My thirteen year old is acting out, what should I do?

Question

I know it's a part of growing up, but she won't stop back talking to me, swearing at me, getting into fights with girls at school, being mean to her 6 year old sister, and rude to my houseguests.
We went to a high class restaurant yesterday, and she was acting like a child, bealching without excusing herself, pciking at her teeth at the table and when the waitor said that they were out of chicken parmasean, her favorite, she mumbled under her breath about the service, shook her head and rolled her eyes like she owned the damn place!
I grounded for our trip until we get home to Boston, but today when I told her to turn off the television, she wouldn't, so I walked over, turned it off, and went back into the kitchen.
She gave me a dirty look and turned it back on.

What am I to do?

I took away her cell phone, iPod and laptop.
I took the television plug in my room , hidden.

My sister, recently got engaged so she was in London for the week, so we all went out to dinner, and I wanted to make it special, but my daughter ruined it.
And, I don't think taking her to a concert will make her love me.

Answer 1

If you have taken everything away, and nothing still works. You have grounded her.

It is time for some old fashion help. Time to blister a rear end. That will get her attentation in a heart beat.

My 13 year old daughter wanted to start this attitude thing. A couple of weeks of grounding did the trick with her. But she also knew I meant business. That if she didn't straighten up, she was going to get a very close meeting again with the helping hand. Then have to go to the store and show off her pretty stripes. It might sound cruel but it works.

To many parents have gotten away from spanking, do not beat, their kids. You are the parent, not their best friend. I am sure a good smack never hurt you so it won't hurt your kid.

Answer 2

i am 13., i never do things like that.,

U ARE THE PARENT start acting like that. If she turns the TV back on HUll her UP to BED.

dont go out to eat with her.

If she swears. No phone. Remove media that swears from your home and no computer IF she goes on not bad but not the best sites.

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if shes rude to ur other 6 year old daughter give the daughter treats and make the teen deal with it and punnish her by taking a class on kindness.


She sounds HORRIBLE>

if she has a cell phone take it away and NO TVS or comps in her room

Answer 3

I have a 14 yr old daughter. If she ever acted like that, I would not take her in public with me. She would stay home when I went out. She started acting out when she was 13 and I stripped her room. Took all her clothes except 5 outfits. I took all her purses and jewelry. I took all her posters, books, everything. 2 weeks later I gave it all back because she was acting so respectful. It has been a year and she is so wonderful to be around. She never got as bad as your daughter though. I would almost sugest counsling. I do not believe in getting physical.

Answer 4

You need to sit her down and talk to her. i know at this age its normal for girls to act like this especially as her hormones are kicking in and shes growing up, but you need to get to the bottom of this problem before it gets worse. find out if there is an actual reason for it or shes just acting like for attention etc. there could be all sorts of reasons, i know at her age i felt no one understood me or cared, it might not be the case here but if you find out then you will at least know what the cause is to be able to change it. if she doesnt acknowledge it, then just ignore her when she does immature things. easier said than done i know but if she realises you dont care then she will probably stop and realise its not getting her anywhere. or punish her by taking away something of hers she likes. but only if 100% necessary as it doesnt always work very well otherwise. it should get better with age.

Answer 5

you are the parent and as soon as she swears at you or is rude at you then take everything that she uses for fun ipod,laptop,tv,phone and other things and then take her up to bed at about 8:00pm and say this is a your bed time until you can act your age

do not let her walk over you its not doing her any favors because she will grow up and think she can treat people like dirt and get away with it

and also she is a role model for your 6 year old daughter so although she is nasty to her she looks up to her and will eventually copy and thats a disaster

do not take her our for meals because you know her behavior

basically take everything she likes,make her go to bed early,have no fun and then she will soon change

-jake

Answer 6

hi
im 13 an all i can say is, been mean to her six year old sister is not a part of growing up, i have no sisters, but i have a cousin who always comes round, she is 6, and i love her to pieces, i take her everywhere and wouldnt like to harm her in any way, id be even more protective if she was my sister!!
been rude to house guests is also not part of growing up!!
its just plain rude!
and the resturaunt thing?? again, not part of growing up, i dont mean to be rude, as i am 13 and wouldnt like to be described as this, but in my opinion she is just rude and selfish, and i think by you saying it is a part of growing up is just excusing her behavior, id take her to see a doctor incase she has some sort of ADD.
Sorry to be brutal! but im 13 and as i said, im not like that at all! x good luck x

Answer 7

Heres an amazing idea:
Discipline her.
Take everything away so she only has a mattress and dresser!
And stick with your punishments the reasons parents are having trouble is because they either bribe their kids or just say no then let the kid do it anyway
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And like leslie said, SPANK HER!
Don't go off and start beating her up or anything just give her a spanking, it never hurt me, or my siblings, we aren't emotionally scarred. She talks back smack her face,

Answer 8

put your foot down and be a parent. why are you letting a 13 year old walk all over you? YOU are the parent. YOU are in charge. what YOU say goes, and if she doesn't like it, revoke ALL privilages until she can act like a 13 year old young lady, instead of a 2 year old spoiled brat.

Answer 9

OK I'm 13 and be live me, i would hate her!

and I'm pretty sure a lot of other people would too!

but the truth is, she is only acting the way she is for some reason, maybe some bad influences at school, or someone keeps bringing her down.

try to figure it out and take her to places that you she will love (and that you might dislike:) like maybe a concert a of her favorite artist?

she will most defiantly apprciate it.

Answer 10

Simply treat her like the 2 y/o brat she is acting like. Don't take her ANYWHERE. When you go somewher get her a babysitter. Leave incredibly strict directions for the sitter. That's ridiculous.