Why do Christians say Homosexuals choose to be that way?

Answer 1

My previous answer may have offended many... I have chosen to amend it, My claim that homosexuals choose to become a homosexual from a heterosexual was wrong. My logic was wrong.

To a homosexual, God knows how you feel, he knows your situation, you have nothing to be afraid of, he is more loving than we can ever immagine and he will not hold a grudge nor will he disown you for being how you are. You have nothing to fear, God is YOUR god.. don't let other people tell you how he feels, you don't like it, neither does god.

Answer 2

I'm a Christian but I don't say that. I have some friends that are gay and we have spoken about this before. Why would anyone chose, sometimes as a small child, to be judged and harrassed by our society? I truly believe that they are born with the trait of loving the same sex. We are all different beings with many different traits. What about mentally challenged people? Did they choose it also? No, we are all put here with a purpose and just because we don't understand what it is doesn't mean it doesn't exist. I feel that homosexuality mentioned in the Bible has more to do with promiscuous sex than when two people love each other and express that sexually. God didn't want us to get divorces either but Jesus said it would be tolerated because He knew we were weak. I'm sure my comments will anger many Christians but I have a right to my own opinion and I am not giving that up for any man. So before you all start judging, remember judging is a sin also.

Answer 3

It's not only Christians who will say that, though I appreciate that a lot of them (not all, not by any means) will say people choose to be gay. Homosexuality is genetically determined, many people are either ignorant of this or choose to believe that being gay is a choice, ignoring the science.It's true that a gay person can choose to live a lie in which he has a 'straight' life, but this does not change their orientation, their choice is merely the choice to suppress how they feel. The view of many is that it is not 'natural' (in the of religion, it is not the way God created us and is a sin), but in my opinion, although men and women have the capability to reproduce it is not necessarily what we are on this earth for, so who is to say that it is any more natural than a gay relationship?Love is natural, and you can't deny that love in a gay relationship and love in a straight relationship are both just love.I could talk about this for hours and probably just repeat myself, lol, I probably already have...And yes, I'm a lesbian and a science-lover, but that does not necessarily mean I wouldn't see another point of view if I felt it was well justified :)

Answer 4

As Dec J clearly shows... It is because many of the people who think they are Christians, don't really understand Christianity or what it means. They are ignorant, plain and simple. In my opinion they are even ignorant of God's wishes. I am a Christian, and I have strong values. I may not believe that certain things are right, but I also know that it is not my place or job to judge the people around me. Only God has the right to place judgment on the choices we make in our lives. However, I also do not believe that this is a choice. Think about it this way, if you are not attracted to someone, you do not want to be close and intimate with that person. It doesn't matter that in this case it is male Vs female, it is simply that they are attracted to one and not the other. In my opinion it is same as preferring red heads over blonds, or vice versa. We are born feeling these things, and that is just how they are. Why are some people born with autism, any disease, or even mental conditions? It is not our place to judge anyone; it is up to God and only God. What we are taught through God's word is to be kind to our neighbors, and all of them, not just those we consider "righteous". ("Do onto others as you would have done to you.") We need to be compassionate and understanding about the pain and fear people feel, no matter what the situation is. We should be there to listen, learn, assist if possible, but most of all just give them understanding.

Answer 5

I am a Christian, I do believe that we all make our own life choices. Whether you are choosing intimate partner or what career you would like to pursue. We all have choices that we make. I do not believe that Homosexuality is in the genes, because if someone wants to use that logic, then we also need to look at our bodies.

A man has a penis and a woman has a vagina. A 'straight' couple inserts the penis into the vagina. But a gay male couple uses the anus and the penis. The anus is not an entrance, but an exit for what our body doesn't want to keep in it. A lesbian couple will use toys or hands to fulfill their sexual arousal, (you still need to stick something up there to get aroused). Using that logic, I believe we choose to be 'straight' or 'gay'.

I know my points quite vague and not all 'straight', 'gay', or 'lesbian' couples use those forms to get aroused, but that is how I feel when it comes to choosing our sexuality.

Answer 6

I am christian but I do not believe that homosexuals choose to be that way!! I think they say that because of the things they don't know so they have to blame it on something. I believe that any person could fall in love with any other person. Just like love knows no color or age...I believe that it also knows no gender. I am not homosexual and I do date men but I do believe that it could be entirely possible for me to fall in love with a woman. Love is a soul connection that has nothing to do with gender. All I'm saying is never close your heart to the many possibilities just because you're afraid of them...you may just pass up the greatest experience of your life!!

Answer 7

To believe otherwise would be to admit that we are living as God created us, therefore, it cannot be "wrong". The problem that I have with this type of argument is that it's generally used as a wedge topic when it's completely irrelevant for those of us living in areas where we (supposedly) enjoy religious liberty; a law whose only basis is "the Bible says it's wrong" cannot stand a constitutional test, and we cannot be punished for our choices in life so long as those choices do not impose on the rights and liberties of others. Unfortunately, we live in a country that has been dominated by "conservative activist" popularly elected/ politically appointed judges that for the past 200 years have been trying to replace the Constitution with the Bible.

Answer 8

i would have to say that the only reasons Christians say, "that it's a choice to be homosexual" is because they are ignorant about homosexuals and their struggles to be treated as normal human being and lead a normal lifestyle, full of love and understanding from family members and society.

i believe that homosexuality is a kind of PRESENCE WITH IN A PERSON. its something you NOTICE and then decide if you want to endure the struggles that homosexuality brings. an example of what in talking about is when a person decides that red or pink is their favorite color, they are aware that their are other colors are out their but, they just decide TO ONLY LIKE THAT ONE CERTAIN COLOR.

Answer 9

Let's take Christianity out of it. Homosexuality is a choice, period. No one is holding a gun to your head and saying "Be gay (or be straight) or I'll blow your head off!" All this talk about it being genetic is bunk. Science has shown that homosexuality only exists in humans, and science also shows that homosexuality is contrary to the laws of nature. All animals have a survival instinct, and part of that survival instinct is the perpetuation of the species by having offspring. It takes a male and female animal to produce an offspring, so true homosexuals cannot reproduce naturally, therefore causing their own extinction. The truth is homosexuality is unnatural, homosexuals know it, and they've found scientists that say there is a genetic predisposition to be homosexual so they can rationalize their behavior. If you're a homosexual and you say "I was born that way" or "I can't help it" then you're a freakin' wimp. Maybe those of us who are straight would have more respect for you if you'd tell the truth and say "I'm gay because I want to be" instead of trying to insult our intelligence.

Answer 10

A large number of people believe it is a choice because they really have no idea of the struggles homosexuals go through. I tried for years not to be gay. I prayed, begged God to take this "curse" from me. I also married a woman who's company I enjoyed hoping it would "cure" me. Nothing worked. Despite what sarge927 says, it is NOT a choice. The moment I stopped fighting against it, the moment I prayed for guidance, did God show me that I could be a gay man and a Christian... and it felt like the enitre world was lifted from my shoulders. I have never been closer to God. By accepting his "gift" of homosexuality, I have found what it truly means to be a Christian. I constantly pray for those so-called Christians who use the Bible to condemn gays that God may bless them and open their minds to His true purpose.

One thing these "Christians" seem to forget is that Jesus Christ died on the cross for the sins of ALL. That whoever believes in Him shall have eternal life. There is no exception there... ALL who believe will be saved. I know my sins, and I constantly ask for forgivness for them... but being homosexual, in and of itself, is not one of them. God made me this way. I didn't ask for it, I didn't want it... but it is what it is. Praise God that I may do His biding as a gay man. Pray for those who have hardened their hearts against what God has made that their minds may be opened and see the beauty in what He has made.

Answer 11

I do not know if your sexuality is born or learned. However, the choice comes in when you decide who to have sex with. Some woman have desires to be with 'bad boys' or have the inate ability to be drawn towards men that beat them. However they can make a choice to live like that, or find a stable man that treats them well. I guess that might be simplifying my thought.

I do want to add however, yes I do think that the gay lifestyle is a sin, we all chose to sin everyday. Some of us speed when we drive, others smoke and over eat, not treating their bodies as the Temple it is. I love my brother no matter what the sin, as God loves us. I also think that the separation between Church and State allows for homosexuals to marry in the eyes of the law.

Sorry getting off topic. What it boils down to is you choose who you have sex with.