2007-11-21 01:57:56 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I ask this because there is many people, who are mostly girls, that I talk to who say they still havent experienced an "orgazam" and I'm just thinking to myself that they maybe have too much high expectations of it that what they experienced wasnt an orgazam, because I sure as hell know that I've experienced one and all by myself too...but I do think sometimes that sex is over-rated and I think that some people pretend that their sex life is so good but its actually **** but they just wanna act as if tho its all good, I had a friend who slept around alot and all that and then she came out one day and said, **** sex isnt that good I havent even had an orgazam, and I was just thinkin wtf all this time she was sleeping around and talking about sex like it was something so great and then she comes out and says that to me :S...twas weird...
2007-11-21 02:21:39 · update #1
Not at all.
I think that even if there is no orgasm, it's still a big deal. Sex isn't just an act, it's saying a lot of things to the person you are doing it with. For instance, you are saying:
-I want to make you feel something AMAZING
-I want to show you my body (something a lot of people are self conscious about, so it's a big step of trust for many)
-You are important to me, important enough that I want to share a secret part of my life with you
-and, for many, it says "I love you" in a different way than flower or making them dinner can.
Sex isn't about an orgasm, sex is about loving someone.
BUT... if you are having sex with someone you DON'T love, and it's just for fun... it still isn't over rated. Then, instead of expressing love and affection, it's just because it feels good! I mean... I don't know about you, but I've never has sex that didn't even feel good. Even without an orgasm, sex, or any sort of sexual act, still felt amazing.
I think that a lot of people just view sex wrong, and think it's all about an orgasm, when really its more like a road trip: not about the destination, it's about the journey.
2007-11-22 05:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by risks_(with a pessimist) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well... I'm an 18-year-old virgin... and I seem to be relatively well off without it... maybe the media justs puts too much emphasis on how great it is (and I'm sure it's pleasant), but the self-fulfilled prophecy works... people do it early because the media portrays people who have sex as the cool type or the non-losers... when in reality it's the people who have sex really early who end up with pretty troubling (if not miserable) lives... I'm just generalizing... so don't get offended. Possibly the fac that I'm a virgin doesn't give my statement too much validity... but still... I am able to survive well without it, so I can assure you that it's not as crucial to satisfaction as you might think...
2007-11-21 02:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got married in 1981, I was certain sex was very over-rated, as I sure couldn't understand what all the fuss was about. Then I came out in 1994, met my first girlfriend, and began to understand what all the fuss was about.
Is sex over-rated, well yes and no, totally depends on where you are at in your life.
2007-11-21 02:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by Aunt Henny Penny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,absolutely not! Sex is fun ,healthy and is a stress reliever . If everyone over 18 had sex once a day the world would be a lot happier.
2007-11-21 02:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by Thai 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
we need to have it is not the experience but it has an advantage to you if you experienced it and most of the time all girls can't forget about it because it is thier first time. in a case there are many type of sex that you should know before you do it...
2007-11-21 18:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by stanley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do, I have it with my wife when we want to, but everyone cant stop talking about it? there is more to live for than sex. The ones who are obssessed with that are missing a lot of good times in life.
2007-11-21 02:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by Michael C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah. a typical problem of neoliberalism. i dont see why we have to talk so much about sex. im not prude, but in todays society money and sex is the most important thing. everyone can **** with everyone, people have sex buddies, everyone has sex just for orgasms and its not important with whom they do it. and i think its bad. before sex was about love, not a competition like who can have more orgasms. and then people wonder why there are so many people with HIV.
2007-11-21 04:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol....yea...sex is sex....everything on this planet does it...we jus happen to be the species that can talk bout it...its jus sex....over rated completely...yea when ur young you wanna pound it all and brag about it..but this whole hook-up thing...people today take it like a hunter looks at there kill....the more the better you are..with all the S.T.D'S going around i'd sex is almost dangerous....sex is good..and makes you feel good..most of the time..but its not all that people say it is..most of the stories are jus that ..................stories...
2007-11-21 02:12:36 · answer #8 · answered by Rich D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I just think that some people have no sense of self worth and place all of there focus on sex for attention and instant gratification. For some its about if you have sex with me that means you want to be with me, etc. Sex, and a lot of it is great with someone or yourself, if you aren't focused just on that .
2007-11-21 02:05:29 · answer #9 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, not at all. It seems to be the new PC thing to say that, but not for me. It is one of the most important parts of a relationship for me. If the sex ain't good, I ain't staying around.
2007-11-21 02:06:04 · answer #10 · answered by FTW 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋