I had a horrible fight w/ my hubby this morning and I am still fuming. What happened was, he went out to the bar last night and didn't come home until 3:30am. So we have this rule that has been in effect for years that when he comes home very late on a day that I work that he sleeps on the couch. Because I have to wake up at 7am to go to work and I am a very light sleeper. So last night, he didn't come in and wake me up, but he did come in and take my blanket off of me (I had 2 blankets on 1 fluffy 1 heavy, he actually lifted the fluffy one up (which was on top) and took the heavy one.) So I woke up about 1/2 hour later shivering in the cold (it got below freezing last night). So I go downstairs there is my hubby sleeping on the couch with my heavy blanket!!! The linen closet is full of blankets just a few feet from our bedroom! So I bitched at him this morning and he said i was overreacting, that i was hogging blankets and why did i need 2. What do you think, would you be angry?
2007-11-21 06:13:05 · 25 answers · asked by kallista 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
p.s. by way of justification, he said that the heavy one that i had was his favorite and that he had had it before we even got together and that his grandma had given it to him. but i did not even notice who brought which blankets into the marriage, and he never told me he had a favorite blanket!! i mean he is not 2!!!
2007-11-21 06:14:24 · update #1
p.p.s. to optimist, there is a reason the "rule" is there. it's not that he just wakes me up getting into bed. it's that he's totally sloshed, horny and once he wakes me up he tries to **** also wants to listen to loud music and have tearful drunken conversations about our relationship, all at 3:30 in the morning when i have to work in a few hours. i thought i would spare you the details but, trust me, the rule stays. ;)
2007-11-21 11:37:39 · update #2
I think your mad cause he was out late and your using the blanket as a excuse to argue since he did sleep on the couch maybe you should be discussing way he was out that late....
2007-11-21 06:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by just bored 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think it sounds like he was trying to make a statement about the statement that you were trying to make by saying that he had to sleep on the couch. I mean, I know this is a rule you guys had before last night, but still--he might have just been trying to tell you, "Well if I can't sleep in the bed, then I'm going to have my favorite blanket!"
I think he was a little bit unreasonable to steal it off you while you were sleeping, however. In the future, maybe you can take one of the heavier blankets out of the closet before he goes out, put it on your bed, and then leave his supposedly favorite blanket that his Grandma gave him (whether she did or not in reality!) so that he can't do this again.
2007-11-21 06:46:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not angry over nothing, but you are making a big deal out of it.
He broke the agreement, he woke you up on a work night, and he had been enjoying an evening out, to boot! How dare he? And you were hogging the heavy blanket! Probably to pay him back for boozing it up until 3:30 a.m!!
End the fight. Why continue it? Are you really arguing over blankets, or is it about a late night in the bar, and maybe its happened more often than you'd like? I mean, if you have a "rule" about his coming home that has been in effect for years....??? Personally, I'd be more angry that I have to have a rule in place because my husband is a clod that doesn't respect my job, who cares about blankets?
2007-11-21 06:26:29 · answer #3 · answered by Daisy 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
First of all stop talking about the blanket that is not the reason you are pissed he had the nerve to go out until all hours of the night. First of all your married so what the F is he doing going
out without you?. I do believe he was in th3e wrong for what he did not you have the opportunity to tell him sex for 2 weeks for his selfish inconsiderate actions. Unless he doesn't get it that often tell him none for a month. Really next time he will be more considerate and realize that going out like a single guy is wrong.
2007-11-21 06:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is a married man doing out on a weeknight til 3:30am anyhow? That's where I would be pissed/hurt first of all! And then to steal the covers and leave! lol, what was he thinking? I think he'd feel the same way, try it out one night!! It hurts when the other partner is out without you all hours of the night - I think this would irk him as well..... and the nerve to come into the bedroom to steal covers after that!? Geez, little respect there and it seems he believes he can get away with anything.
2007-11-21 06:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by Betty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are overreacting at all. After all, there is worse. My husband went out one night and didnt come home until the next day. I did not start a fight with him.......I divorced him! He is lucky to have you as a wife. Had I been in your shoes and discovered what he had done, I would have greeted him with an ice cold glass of water that moring when I got up. A lot of men will take off their jacket in cold weather and place it on a woman to keep her warm, not take her jacket because he is cold. Know what I mean?
2007-11-21 06:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by mamionamission 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though he was probably too drunk to remember doing something that lame.
On the other hand, why is it ok for him to be out til 3:30 in the morning and that's OK -- and You are Mad about the BLANKETS?
Most places the bars are not open that late and even if they are....? Well, you take it from there.
Sounds like he is disrespecting you from more than one angle here.....
2007-11-21 06:42:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a spoiled inconsiderate child to me. And yes you're right to be angry about it. The least he could have done is replace the blanket on your bed so you don't freeze. What a prince. Reminds me of why I'm happy to still be single!
2007-11-21 06:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by Gina M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Was he drunk when he came in? People don't reason well when they are drunk. If you are going to let him go to the bar and come home drunk, and then require him to sleep on the couch, then you should prepare the couch for him, so he doesn't come and steel your covers and make you freeze. Yes it was very inconsiderate of him to leave you with one cover, he could have gotten another one to cover you, if he cared much about you. I don't think guys who go to the bar with out their wives and stay out till all hours, care very much about their wives in the first place. The bar closes at 2am, where was he for the other hour and a half? That's what you should be upset about, not him taking your cover.
2007-11-21 06:29:55 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your husband was wrong. He should have grabbed a blanket out of the linen closet. No excuse. He made a mistake.
He's making it worse by not saying, yeah, I screwed up. I'm sorry.
2007-11-21 06:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by Unsub29 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋