should i tell my friend that she smells bad?

Question

i have a friend that smells realy bad lke bo and i have to sit by her and i wante to tell her that she stinks but if i do it may cause us our friendshp sould i tell her or should not tell har?

Answer 1

if you two are very close friends, then i would tell her in the best and most kind way you could or can. i think it would be better coming from you as her friend then from some other kid that could tease her about her problem.

Answer 2

I think you should tell her. Start off with the conversation of if I were in a bad situation that you didn't think I was aware of would you tell me? More than likely she'll say yes that will open the door for you. I would by her a nice smell good set from someplace and I would just say I'm not telling this to be mean or hurtful but sometimes you have a funny odor (please don't say BO to her) and I know I would want you to tell me something like this before someone else who didn't care about me. Zest makes these wonderful shower gels and the scent pretty much last all day and they aren't that expensive.

If you are too afraid to come out and say it directly Whole foods stores sells these sea salt bath soaks with different fragrances like lavender and etc - any how the sea salts pull out body toxins and impurities. Try it yourself if you haven't already and then get one for her and that way you can rant and rave about how wonderfully you felt after using it, how it re-leaves stress and you bought one for her to try it out too!

Answer 3

A friend would tell her, very gently of course. But you should understand why she smells first.

Is it because she doesn't understand how to stay clean? Or because she doesn't have the facilities at home to stay clean? Big difference.

Ignorance of proper hygiene can be fixed easily. But not having adequate bathing facilities or the money to purchase cleansing materials (soap, shampoo, deodorant, even laundry soap) is a different matter. Find out first what you are dealing with.

But do help her. If her good friends smell it, others do too. And they won't be some kind or gentle when telling her.

Answer 4

Yeah it's always difficult to break embarrassing news to a friend, but if she's really your friend tell her. Of course don't be too blunt about it.

Years back I had one friend with a BO problem. He would shower everyday and sometimes even twice a day and the BO only got worse. In the end he found out he was allergic to Aluminum clorhydrate something found in most deodorants.
Once he found that out his problem was solved.

Just keep in mind that BO isn't only caused by a lack of hygiene.

Answer 5

This is a good question. I have always been a very honest friend, even when it comes to negative things. The saying "the truth hurts sometimes" is very true, however, if you tell your friend in a very nice, respectable way, she is not going to be upset with YOU, she might be embarrassed that she smells though, ya know? You can tell her what kind of deoderant you wear, and/or body spray/purfume. I'm sure she just doesn't realize, and she's lucky to have a friend like you. Just make sure she knows that you're not coming from a critical place, but from a place of empathy and understanding. Good luck!

Answer 6

This is going to sound really out there, but maybe you should talk to her mom. If nothing else, her mom will be able to tell you if the girl suffers from some kind of condition or if hyperactive glands run in the family, and she might even help you figure out how to drop some hints or be able to drop some herself.

I do think you should still talk to your friend about it, in case she thinks her mom is just picking on her. If she gets upset about someone making fun of her b.o., you could gently say something like, "That was a terrible way to treat you, but you know, you do have a bit of a body odor problem, and it seems like now is a very good time to do something about it before this happens again."

If you want to talk about it BEFORE someone else starts in on her, you can speak to her privately, in as gentle a tone as possible, and say, "There's something I need to tell you, but don't know how to tell you without hurting your feelings. Please try not to get upset with me. I want to help you with this. The thing is, you have a strong body odor. I don't know if it's a medical problem or what, but it is starting to become a problem at school. I don't want anyone to make fun of you, so why don't we figure out what can be done about this now before anybody starts teasing you?"

Answer 7

Tell her: if she offends a friend with her odour she may very well offend others who won't have her interests at heart. And if it does damage your friendship...what sort of friendship is it, really, that she would let that happen? Or be subtle...buy her a new scented deodorant, and then get offended if she doesn't wear your gift! That way it will be you on the high ground and the issue will not be about her BO...

Answer 8

You could casually bring up the subject of what kind of soaps,deoderants and such that you use.. Then tell her that you love to try out new scents and such and invite her with you the next time you go shopping for such things..Just say something like I found this new scent of deoderant,soap etc i wanna try, you gotta smell how good it smells or something like that.

I dont know your age or anything but my teen daughter and her friends talk about new scents of deoderant and stuff they like all the time..And no my daughter is not stinky!! haha

Answer 9

If she's a real friend and you want her to stay as one you should find a suitable place and time to tell her, and make sure she knows that you are doing so because you want to be a real friend, and that you want to help her overcome the problem. Of course, you take the risk of landing youself with a big job to do - but that's what friends are for.

Answer 10

hey just tell her be nice and kind about it. you should tell her while you two are alone by yourself. tell her that you are not trying to be mean or embarrass her. tell her how girls have to have good hygein at least take a shower everyday. wear fresh panties, clean clothes.you want the little boys to like you. ask your freind what would she do if she was in your position. think about how the othr person feel. think out side the box. i know what your going through. im a 15 years-old teen.

Answer 11

If she always smells bad, then you need to talk about it.

but dont come out and say You Stinky!

Try just having a conversation one day about how it takes you forever in the shower because you have to do this and that and that and wash your hair, etc....start talking about what soap you use and how you have to put on deodorant every day or you get stinky

Maybe she just needs some tips