My wife has gotten a 2nd opinion now 5 times. We are not sure who we can trust. What do you think?

Question

I asked a earlier question on whether my wife should have her uterus removed. Each time we go to a different doctor they say that you have no worries. Then a year later they say now you have a problem and want to do surgery. Then we get another second opinion. Are we on a roller coaster?

Answer 1

5 opinions should give you a majority amount of a answer of yes to remove it or no to remove it
go with the majority opinion

Answer 2

Hmm... at some point you have to trust someone. You also have to do your own research, and find out as much as you can about your wife's condition. It is very well known that doctors can make mistakes, but it's unlikely that 5 doctors will make the same mistake, unless they're in cahoots with each other, which is very unlikely as well. The best way to go about it, is to actually have a friend whose opinion is highly regarded by you refer you to a doctor that they trust, and so on... And go from there. Tell them about how you feel, and that it's a major thing with you right now, and such and such.
It's a hard road, but you better think really hard before you remove your uterus.
Finally you will inevitably come to a cross roads, and will have to choose between two -not necessarily good and bad... maybe between two wrongs.... You will eventually choose the one you want to live with. You are responsible for your own body. Make the right decision and inform yourselves as much as you can.

Answer 3

It seems time to take matters into your own hands. Apparently there is a problem with her uterus but not severe enough that it is obvious that it has to be removed.
Is your wife in pain because of this situation and/or is there a reason she wants to avoid surgery?
It the consensus is 50-50 between doctors then let your wife make the call.
Good Luck

Answer 4

It depends, actually. What kind of doctors are you visiting? OBGYN? Are these second opinions from specialists? Have you been referred to a specialist? What is the second opinon a year later after they said she has a problem and needs surgury?

If your wife needs surgury, have the surgury. Don't put it off. The complications could worsen and cause serious issues.

Also, how old is your wife? Is she sure she wants to have something this permanent done? If there is even an OUNCE of doubt, she should not do it.

My advice: Have the surgury if it is needed, don't have the operation if unsure, don't pressure your wife.

Answer 5

not sure of her diagnosis. cervical cancer...uterine fibroids...is it hanging out of her underwear?

Ultimately its up to your wife and her insurance company if the thing is gonna be removed (kinda joking about the ins co remark). A doctor can prescribe medication or even surgery and when you fill the prescription or sign the consent forms for the surgery...if the treatment fails its your fault you did it...not theirs. Remember that if medical treatment is the "standard treatment", it has been shown successfull in 30-50% in people.
Having things removed and the problem persisting, can leave a person feeling empty (pardon the pun).

Answer 6

It depends on WHY. Does she have fybroids? That's the most common reason.

Take her to an endocrinologist. Hormone therapy can shrink a fybroid tumor so that it is no longer a threat. My mom had one and her doctors wanted to give her a hysterectomy. She told them where they could shove it. She ended up going to this doctor and he shrank it to the size of a pea (instead of the baseball it was originally). Now she gets to keep her uterus (although it's not like she's using it for anything important anyways).

So, I think you should seek the advice of an endocrinologist or an alternative medicine doctor who has a valid medical license.

Answer 7

Is she using it?
If not, why take a chance? You can't have cancer of the uterus, if you don't have one!
Seems like it is not life-threatening or out of 5-6 doctors SOMEONE would have said the same thing twice.
Your wife is in charge of her own health. Listen to her. Do what she wants.

Answer 8

if its been a year, whatever ur wife has could have gotten worse, or the knowledge about the condition has grown and now the doctors think thats best

I would disregard what anyone had said last year because it probably doesnt apply any longer

Answer 9

hello there ... you have to ask at list 5 doctors and if Moor then 2 Doctor say the same thing that's what should you need to do for best

Answer 10

You may be going in that circle forever, if you can afford to could you go private? I apolagise if you already are going private, where I am we have public health provision and the choice to go Private if we need to.

Private may be better.