PLease help so confussed ride or not??

Question

I Have always loved horse riding and horses there so INcredible just no words can describe them as u no

But this year i have ahd some traggic things happen in my life
and led to me having depression...and my friend and i use to ride together she had her own horse i rode at a club....anyway when she spread lies about me around my school i wanted to get rid of everything that reminded me of her Including all my horse stuff
its all gone
including the lessons
and from time to time i think of all the fun im missing out on
and what i could have been doing
and i miss seeing the horses and being with them
Iv moved schools now
and life isnt so bad im getting over the self harm finally
and i was wonering is it time? should i ask my mum for riding lessons again?
im 15 by the way in yr 9 if that helps in any way oh and from australia
Thankyou xxx

Ohhh gosh i new someone would be stupid
no ready for it
My Pop and grandma got cryticlly ill in hospital
my sister got cancer
my friend hung himself
romours spread around school
parents and i hate eachother
brother moved out
happy
shall i tell you mopre
NO because its my buisness

Oh anthe friend thing would be enough on its own since she sent ppl to follow me home and stalk me and **** like that
and got her friends to coem round and try and bash me up!
this whennt on for 6 months i didnt leave the house for a hole one of those months
so be nice !

Answer 1

I want you to know the exact same happened to my daughter when she was 15. She and her "best friend" rode together every day at our barn and took lessons together and spend the night practically every night together and then they had a huge fight and pretty much stopped seeing each other. The friend left the barn and started doing very inappropriate things. My daughter did continue to go to the barn but she was soooo sad and kept saying how hard it was to ride without her. It was sooooooo hard to see her like that BUT she decided that her horses were very important to her and that she needed them as much as they needed her. I can't tell you how wonderful it was to see her just go into the field and cry with her horse -because its unconditional love from a horse. She and this friend are just now on speaking terms again (friendly to one another) after a year. That girl is not riding now but wishes she had continued because she misses the horses.

Sorry for the book. The point is, make yourself happy and if horses do that for you, be around them. Don't worry about others think about you or say about you. Its their problem, not yours.

Answer 2

Yes, ask your mom for riding lessons again and just find a barn that is in a different area where you won't run into people who knew the "old" you. Where you can start fresh. If you enjoy riding so much, it by itself can help you feel better about everything else in your life, aside from giving you a place to meet new people and start finding new friends. Remember though, the more competitive a barn is generally the more people are there for the stall space or the farm name, not the fellowship of the barn. Try to find a place that is quiet and has a devoted group of riders. Even if you find somewhere with some older riders (college students, young adults), they are likely going to be easier on you and more willing to be a friend at the barn than someone your age who may have some of the same insecurities that you are dealing with. I'm very sorry for whatever happened, and hopefully you can find a way to help yourself move on from it and use it as a tool to grow.

Answer 3

I know how you feel on the depression front as I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia a couple of years ago which is a chronic disease (got it for life) and depression is one of many systoms of this. I had to leave school 2 years ago because of it and study for my exams at home (I was 15 at the time). I had rumours spread about why I had left school-not very nice rumours so I can relate to you on that too.
To tell you the truth (and at the risk of sounding soppy) my horses got me through it. They were my reason for getting up in the morning and stopped me getting too used to being on my own as I had people to talk to at my livery yard who shared a common interest. Even just having a lesson once or twice a week will give you something to look forward to and maybe you could do some volunteer work in the evenings after school. Eventually this may lead to having a horse on loan/share and you'll see what I mean about them being good motivation to keep going! I can't imagine a life without horses now even though countless doctors have told me riding and having horses is too stressful... (doctors don't know everything!) I've broken my foot twice, broken my nose, cracked a few ribs and had someone sueing me (horse kicked them... long story) in the last few years and I'm still riding so I say get back into it and give it all you've got.
Good luck :)

Answer 4

That is a lot of stuff for a young girl like you to handle. I especially don't like the self harm part. Being a teenager is a very hard thing to get through. I'm 47 years old and was a teenager once upon a time, and I've raised two kids so I've seen the teen years from both sides. Believe me, it isn't any easier for your parents. Here is what I do know for sure. Your parents love you and want no more than for you to grow up a safe and happy productive member of society. What you don't know now but will realize later is that you don't always know what is best for you, your parents are only trying to keep you from making choices about your life that will have lifelong consequences. They don't hate you any more than you hate them. You may hate that they don't allow you to do things that you might want to do. But I doubt seriously that they hate you. Being a parent myself I know that sometimes we just don't know how to handle it when our sweet little children turn into hormone driven teens that seem to think they know everything and accuse us of not understanding them. Every parent as been a teenager once upon a time and actually had similar experiences with their own parents. Try just talking to them. Have a conversation, get to know them as people, not just your parents. Your mother would love to be able to talk you about your fears, your concerns for your future, the things that have you depressed...etc.

That being said....Riding a horse is one of the most therapeutic things you could possibly do. My best friend and riding buddy recently lost her daughter to cancer and a nice long trail ride is the best therapy for her. I always feel better about everything after I get off my horse. Sometimes just being around them is good therapy. I found out that a horses mane can absorb a lot of tears. Get out there and go for it...you won't regret it. Try to stay focused on the horses and not all the drama that can go on at the barn.

Answer 5

Ahh to be 15 again....
oh nm
Biting off ur nose to spite ur face... er something like that.
Not riding ur horse and enjoying all the fun things u did with ur freind is not a good idea. Ur missing out and she isnt. She is going on with her life while u started this self harm ****. Im glad ur over that now.. By all means ask Mum for lessons again. Try to get back into it again
Do things that u enjoy and make u feel good about urself.
This happened to me too also and just recently... I had a fight with a online "friend" and I couldnt bear to go back into the chatroom where we go.....but then realised I was the one missing out....b/c I had other "friends" there who didnt stab me in the back.now im back talking to those other ppl but it doesnt feel the same, And its so hard to NOT abuse her again but I can manage now.
Long story short glad ur over it and get back to doing what feels good fo r u

CHEERS
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IM me if u really need someone to talk to...addy in profile

CHEERS

Answer 6

You shouldn't base your happiness on what your friends do. They can be jerks, and that shouldn't affect you nearly as much as you said it did. On the other hand, horses never do such things. If you completely stopped riding because of a silly thing like that, then you probably weren't all that big of a horse lover. If I were you, I would get over your friend and definitely start riding again. Also, being around horses helps people recover from such things, especially the deaths of those close to us. I am very sorry for your losses.

Answer 7

The best thing about being around a horse is what they do for us on the inside. It seems like you really need to be around a horse! Ask to return to your lessons and also ask if you can volunteer at the stables to do even more.
Get strong and self confident. Learn who you are and being around horses will help you do this.

Answer 8

Try to find a way to be around horses. Volunteer some time at a stable helping out if at all possible. This could lead to some riding time. I know my life would have turned out completely different had it not been for my first Arabian Dublbubl (Bubbles). She helped me through a tough time when I was 14-15. I was in counselling for abuse I had been through, and my brother died from Muscular Dystrophy. Riding her was my way to escape and heal. God bless and good luck :-)

Answer 9

If horses bring you happiness, then you need to be around them. Find a way, get to another barn to ride, or just groom...sounds like you've been through hell - it is important to hang on to whatever brings peace to your heart, and if that is being around the horse, then find a way to do it and find some peace.

I hope that you are getting help with your depression, it is hard to struggle with. I know, I've been dealing with it too over much of the same it sounds like you have gone through.

Good luck, I hope you find happiness.

Answer 10

Absolutely the best thing you can do is focus your attention on the things you love. You are able to CHOOSE to separate the equine world from the events that surrounded it in the past, its all in the choices we make in our minds.

Believe it or not, our emotions lie to us alot, so focusing on what you love will help you train yourself to decide to not give a flip what others think. You are a unique and valuable person who has victim written across your forehead. You have to choose to change the victim mentality, and as you heal through the love the horses give you, you can do all that.

All that stuff you've endured is to build character and make you stronger, not destroy you, so choose to let it toughen you up as you learn to choose better friends and love those who you're care about through their crisis times. Its about growing up, and I can tell you that you have a special mission in life to be getting slammed like you have with hardships. Hold your head up and just grow through it all, you'll help many others in your future if you choose to grow and not PITY-PARTY, which only stops you from growing strong inside. Be Blessed!

And the person who said you don't really love horses is an immature ass, and needs to keep their opinions to themselves when responding to SOMEONE WHO IS ALREADY IN A FRAGILE STATE(...asshole.)