 07:37:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You sound bisexual, and that makes for complicated relationships. You might want to search for another bisexual person to form a relationship with.
2007-11-21 07:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to come out of the closet to others yet, but at the very least, understand for your self, that you are a lesbian. You will wind up being extremely depressed and maybe even suicidal if you try to be straight and be with people that you don't love. Nobody can control whom they love. It just happens. You are perfectly normal and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. As you become older you will feel more comfortable with it and once you find that special someone, you'll be too happy to let it bother you in the least.
2007-11-21 07:42:33 · answer #2 · answered by Nicholas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know your situation. it kinda sounds like my life story during high school.
i had several girlfriends before (which none of them lasted for a month, by the way). i figured that getting with someone else would exact my revenge on them. but i couldn't find anyone else that i would really be happy with.
after the last one, i kinda stopped trying to pursue other girls and became happy with just my friends.
about a week later, i met my current girlfriend and i haven't been happier.
(and yeah, she's hot. =P on first glance, she looks like she could be a straight girl. hell, i thought she was straight when i met her.)
so here's something for you.. just stop looking for a while, and it'll eventually come to you.
sounds like you're still in school, so you don't have to be in such a rush. you have plenty of time to find someone that you'll truly be happy with.
2007-11-21 08:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by super_sooshi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound confused. You dont say your age but I am guessing on the young side, since you are young live life, enjoy it, explore it, find what makes you happy. dont worry about labels, dont worry about "getting even" with others and trying to hurt them. You will notice more mature people dont think in that fashion, instead they have learned life is precious and must be enjoyed
2007-11-21 07:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe something to consider is that you may be bisexual. Both my wife and I are, and we've come to terms with it, and we've been married for 20 years. (makes for some pretty fun times). Good luck.
2007-11-21 07:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by toy4candy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt make your self straight, im a lesbian, and im a proud one, there is nothing wrong with it. if you like girls you like girls. if you like boys you like boys. if your bi, its not so easy. you just need to fin the right girl or boy, and live your life happily.
2007-11-21 08:35:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't force yourself into being what you don't want to be. You will find yourself in a nut house soon if you do.
2007-11-21 07:44:01 · answer #7 · answered by grumpyfiend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing for about ten years, it was a disaster.
2007-11-21 20:50:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be less than 18 with the mentality of " I also have an ex that hurt me very much and I want to hurt him by being with a guy."
GROW UP AND MOVE ON!!!! That gets you no where and you still hurt once its over... if not feel worse.
Jeez... kids these days
2007-11-21 07:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by sweetblueyes 5 · 0⤊ 6⤋
just be who you want to be.Not some one that you are not. you are just hurting your self.do what makes you cofortable.hope you get it solved.
2007-11-21 07:48:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋