My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for quite a long time, and of course we have thought about names. I always liked "Lexi" or "Ally" for a girls nicknames but Alexandra is too long, we dont like it, and Alexis makes us think of people we dont want to think about. Then not too long ago we became friends with someone with a little girl named Alexa, and I immediately fell in love with the name because its just what I would want for my daughter and I never thought about it. Well now we are having a baby and want to use that name but our friend gets mad if I bring it up. Do we just pick another name?
2007-11-21 05:58:11 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
Alexa is a gorgeous name! Your friend does not own the name! It is a popular name and your friends shouldn't have chosen it if they want there child to be the only one with the name. If you don't call her Alexa Alexia is nice too. Or you could use it as a middle name but i hope you don't let your friend stand in the way CONGRATS!
2007-11-21 06:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
On one hand, every Alex- name out there is already completely common (most would say to the point of overuse -- Alexis, Alexa and Alexandra are all in the top 40, after all!). So it's not like you'd be obviously "stealing" something unique that they'd put a lot of thought into or anything like that. In other words, parents who use such popular names have to expect to run into at least a handful of others with the same moniker. ;)
On the other hand ... do you value your friendship even a little bit? After all, it's fairly obvious that your "naming advances" aren't welcome, given the fact that your friend "gets mad" every time you mention it. So using it regardless, knowing how it will affect your friendship, is basically saying "I care more about taking your child's name than actually continuing our friendship ... so shove off!" LOL Harsh, but true. At least that's how your friend will take it.
Especially since you mentioned liking Ally OR Lexi as a possible nickname, and there are plenty of others that may not offer "sexy Lexi" (sorry, it's just so common) but that do lend themselves to Ally.
Alison, Alice, Alicia, Alaina, Alanis, Alannah, Alena, Alina, Allegra, Alastriona (which could technically use either Ally or Lexi, as simply an Irish form of Alexandra), Abigail, Annabel, Arabella, etc.
By all means avoid "Alexia," however. It's a common brain disorder ... not a "pretty" name for a little girl (feel free to look it up). Baffles me every time I see it suggested. LOL
2007-11-21 06:58:05 · answer #2 · answered by Irish Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is certainly a difficult dilemma. If your new friends call their daughter Alexa but you would most likely call your Alexa by the nickname Lexi or Ally I don't see anything wrong with using the same name. Additionally, I agree with the above person in regards to the longevity of the friendship you'll have with your new friends. If it is meant to be a long-term friendship, they should be honored to have daughters that share the same name. If they are people that are petty about names, maybe they aren't as good of friends as you might like them to be. I can understand the hesitancy about using the same name as someone close to you, but ultimately it is a choice that only you and your husband must agree on despite the opinions of others. When I was having babies, couples didn't ask the opinions of everyone like they seem to do now. Having a baby was much more an intimate affair between husband and wife and deciding on names was a personal matter. I was a little disappointed when my daughter and son-in-law got pregnant and were unmovable when it came to leaking the baby names they had picked out. They did not find out the sex until he was born (their choice) and told no one their name choices until he was already named. But, I respected them for making that decision and happy that it was something that they could share together as a couple.
2007-11-21 06:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why would you want to use the same name your friend used? Wouldn't you rather your child have their own name, something that doesn't remind you of another little girl that you know? How about just naming her Lexi? Lots of people just use nick names to name their kids. Or using something as a middle name... my nephew is named Ethan Maxwell, but everyone just calls him Max...
Anyway, just think about trying to come up with your own name for your child. You won't offend a friend, you won't worry about whether it's okay to do... I'm sure there are more names than just those three that can be shortened to Lexi.
Good luck
2007-11-21 06:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by Franky 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Name you baby what u want. fine, she's your friend but what are the chances that the two girls would always be mistaken for each other, they have last names, don't they. Besides, it's not like your frined has a monopoly of the name "Alexa'.
For all I care, she too could have gotten it from another person.
I wouldn't sweat it if I were u. My son's name's Peace. I have always wanted to name my child that (regardless of sex). I would not have changed it even if my whole neighborhood had had that name when I was ready.
Follow your mind!
2007-11-21 06:09:55 · answer #5 · answered by Ayo A 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you would be fortunate in case you're nevertheless acquaintances with this couple whilst your infant is the right age to care approximately issues like those. With each and all the adjustments one is going via in existence, maximum possibly, you will improve aside, do no longer take me incorrect, I desire you have many lifelong acquaintances, yet once you're nevertheless acquaintances ten years from now, this would possibly not remember, that's going to likely be relaxing even, and in case you're no longer acquaintances any further, it won't remember the two! of course that's alright to call him Jack, yet your spouse has each and all the incredible to be offended additionally! a acceptance is a few thing that takes plenty concept and time to ultimately arise with, so if she extremely does no longer want to call him that, pay interest to her and start up questioning of yet another call. in any different case, attempt to cajole her into naming the child Jack, basically such as you had dreamed of years in the past. that's totally ok, your buddies shouldn't suggestions, no longer basically because of the fact it grew to become into your concept first of all yet frequently because of the fact it is an surprising call. sturdy success on that and congratulations on your new infant boy!
2016-10-17 15:26:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick another name! I'd be pi**ed if someone used the same name that my child had... Alexa isn't exactly "different" or "unique"...but still... Why would you want your child to have the same name anyway? Does no one care about a child having SOME identity of their own?
2007-11-21 06:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you're in a bind...I would pick another name if I were you! Better to remain friends and there are a lot of other beautiful names out there. How about Alexa for a middle name?
2007-11-21 06:14:29 · answer #8 · answered by kleo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's your baby name her what you want so what if she gets mad, it's not like she is the only kid in the world with the name Alexa, I know many of them!
2007-11-21 06:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by Born Country 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Name your baby what you want! It is YOUR baby and it will be her name for life! If she wants to end a friendship over it, so be it. Bye! Like the first person said, chances are, you will not remain life-long friends with this person anyway.
I wouldn't even bring it up again to her until you actually give birth to your baby and you're introducing her to people.
2007-11-21 06:04:27 · answer #10 · answered by Katie G 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋