three years ago i meet my gf by chating in yahoo's room
after a while she told me that she has had a boy friend and asked me to let her go.
to tell you the truth i had never had a gf and was so happy to find one and after a while i aseked her to marry me ,but she saild that she wants to marry her first bf not me and after a while she did.
they got married,but after a year they divorced,
a few days ago she called me and explained the story of her bf's evil's behavier
on the other hand i still love her and in dilemma whether to get marry her or not.
what would you do if you were me?
2007-11-21 06:26:58 · 18 answers · asked by arash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Look why dont you just give her time to clear her haed and give her time to think of whether or not she wants to get married again ,and the same gos for you.maybe getting married now would be jumping the gun abit ,and you dont want to be regretting anything.besides she didnt sound as much as in love with you as you did before her first boyfriend so consider this .marrige is a huge commitmant so remember that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-21 06:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If " I " were second choice .. I would run from her.
Truth probably is .. this girl KNOWS you love her .. and she KNOWS that you are vunerable to her ... PLUS .. she is really-really-really needy right now .. and she needs someone to be her audience .. be there for her .. and make her wounds ok.
It's your own choice .. but you deserve someone who wants your first .. and someone who will not be using your love for their own problems.
She doesn't need to come running to you when she rejected you in the first place. It is only natural that she would give you this incredible story .. she needs to justify her actions.
You don't even know if what she is telling you about the other guy is correct .. or not. Who knows? .. it might not be true .. she might just be trying to win you over to her side.
Right now ... nooooooooooooooooooo !!! .. you should not even think of marrying her. I can't stress that enough.
Date her maybe. But .. with even dating her .. you will probably fall hard. However - don't go over-board with anything. Be very careful. She left you easily the first time .. and she could probably do it again.
This is a choice which you need to decide if you really want in your life. Do you want a repeat of the same hurt again? .. it could be coming your way again.
2007-11-21 07:16:38 · answer #2 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is rebounding and doe's not know what she want's in life.
I think it best to tell her she had her chance to choose you and she chose the other guy and that you have chosen ot move on and find someone that wants you from the start.
Really do you want a woman that runs out of marriage like a scared little school girl everyone knows marriage is hardwork and she counldn't handle it.
Really get off the net ladies. Get out and find a local gal and take her out.
2007-11-21 06:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not marry anyone that I only know over the Internet. You should date in person for a long, long time. You should ask a lot of questions. You should find out their values, interests and plans for the future. Observe them in social settings and see how they treat other people. Are they messy or neat? What are their political views and spiritual views? Do they want children? What do they expect from a spouse? Tell them what you expect from a spouse. How much education do they have? Do they want a career and family? Find out as much as you possibly can. You don't want to marry and then find out you don't even like each other and have nothing in common. Date over 2 years, no sex until your wedding night when you are committed to each other in marriage.
2007-11-21 06:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Consider your time investment as a sucesfull experience since it gave you the results a man needs to realize is not a reliable person (talks with other guys and likes to have backups). Now is time to learn about that type of person and be careful when you meet someone new, to have that in your list of items to check or not check. Consider that as a valuable experience to know more about how the world is out there.
2007-11-21 08:21:56 · answer #5 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well seh needs some time to cope with the disaster of the marriage so i think that you have to be a good friend rithe now ans support her cuz she just got over something that is heartbreaking. once you can help her and she is ready for a serious relationship then you can start making a move o her but just wait for marriage a little longer because that is a really big step and she might not be ready...
just keep you r head up and stick it out and something good will come your way...i promise
2007-11-21 06:37:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she needs some time after her divorce before getting married again. Give her time to think about what went wrong with the first one, and things that maybe she needs to change about her first. Then see where it goes from there.
2007-11-21 06:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not get married! It don't sound like either one of you is mature enough. I don't recommend marriage until the age of 30! If this is your first girlfriend you have not lived long enough. You need to date lots of women before decided what is best for you.
2007-11-21 12:33:25 · answer #8 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get off the computer and get out of the house so you can experiance life. You are not in love with her but I think you in love with the idea of being in love.
2007-11-21 07:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not settle for someone on the internet find someone else and move on. She will probably break your heart again if you were to jump up and say yes.
2007-11-21 06:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋