2007-11-21 06:23:48 · 32 answers · asked by lisa J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My bf had one and said that because it was only for 2 weeks it didn't matter. I love him I have forgave him but it still hurts. Just wanted to get other peoples' opinions on the subject.
2007-11-21 06:38:26 · update #1
No Mamam!
It is not acceptable. So, you forgave him once. Please note that it is fine to be submissive, but you do not have to be subservant and sell yourself short. There is a thin line between love and lust. If he really loved you he would not even entertain the thought. Don't be so passive. You are more important than that and you don't have to be mistreated by anyone. Love should not hurt! I'm so sorry that he did this to you. Please allow it to be a life lesson and not a roller coaster.
2007-11-21 06:43:31 · answer #1 · answered by Monica 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you new here??
No, affairs are wrong. Always. No matter how rational, justified or excuses anyone can come up with. EVERY affair is short lived-never lasts. I have read posts from people who have been "having an affair" for 3 years, and yet, when they are 75 and they look back on their life here, what seemed like a long time at the time will be but a flicker in their memory.
No, not acceptable.
2007-11-21 06:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by Daisy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The affair itself is most definitely a no no.
However, the end result is whether or not you forgive his transgressions. IF you forgive him then it means that it never happened. If you SAY you forgive him and are not sure if you really mean it (which the tone of your question suggests) then you are in for a difficult time. I can only speak for myself on this matter but I find forgiveness to be the single most difficult thing to TRULY grant. That is to say that you know you have been wronged and you are going to willingly forget it. It might just be me but I would have a difficult time truly forgiving such a betrayl. If you are certain his apology is sincere and that it was a moment of weakness type situation then it is ok. If there is even a lingering doubt that he was not sincere or you are not really as ok with this as you think then it is time to go.
If nothing else you are holding the all the cards now and he better jump when ever you say jump.
2007-11-21 07:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by nissan1223 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It does matter. I know I was in a relationship in my past where I did something similar. I knew it was only 2 weeks and would never do it again. But my reason for doing it in the first place was because I was unhappy at home. I learned this was no way to find happiness. We ended up go separate ways before she found out about it. Our problem was with us, and I was just looking for outside solutions. Turns out she was too.
I think your situation may be different. I'll say it again. It is a big deal. When someone cheats on their partner, it is always a big deal. He needs to provide you with some kind of sensible reason why he did it. He also needs to be able to prove to you that it won't happen again. If all he cares to do is try to make it seem small and insignificant, I think that means he wants you to not think about it, so he can turn around and do it again.
2007-11-21 07:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes sure its acceptable.I have been married for most of my life and I have had many many affairs.I have always forgave my wife for catching me.Even if I were in bed or in the shower with the one I was having the affair with.To answer your question honest.No it is not OK.How do you know if the girl has aids or some std? Were you broke up at the time?What I told you about myself didn't happen.I love my wife much to much to ever cheat and if he truly loved you he wouldn't have cheated.But if you love him you can forgive but not forget.Good luck
2007-11-21 07:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by I'm Jerry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not acceptable, and he will do it again- I know you must love him deeply and you are hurt, but you need to take care of # 1 and that's you- if he REALLY loved you, he wouldn't have done that to you.
My dad cheated on my mom and my catholic mom forgave him, then he continued to cheat 4 more times. She still forgave him but he finally forced her to divorce to marry someone else.
Only you will get hurt in the end
2007-11-21 07:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is NEVER acceptable to have an affair with anyone for any reason!
Period, End of story, No exceptions.!
2007-11-21 06:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by Bride2Be 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your other half this question and see his reaction. How would you feel if your other half had an affair for a short period of time just a quickie. That should answer your question.
2007-11-21 06:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you're unhappy then get out of the marriage. You owe to her to be honest instead of going out and having an affair. You would like the same respect if the tables were turned.
2007-11-21 06:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by Caligirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You give very little information here.
Since you say 'affair' ... I assume you are married.
No .. affairs during marriage is not acceptable .. it is adultery .. and cheating. No matter how short the affair is .. it is cheating . .and not acceptable .. it is still an affair.
2007-11-21 06:33:36 · answer #10 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋