My grandmother and two aunts decided to take it upon themselves to not do Thanksgiving at all this year, mostly because my cousin is away in military school and he doesn't get out until Dec. 1st. They want to have it in early Dec. I told them that this is the stupidest thing ever and that our family is falling apart (because it is.) I told them regardless, I am going to someone's Thanksgiving, because I am gonna eat. The worst thing is, none of them can even admit who's idea it was to not have it....they keep blaming everyone else. How stupid is this, and does anyone have any suggestions as to what I can do?
2007-11-21 05:34:29 · 13 answers · asked by Kristen 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
I don't even think it really has anything to do with my cousin, I think its more of an excuse, because they all are so wrapped up in themselves.
2007-11-21 05:36:44 · update #1
To heck with them, let them do nothing this year and realize just how boring it is with no one to celebrate. I would simply do it myself with my own little family and friends. Start your own tradition, later on if you feel like it, you can invite the more distant relatives.
Thanksgiving should be done on Thanksgiving period. And since the cousin will be home for Christmas, what's the big deal over Thanksgiving anyway? Christmas will be here before we know it, so I think your grandma and aunts ought to focus on that, and let T-giving go.
2007-11-21 06:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by CSmom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You mention your grandmother and two aunts. What about your parents (assuming they're alive and that you live with them)?
I can understand your grandma and aunts wanting to POSTPONE (not cancel) the family Thanksgiving celebration until your cousin comes home. I'll assume that one of your aunts is the mother of that cousin. Particularly if your grandma and aunts do all the work of preparing the Thanksgiving dinner, they don't want to go through all that work twice.
Quite a few people attend more than one dinner this season, on different days, or even on the same day. For example, I might have Thanksgiving with my family on Thursday, meet with some friends or another branch of the family for leftovers on Friday or Saturday, and have a new dinner with a church group on Sunday.
I recommend that
1) You and your immediate family create a Thanksgiving dinner--perhaps a smaller dinner--this coming Thursday. If you don't want to cook a big turkey, have a smaller turkey, or chicken or ham or lamb or something else. Or you could go out to eat (make reservations NOW!). Heck, even some cans of Campbell's Cream of Turkey Soup and some veggies will be pleasant enough if you enjoy relaxing with your family on a holiday. Then go to the big family bash on December 1, which is little more than a week away.
2) Do what you suggested in your question, and spend Thanksgiving Day with a friend's family. Call around now and see who will be happy to have you join them.
Happy Thanksgiving!
2007-11-21 05:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by MNL_1221 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your Aunts wanting to share Thanksgiving dinner with your cousin when he returns, but they should also understand how important it is to you. But telling them they are nuts won't help. First off, how old are you? Could you offer to help with the cooking and maybe suggest you simplify the menu a bit. Think of which foods are your favorites and tell them you would like to help with the preparations. You could set the table and offer to decorate a little. Sometimes young people don't realize how year after year of being the one responsible for doing all the holiday preparations, can eventually get to be very tiring. Having someone offer to take over even part of the work can make a HUGE difference! I know from experience. After my Mother died, years ago, the holiday dinners became my responsibility. I had my kids at home at the time so I did it happily. Now that they are grown and gone it is a PLEASURE to have them invite me sometimes!
Good luck. Happy Thanksgiving!
2007-11-21 05:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by yesterday 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you throw a thanksgiving dinner yourself. It's really not hard, only the turkey part. Let everyone know that you are going to have thanksgiving at your home and if they want to come let you know by the end of today. Invite a few friends too.
Buy can yams about 1 can for every two people then add about 2 more cans. Anyways drain spome of the juice out and then brush on some melted butter, sprinkle plenty of brown sugar, bake in oven at about 350 degrees for 10 mins... top with mini marhsmellow and bake in your oven until marshmellows are melted golden brown.
You can bake biscuits or buys rolls. Buy cranberry sauce or JELLIED cranberry sauce. Slice the jellied sauce place on a small plate, serve cold. Can Ocean spray jellied cranberry sauce is 88cents at Wal-Mart.
Buy a box or 2 of stuffing follow instructions.
Make mash potatoes or instant.
Buy jar gracy warm and serve.
You can make corn out of the can just warm mix in a little salt, pepper, and butter. YUM!
You see thanksgiving doesn't have too be hard. Take it that I dont cook much from scratch because I just don't have the skill, but about a 2 weeks ago my mother and I made thanksgiving dinner for my cousins early and we did it in about 2 hours. We didnt have turkey we had ham that my mama fried with glaze in it.
BEST OF LUCk...if I had my own kitchen & home I would make dinner this year instead of my fiance's family no Traditional dinner taco crap.
2007-11-21 05:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by MS.veronica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When someone is away that really is an important member at the table,Thanksgiving can seem really depressing. At least you're going to still have Thanksgiving in a few weeks. Go ahead and eat with your friends tomorrow and enjoy yourself. I'm not having Thanksgiving tomorrow, cause my husband is deployed and I'm no where near my family. I will fly home for Christmas though. You may not fully understand it now, but if you were the one away I'm sure they'd do the same for you. In a few weeks you will have a special Thanksgiving day that no one else will.
2007-11-21 05:49:07 · answer #5 · answered by mell mell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try calmly explaining to them that you really want to have Thanksgiving dinner, and it is an important tradition in America that you want to participate in. If they still don't let you, you could try going over to a friend's house or something for Thanksgiving. If they still don't let you, then you'll have to have it in December 1st, like your grandmother and aunts said. Don't worry! It won't be that long of a wait! Only about a week and a half! In the meantime, to get your self in the holiday spirit, you could send your cousin a Thanksgiving card.
I hope I helped and good luck! Happy Thanksgiving! :) ♥
2007-11-21 05:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by iheart_you_too2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever think that they just may be tired of always doing thanksgiving???? Why don't you and your mom, that is if you and her can get together go out and buy a fresh turkey and the fixings and do thanksgiving at either her place or yours and invite everybody over and tell your grandma and two aunts: "no disrespect intended, it's all settled Mom and I are doing thanksgiving so stop the 'blame game' and get over here about such and such time and shut up. We ARE doing thanksgiving, simple as that."
2007-11-21 06:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have control of your own life. People's perspectives change as they get older. As for you, celebrating on Thanksgiving Day is important for the traditional food, (haha) and probably other reasons too. For your older family members, the presence of individual people such as you cousin is more important than the date or time. My advice? Celebrate both and don't hold any grudges.
2007-11-21 05:44:34 · answer #8 · answered by JoyJoyJoy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 23:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by haslam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is wrapped up in themselves? Rather than critize your family, why don't you take some initiative and have Thanksgiving and cook for them?
2007-11-21 05:44:56 · answer #10 · answered by Xerxes32 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋