Is it true that though you love ur spouse, can you still lust another person? If so have you acted on it? would you?
2007-11-21 06:08:07 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah of course it's true.
2007-11-21 08:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by Yummy♥Mummy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's true.
WHY? Because you are human. If you did not lust .. you would not have been interested in your spouse to begin with.
The lust .. the want .. the look .. is a natural part of you being .. human.
A person needs to learn how to control their thought process. The thought process is where the begining of trouble starts. Shush away the thought .. stops the action. However - it may not be easy. But it is possible.
Temptation will always be there. Always.
I know that lots & lots of people never consider anyone else .. but .. if they have a mate .. that thought process is what got them married, etc. The thought lives within us .. whether or not it is activated, or not activated.
I heard a saying the other day .. the grass is never greener on the other side of the fence.
Lust, can mesmerize a person ... lust can mimick love .. and so many more emotions.
You can love your spouse .. and lust another person. It is possible to control your thought process. To dwell on the lust .. is trouble in the making.
To act on it .. is a choice.
2007-11-21 06:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by Tara 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lust is normal. When in a relationship that is not *open* then acting on that lust is a betrayal
If the lust is constant then maybe you shouldn't BE in a relationship.
On the other hand, maybe you just need to light a new fire under your current relationship and see how that works.
Something is probably missing....
2007-11-21 06:16:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, lust can strike at any time, has nothing to do with love, which is why it should NEVER be acted on. Lust is a lie, a deception, and for a married person, can be deadlier than arsenic. So many people mistake chemistry for love, or physical attraction, animal magnitute, etc. for real love, and it makes me sad for them that they have no understanding about what real love means. And more than likely, they will never get to experience it for themselves, they continue to experience orgazms and giddiness, and convince themselves that its love.......sad and tragic.
In my past, when I was more ignorant of the truth, I did act on it. Today, now that I have been enlightened and understand this mystery clearly, I would never act on it now. Ever! Instead, if I feel the twinge, I look at my husband, and cultivate my desire for him.
2007-11-21 06:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by Daisy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust and love are two separate emotions that even women are privy to. I mean c'mon people. These are just basic human emotions that everyone has. It is not to say there is anything wrong with you or that your love for your significant other isn't true. All it is saying is that you are a warm-blooded human being, and you have at least a minimum amount of sexuality within you. For those of you who deny these feelings, you will probably be the ones more susceptible to them later because it will hit you harder.
2007-11-21 06:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think once you hit a certain point in your relationship, those lustful feelings for other men come flooding back. If your marriage isn't strong and you are so lured by another man who gives you attention, then you'd probably break down and go for it. No, I haven't. It's just not me. I'm flattered by male attention--what woman isn't? But I don't act on it.
And yes, I have lustful feelings for many men that I encounter in my world. I just do my best not to let those feelings show! :-)
2007-11-21 06:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my wife and I have lusted after thousands of women. I only acted on it once, though, and it was the biggest mistake of my life. Here's one recent example of my lust . . .
2007-11-21 06:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes absolutely. I have acted on lust. I don't necessarily fall in love with the other person if you can keep it seperate its all good.
2007-11-21 06:45:10 · answer #8 · answered by Cassandra C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have ,but remember what the bible says lust is the same thing as doing it.
2007-11-21 06:30:02 · answer #9 · answered by Cherokee indian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember it is one of the 7 deadly sins and is extremely disrespectful to the one your with. You can lust over many people remember it is just another form of temptation and how the devil can control your life. l think you can but should never act on it.
2007-11-21 06:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lust is natural, whether you're bonded or not. Personally, I've never acted upon it when in a realationship.
2007-11-21 06:12:05 · answer #11 · answered by Amirra 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋