their dad and the rest of family. Bad weater bad traffic. 1 hour commute & the father was not going to bring them back so the kids asked if i could wait for them to bring them back. I agreed. This year I do not want to do this. Kids are 18-14 years old. How should i negotiate or just tell them straight out I cant. Dad is not able to bring them back .
2007-11-21 02:35:17 · 8 answers · asked by newcastle 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
My goodness, all these replies were awesome. I felt like the stress was relieved from all your answers and made me laugh too, thanks to all who responded. HAPPY THANKSGIVING & GOD BLESS YOU ALL. KEEP UP THE HELP -IT MADE A DIFFERENCE!
2007-11-21 03:28:33 · update #1
Isn't it your turn? tell them that they were with Dad last year, so this year they get to spend it with you. and if that doesn't work, tell them that you would rather not drive that long terrible commute. If I were you, I would talk to the father and tell him that it is unreasonable that he doesn't drive the kids to his house and drive them back. If he can't do it, let HIM explain to the kids why they aren't coming to his house!
2007-11-21 02:41:02 · answer #1 · answered by <3 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
What did you do? Sit in the car for 5 hours? HOLY COW what an imposition on you. Your ex-husband is a schmuck for not taking care of transportation and your kids were selfish to ask you to do it.
Does the 18 year old drive? Is it too far away for him to drive to Dad's? Maybe if the weather is ok, you could let him drive, with the understanding that if you think the weather is bad they won't be going.
It's Thanksgiving for you too. You shouldn't have to share it with the staff at McDonald's to accommodate him.
2007-11-21 12:19:20 · answer #2 · answered by Debdeb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is stated in the custody papers..I know my parents had holidays split up year to year..One year I was with dad on
x-mas and mom on Thanksgiving and the next visa versa...As the older we got we made it where we were able to be with both familes at different times. Do what you feel is right and what works for you..If he will not bring them back than tell him no. Happy holidays!
2007-11-21 11:11:47 · answer #3 · answered by Momma 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ask them how they'd feel about spending Thanksgiving with you this year instead of their dad, maybe. Or talk to the father about how he feel - maybe one of his neighbours can bring the kids back? There must be some way of compromising, because I don't think it should be left for you.
2007-11-21 10:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
My parents are divorced and we switch off thanksgivings. You need to tell the kids that its your turn to have them for Thanksgivng and they can go to their dads next year. You also need to call their father and tell him that if he wants them next year he needs to either pick up the kidsd, or bring them home. Happy Thanksgiving!
2007-11-21 12:14:00 · answer #5 · answered by no one 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them - put the ball in Dad's court to get them back somehow. Surely someone in "the rest of the family" can drive or put them on a bus?
2007-11-21 10:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by who me? 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just do not do it!
If we want to see my stepchildren, we have to drive 5 hours to get them and bring them back. The mom doesn't work or anything but will noy meet us or anything. She is an awful person. My husband pays a large amount of child support plus pays for insurance.
2007-11-21 10:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberly 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No wonder you are no longer married to him! I would have these arangements in the divorce decree under custody so this trauma doesn't happen to you!
He needs to pick them up so you can have a nice day, then you pick them up when they are ready to return.
2007-11-21 11:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by kittykris2002 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋