my ex girlfriend from CA filed a child support for my daughter. she's 7 and lives with her. i tried to settle this out of court but she wont talk to me at all. i live and work in AZ. the thing is im not the kind of Dad that doesn't know his responsibility and dont care 'bout my daughter. anyways, she wont talk to me, i have this form from the child support services to fill up. there's on question there asking visitation agreement. i want my daughter to be with me every non school days. and im callin her to discuss that. the thing is, she wont talk to me. how can i settle this. no idea why she wont talk to me. she has another kid from another relationship. and has a boyfriend who kinda lives with her now and share the same room with my daughter. its a 2 bedroom condo. the room is for her sister and her boyfriend. her condo is under her name. but they pretty much share bills and mortgage. but she might look too broke because court might see the house as her own expenses.
2007-11-21 03:24:19 · 4 answers · asked by justine30 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
like this holiday. i want my daughter to be with me. i can pick her up there, and thats never an issue for me. in the past whenever i asked my ex if i could be with my daughter. all she has to say is " your daughter doesn't want to" She's 7. dont you think. we as parent should be telling her what's right and what's wrong. so how do i settle this. the least expensive way..thanks guys.
2007-11-21 03:28:00 · update #1
I know you wanted to do this out of court, but it's best for you if you do it in the Court. Get an attorney in CA who knows family law. Here are the reasons:
1. Once support is set in a court order, it is protection for you. There is normally a procedure to follow that can keep track of your payments, and the possibility of her charging you with non-payment of support declines substantially.
Your child support is not based on her income, but rather on yours. And you are not required to support her, but rather, the child.
2. The Court will find you to be the father of the child. That will automatically give you visitation privileges. Most states have a standard visitation order. The tend to be one order when the parties live within 100 miles of one another and a different order if they live more than 100 miles apart. It can be modified to fit unique circumstances.
The visitation order should also provide for who is responsible for transportation. It is common to split it, so the party getting the child is responsible for picking the child up. There are variations, also. You can meet halfway at a pre-designated spot. If there is a lot of animosity, transfer can be done at a police station. There are others.
BTW, hiring an attorney is one way to communicate with her. It's not what you would prefer, I'm sure, but it's a start.
** Note: This is a general discussion of the subject matter of your question and not legal advice. Local laws or your particular situation may change the general rules. For a specific answer to your question you should consult legal counsel with whom you can discuss all the facts of your case. **
2007-11-21 03:45:04 · answer #1 · answered by scottclear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will probably need to hire an attorney. Child support services will not help you get visitation or custody...you need to do that on your own. If you haven't seen your daughter in a while you are probably NOT going to get unsupervised visitation in another state. You may get limited or even supervised visitation for reunification purposes which is going to cost you more money...but it will be worth it because a child should know both of her parents. Make sure you pay your child support...although child support and child visitation are two separate issues...the court will not look favorably upon you if you are not paying. In the state of California it is standard practice to issue a wage garnishment order and your wages will come out of each paycheck automatically. Good Luck.
2007-11-21 05:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by lahockeyg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will need to fill out the form with your wishes and see what can be worked out. You will not get all holidays. My wife was in the same situation and it was agreed that every other Christmas the kids would spend with their Dad (including the school break). Same with Spring break. Summer visitaion was set at 6 weeks for him. Her situation was a bit different since he lived 3 States away.
2007-11-21 03:45:11 · answer #3 · answered by sensible_man 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hire an attorney
or a Mediation specialist
this all needs to be in black and white Legally
usually when there is a Seperation of States the non custodial parent gets the longer holidays from school etc
try to keep things NICE with the mommy and you will be rewarded in the long run
The child loves you both
not just her
not just you
dont put the child in the middle
2007-11-21 03:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by caretaker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋