Honestly, whats it like to be married?

Question

I just want to know whats it like after they you wed and days after that.

Doesnt it get boring after a while?

Answer 1

It has a lot of ups and downs but boring it is not.

Answer 2

The first few days after the wedding are odd. When you're on your honeymoon, it's just like the two of you are still dating and going away with each other. But if you've never lived together before, then it's a whole new thing. You're married, responsible, and living together for the first time. It's not boring at first because you start to get used to each other.

As soon as you get comfortable, it's easy to start letting yourself go. You can't figure out why you should have to shower every single day if you don't plan to go out of the house--stuff like that.

And then once you're past a certain point, Gawd does it EVER get boring!!! You both have to do everything you can to keep things interesting. Be kind to each other and let the other person know exactly what kindness is in your own mind so that they don't have to guess at it.

Answer 3

The first few years is hard hard work but if you can get past that and each find some middle ground, then as long as both continue to do maintenance, then i think you are home and hosed. The 3-5 year mark is by far the hardest. It's hard to live with someone day after day for years on end and not fight, that's why we both accept there is going to be arguments then we will go back to that middle ground. Divorce rate for 2nd marriage is higher than the 1st, that's because few people seem to get that it doesn't matter who you are with, there is going to be work to be done.
Yes it does get boring at times.... not often for me personally but there are still moments. Some people go find someone else, but i much prefer the challenge of getting back to the middle ground with the man i married, for life.

David S made a great point about having someone to be bored with.

Answer 4

Yes, it can be boring sometimes, but you can also experience things that you never before thought possible because you are married. Just like everything else in life you have to take the good with the bad. There will be days where you just sit there and think of how lucky you are and how everything is perfect. Then there will be other days where you may think if you have to spend one more minute with this person you are going to explode. It is just the nature of the beast. That is why the best advice I can give anyone before they marry is to make sure that they don't just settle that this person is just the best it is going to get.

Answer 5

They person they are before the wedding is the same person there are after the wedding. It can get boring if you don't try to keep it fun. Do little things that the other person doesn't know about and will enjoy. Marriage good or bad takes work and takes two people.

Answer 6

Ups and Downs is a good way to describe it ... bitter sweet. Sometimes you'll absolutely HATE it and wish you never did it, and other times you'll feel as though it's the best decision you ever made. It's up to you to decide whether or not that's something you're willing to experience, or if you'd rather play it safe and stay single.
It's very very hard. You have to be completely selfless and consider someone elses feelings and opinions more than you ever have. There's a lot of compromise, too. You lose a lot of freedom, but you gain a closeness and benefits to a relationship you can't have without marriage.

Answer 7

Marriage is what you make it if you want a boring marriage you'll have one. If you want an exciting marriage it can happen too. Really marriage is not much different then single life it is what you make it and well you have someone there to help you out and care for you so in many ways it rock's.

Just remember when that time come's for you choose wisely.

Well that is why you have experimenting I do not mean other partners I mean trying new things as a couple. You ahve also got to remember most married couples have children so life is different everyday.

Answer 8

When you first get married everything is so fun and both parties go out of their way to please the other. It is exciting. Then after a year or so you start seeing more and more of the habits that bug one another. You tend to stop doing the things that you once did. You start feeling comfortable and things get to be like a roller coaster. It will have its ups and its downs. Marriage takes work. You have to deal with stress, raising a family and working. I like being Married at times and then other times wish I was single again. It is a commitment that holds the two together. It is the two sticking with each other and making sacrifices to keep them together.

Answer 9

It only gets boring if you let it become a routine. There are moments when you can't keep your hands off each other and also moments when you can't stand each other. It's all about compromise and learning from one another. You have to be understanding, patient, respectful, and selfless or else it won't work out. Marriage is not for everyone and some people still don't grasp that concept. You just have to figure out whether it's right for you.

Answer 10

Marriage can be hard but the benefits of having someone in your corner sharing the good,bad and ugly makes it all worth it. Marriage is a give and take relationship if you are a selfish person then marriage is not for you. Sure marriage can be boring, but so can life, jobs, and every thing else constant. Its just feels better to bore together with your spouse than being bored alone..............

Answer 11

I think Jamie Preisly (My Name is Earl) said it best in a recent issue of Redbook magazine:

"You're going to fall in and out of love with each other a million times in 60 years; we're only human. But if you're sitting beside your best friend, you know he always has your best interests at heart. You'll argue, but there won't be any cheating and I don't just mean with someone of the opposite sex. I mean they're not going to cheat you by doing something that would be detrimental to you--that's love. And after 60 years together, it's not about sex or looks anymore; it's bout being with the person who knows you better than anyone else and loves you anyway. "